Not attending Wedding send a gift?

Idk what the norm is, but I send a gift when I'm invited regardless of if I attend.

It's up to you. If you want to send them a gift, then send one. If you don't want to give them a gift, you are not obligated to send one.

From my upper middle class Jewish background, I've been taught that you should send a gift regardless of whether you attend the wedding. Again, my background. I'm pretty sure none of my FH's family will think to get gifts even if they do attend.

I always send a gift even if I can't make it.

For me, it depends on the relationship.

I couldn't make it to my cousin's wedding, but sent a gift anyways. I was always told that you should send one even if you can't make it.

I send a gift

I usually still send one

I always send a gift if I can't make it to the wedding. I learned this may not be the norm after we had 15 no-shows who RSVP-ed "yes" and didn't send a text, email, card, or gift.

I generally send a gift if I get an invitation to the wedding. I guess if it were a random coworker I wouldn't, but I really don't get invited to weddings by people I don't know well or aren't family.

I always send a gift. Sometimes smaller than what I would give if I attended, but then again if I'm not attending I'm probably not as close (hence not working out a way to attend).

I learned at my wedding last month that not only do others not always send a gift when they decline, but some don't even bring a gift or card when they show up.

If I'm close to the person but I have a previous commitment I'll send a gift from their registry and a card. If it's someone I haven't seen in over 5 years like a distant relative I send a card and sometimes a check. However, if I'm invited to a wedding and I'd like to attend but the bride does something to hurt our friendship prior to my RSVP, I'll stay home with my handbag shut. Depends on the situation and your relationship to the couple. In most instances I'd say to send a card at the very least.

Just for the record, that 'gift' should not be a live animal.....

Celia I feel like there is more to that story....

I'll usually send a gift, but like, an ACTUAL gift, not cash like I usually would if I were attending a wedding in person.

But generosity of the gift definitely depends on a variety of factors

Depends on who it is. If I'm really close and wish I could be there I'll send a gift. If I'm not missing out then no gift. If it's family... I have yet to be invited to a family member's wedding where I wasn't a minor and couldn't go so no advice there. I'd probably send something

I almost always send a gift if I can't go. I don't think it's the norm though because the majority of our declines did not send a gift.

Yes

If it were the norm to send a gift even if you can't attend, a lot of couples would invite few hundred extra people they know can't attend to score extra loot.

I always send a gift.