Not Changing My Last Name

I am changing my last name only because he has a hard time spelling my current last name. But I've been putting his last name on Christmas cards and other things that have been mailed out the last 2 years. My mother asked me if I was going to keep my last name or even do a hyphen with the pair, but I think they look funny lol. But on paper or socially do what you want to do!

Very insensitive. I am changing my name and my FH would really be upset if I didn't because hes old fashioned and wants his lineage to be carried down (his parents only had him so hes the last name sake). Its not other peoples decisions and I would tell them that flat out

I am changing mine and its a good thing too. My in-laws who really love me would be super disappointed if i were not changing my last name. They already have me calling them mom and pops and this was one of the first things they asked about after engagement. I'm fairly certain I would be getting a tremendous amount of flack if i didn't change my last name.

There are very much in the wrong though for not accepting your decision.

Yep, same here! I'm changing my name legally, but I honestly will never use it unless I need to sign for something. Professionally and socially, I'm still going by my maiden name. But OH MY GOSH, not even that's enough for some people.

While keeping my anonymity on this site, my parents' basically made my first name and last name a play-on-words when they named me. It annoyed me when I was younger, but now that I'm a working professional it's kind of become my brand. I'm very proud that people in my industry recognize my name, so I wanted to keep it as-is professionally. I thought my parents would agree and be proud of that... NOPE! They have given me so much crap about it, and they're not super old-fashioned! Even my in-laws made some comment when my FH told them I'd take his last name but keep my maiden name professionally! And everyone at work has asked what my new last name will be over and over, assuming I am changing it. I can't imagine what it's like for you when you're not changing your name at all -- I thought I was being diplomatic and compromising!

In the end, it's none of their business. That's what I keep telling myself. You don't owe them any sort of explanation either. You're not changing your name -- end of story. That's horrendous that they're sending you monogrammed stuff under that assumption, especially if there's some ulterior motive behind it. (Also... what's the plan there? If you see your first initial paired with a NEW initial, you'll change your mind...?) If they try to start a debate, just tell them it's your decision and you've already thought about it. It truly amazes me that it's 2019 and people still have a hard time accepting that some women just don't change their name.

It’s nobody’s business but your own! Stand your ground and correct them as long as it takes. PS I hate monogrammed things lol

I’m not planning on changing at present. We have been gifted things with FH’s last name on it. And people have squealed about me being Mrs. HisLastName. If they mention it, I’ll correct them. But for gifts etc I just accept with a smile. I’m okay with people occasionally thinking I took his last name as long as legally it’s still my maiden.