Not being mic’ed during ceremony?

My friends wedding was not miked and ended up being extremely windy. It was impossible to hear the ceremony and just felt weird to be there. Like why even include us there if we cant hear? Now planning my own wedding I understand that there are sacrifices you need to make for your own happiness. If one of them is not being miked, then more power to you

Yeah we had a mic for the officiant and my husband was mic'ed....even though they had a mic and I wasnt far away, it was more difficult to hear me than to hear either of them. You have to remember you will also most likely be nervous and very few people get louder when nervous and emotional, most are a little more soft spoken when trying not to cry etc.

Maybe do your personal ones at a first look or touch or in a card, have a private moment for you two, and then it will be easier for him?

View Quoted Comment Right?!?!?

luckily ours is indoors, so we shouldn’t have that problem. And it’s a ballroom, so I’m sure it will echo a bit. But I agree, it feels like why did we invite all these people, if they can’t even hear what we’re saying???

My friends wedding wasn’t mic’d and we were sitting a few rows back and couldn’t hear. I mean, we knew what was goin on up there, paid attention to the giving of rings and then the I Do and kiss. It wasn’t weird. It was actually pretty intimate. I’m getting married 9/15 and our ceremony will not be mic’d either.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately, he’s very adamant about not doing a mic. He said he would only compromise doing personal vows if there is absolutely no mic

View Quoted Comment Well that makes me feel a bit better! Lol. Hopefully our guests will feel the same way!

My middle daughter's wedding was last Saturday. They had nearly 200 people at the ceremony in a large catholic church. The Priest had a mic, but neither my daughter or SIL had one. When they did the vows, the Priest told them no one could hear and made them speak up. It was actually pretty funny and everyone laughed. That seemed to calm both their nerves and they were able to say their vows loudly so all could hear. My daughter was uneasy about being in front of everyone, but she focused only on her husband and that seemed to help a lot. Best of luck to you both!

We are not writing vows and I do not plan on using a mic - our pastor will though. I personally don’t mind not being able to hear the vows at someones wedding - I think its a personal thing, and I don’t think that you have to hear every single thing, that is between the couple. The people who really want to hear us (moms, dads, etc) are going to be on the front row, and so they will hear. I have actually been to one wedding where the groom was wearing a mic and was sobbing the whole time - it was so gross to hear him sucking in snot and he ended up actually taking it off! It was sweet that he had so much emotion, but it was kind of embarassing for him I’m sure. I think its up to you guys and if he is already feeling a little uncomfortable with the whole thing, and has already compromised to something he didn’t agree with, maybe you should compromise too....

A so I have seen some videographers ask if you want the groom mic’d, and I might be wrong - but I think its just connected to the camera so they can head your vows for that, but then not for everyone else to hear? Not sure, but I think they did that at my cousins wedding....

No one will be able to hear anything and they will be let down. I have been to unmic’ed weddings and couldn’t hear a thing and it was annoying. That said, I certainly never said a word to the couple about it!

youre inviting people to witness your ceremony, so you should let them hear you! If privacy is a big concern though, consider exchanging your self written vows in private or on paper just before or after the “public” ceremony. And at the ceremony, you could stick to the traditional vows so it would be more comfortable for him— some sort of compromise.

What about compromising by using a mic and traditional vows? Your FH and you could share your personal thoughts in private like during a first look or after the reception is over? My FH is also quite private so we're sticking with traditional vows for the ceremony. I would have chosen to write our own so I totally get how you feel but I want him to be as comfortable as possible at his wedding ceremony.

Oh to add, my nephew and his wife did personal vows that they wrote down and gave each other before the ceremony during their first look. They sat back to back and read them. It was captured by their photographer and was absolutely beautiful. For the ceremony they stuck with traditional vows. Maybe consider something like this which might make your FH more comfortable.

View Quoted Comment I think there is a very high chance your guests won't hear anything which would be disappointing (for them and you). I'd consider a different compromise, will he wear a mic if you read standard vows? You could then recite your own written vows in a private ceremony just the two of you immediately before the ceremony (perhaps during a first look) or you could exchange them in the form of a love letter if you don't want to see each other.

I'd rather have everyone we invited hear us even if it meant not writing our own vows otherwise why invite them.

Have to agree with McSkipper on this one. It's irritating to me when I can't hear. Sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle but you really have to respect FH's wishes, it's his day too. I think at the end of the day, if writing your own vows is that important to you, than you have to go un-mic'd. At least he compromised and that says a lot.

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Oooh, that's a great solution.

I think I may just stick with our personal vows with no mic, because it’s like the #1 most important thing to me for the whole wedding.

I really despise traditional vows and knew it was something I didn’t want to do.

I am of the opinion that guests come to hear you take your vows to each other. If they can't hear, what was the point of them coming. But my FH is the exact same. We are writing our own (well we are writing one set of vows that we each say so we are saying the same thing) and he wants to have the pastor say it then us echo (like what is done if you dont write your own). That way everyone can hear our vows without hearing us. I still want everyone to hear us talk. Trying to convince him...

Our pastor will have a mic and we most likely won't - we are doing the repeating vows so people will know what we are saying - I hope!

No one had a mic last time and no one said a word. Really in poor taste for a guest to complain either way.

Okay, compromise. Write your own simple vows, nothing too mushy, so that it's not too personal to have people hear. THEN exchange much more personal letters with each other. To be opened on your first anniversary. They say the first year is the hardest so it will be a beautiful moment to look forward to.

Here’s what my FH and I are doing for the compromise- the EXACT same scenerio. I only wanted to write our own vows, he doesn’t want to and gets horrid stage fright, and forget about the mic, I couldn’t get him to do that if I wanted to. We are writing our full vows, then shortening them to be repeat after me style. We will give the personal vows to the officiant to read (into his mic) and we will repeat our self-written vows to each other. Then that night we will read our full vows to each other.