Nosey, much?

It sounds like he's trying to force you to invite guests that might not have otherwise been invited. I think you need to calmly explain to his that his isn't okay with you especially because you are paying for the wedding and he isn't.

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Yup, that’s sounds like a sneaky way for him to invite guests. Let him know that you have it handled.

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That is definitely a crossed boundary that is not acceptable. Contact the venue immediately and let them know to not give any information about the wedding or the venue except to you and fiancé only. Have a password if you need to.



Parents can host a family reunion picnic at another time if they want extra guests. Your weddings is not the appropriate time or place.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t even think about contacting the venue! Thank you so much for this advice!

Yep, I would decline the extra money. Make sure the venue knows that he's not part of the planning, and that they should not discuss it with him. Let him know that you have the guest list handled, and that extra guests cannot be accommodated. Don't apologize, and don't give reasons, or he will try to "solve" the problem.

Did he actually contact the venue or just go online and find the prices? My mom is super nosey like that as well and I’m sure she went online and found the price per person of our venue. I guess I don’t care because I’m used to her looking everything up. If he wants to pay for the people he what’s to invite as long as it doesn’t interfere with the capacity of your venue and who you want to invite I say let him pay for the ones he wants to invite. Yes it was a sneaky way of trying to invite people but maybe thing of it as guests you don’t have to pay for yourself but will get a gift from. And I know that sounds greedy but just try to spin it a different way in your head other than him just being nosey.