My thinking is that if I am not in the wedding party then I am probably not very important to the friend and it probably is not worth me spending $1000+ to attend as just another guest.
Recently I was invited to the wedding of one of my best friends from college. This is someone who I was confident I would not just be a groomsman, but possibly a contender for best man. We lived together for several years and were very close for all of those years. We've maintained a close friendship since.
But I've since found out that I am not even a groomsman. He has chosen only people who he knew before he met me. The one thing that has given me some relief is that no one else from our friend group is in the wedding party either. In fact, some were not even invited.
So now I'm stuck feeling a bit hurt that I'm not a groomsman, and I'm not sure if it's worth spending so much time and money to travel somewhere for a one-night event.
I hate to come off as entitled, but I am hurt and I'm really struggling to decide if it is worth the money and time to go at all.
Any advice or thoughts are appreciated.