Not an Engagement Party, but a _______ Party!

I do BBQ!

@TackoLover exactly.

THANK YOU @TACKOLOVER!!! According to everyone else it's tacky as hell LOL to throw your own party but hey isn't he wedding a celebration in honor of yourself too?!

We are having a Bon fire and Beer party this weekend. We let family know it is the party before the party. But we leave for our DW in 7 days.

If you're throwing your own wedding guess that's tacky too?! According to some of you ladies definition it's a party in HONOR of yourselves? LOL SMH. So I guess most of you are eloping huh ;-) Again I'm thankful for the opinions and advice but those of you who feel the need to say "tacky" and how I'm the one upset when clearly I'm not, is beyond me.... some of you ladies seem more bothered that I'm commenting just like you're allowed to comment too :-) Thanks again to the ladies who really read my post and gave helpful, thoughtful, funny &/or constructive comments!

@GymRat glad you agree with Teal And I said in my comments that you're allowed to say what you want. Re read it if you like. FYI your wedding is a party IN HONOR OF YOU & FH. But throwing that isn't tacky as hell huh. Smh LOL. Guess honor has a different definition then or when you throw a bday party according to you. I don't mind the comments you're right I asked for everyone's thoughts but some of you are making a part b to the questions I asked. It's ok. I don't mind but what I do mind is rudeness that's all. Guess that's just me & since it's a forum and the WW guidelines don't specifically list that as a bad thing- have at it. Definitely happily agreeing to disagree. Thanks :-)

How is it complaining? LOL ok

I thanked everyone for the comments. Geesh you ladies are out for blood I see so I'll bow out. So serious lol smh. I said something about one lady's comment and now I'm complaining when other people reacted to a comment I directed to her? Umm ok. Again you have the right to and again I'm not bothered at all. Some of you seem more upset and bothered about this than me. AGAIN thanks again for ALL the comments

@FutureMrsV I have nothing to add to the content of the discussion other than you are my kinda girl! well done

This app annoys my soul sometimes lol. Anywho... People throw unnecessary parties in their honor all the time (birthday gatherings anyone?). Everything isn't a gift grabbing and tacky because you (general you) wouldn't do it. Grace and peace!

In general, I am not a fan of engagement parties .. but I am not everyone so who cares what i say ...

Just have a small party, take a few people out to din din .. whatever tickles your fancy. You don't need a label on it. Just celebrate for the sake of wanting everyone to have a night to enjoy everyone's company and see that they are still in good company and in good health.

No one is bothered that you're commenting. They're bothered because you made a post on a public forum, then are getting mad about the responses that you're receiving. Also, I think you're bothered by the use of the word tacky - so yea, you do seem mildly upset cause ya keep bringing it up.

To answer your question: the reason why some people view throwing a party in honor of yourself as classless (since you hate the word tacky so much) is because these parties are gift giving events (i.e., engagement party, bridal shower). What it is essentially saying is, "here, I'm having a party where you have to bring me a gift." See? Now, I personally do not have an issue with someone throwing their own birthday party because at my age and social circle there is no expectation of a gift.

Regarding a wedding: it's not a gift giving event contrary to popular belief. BUT, it is customary to bring one. Also, while the ceremony is indeed about you and your soon-to-be, the reception is all about your guests; it's to thank them for coming. So it's about THEM.

Does that make sense to you now?

Tacko:

business launch party – not a gift giving event.

Vow renewal: falls in the category of a wedding (see above).

Divorce party: first, where they do that at? Second, I don’t see that as a gift giving party unless I’m delivering Idris Elba on a platter.

Retirement party: we threw my mother one, she didn’t throw one herself, and not a single person gave a gift. My brother covered dinner/drinks for 60 people at a restaurant. My Aunt’s job hosted one for her. She did not host it herself.

Going away party: don’t view that as a gift giving event

Housewarming: do people still do those?

Book release party: now you’re reaching.

Also, I'm going to deduce that it's the forum that annoys you, not the app. You do have the option to delete your account and the app though...

Good day. Stay Blessed.

Are there any holidays coming up around the time you would like to host it? For example Memorial Day BBQ and announce at your party to others in conversation that the wedding is still on! I'm not sure what holidays are coming up around when you want to have it.

It's ta-ko but cool pic bro. At least get one without the watermarks. That's tacky looking.

@tacko are you a comedian? Lol serious question you are hilarious

@JAMEENA H. :-) LOL THANKS

@jameena no lol. But thanks. @kate lies. fairytales and fallacies.

@gymrat: She didn't like some comments to her post. She has the right to disagree and she can do what she likes as it's her party/event. As sponge bob says below:

Was "stay in the gym" supposed to be an insult to @GymRat? God forbid someone has a healthy hobby, right?