Not enjoying wedding planning

Hello All, I’m new here!


I’m getting married on March 19th, 2022. Recently, I’ve noticed that I’ve experienced no joy in my wedding planning and I’m actually dreading my wedding day. As we’re mailing out invitations, my parents and his parents are both helping us, but my parents are helping us significantly more. His parents have invited over 100, and my parents around 40. The groom tells me that my parents should invite more. (Trying to stick to 100 between parents).
***A little back story, his mom has made this wedding process HELL on me. Right before my bridal shower she started a fight through text and told me “Kill your self I will not be at your wedding or bridal showe”***
We went through an awful rent to own process. When it failed, my parents offered to let us live with them, free of charge. They help us in any way possible.
The future groom and I have a 3 year old daughter together. My parents are super helpful and watch her anytime we need. I am going away for my bachelorette party the last weekend in January and my mom has decided to watch her for me and skip the festivities. My mom & I are celebrating together at a later date before the wedding.

The groom feels as though my parents should watch her on the night of our wedding also so that his parents can enjoy themselves.
I’m feeling like this day is not about me and more about everyone partying. Him & I NEVER get time to ourselves. This is the one night we would like to enjoy ourselves, hangout with friends and family, & let loose.
My parents told me they would watch her for the night, I just don’t think it’s fair. They have already done so much for us and I think that it’s fair if one of his parents decide to take her for the night. I really want to enjoy my wedding night with them.
I’m just so torn, any thoughts.