Not even a card? I don't get it.

I also think that is odd...My Mom taught me to always bring a gift to a party (even if its just a hostess gift). ;/

We had maybe a dozen people who didn't get us anything, either. I still think it is strange, but in the end I figure...sure, it's custom, but it's not required, and at least they came and celebrated with us, which is the important part. So, like you said--oh well. But I was also surprised by who some of the people were.

That's awful ...I even send a gift when I can't attend a wedding ...

I'm perplexed because I couldn't attend an out of state wedding so I sent them a $60 cash gift and I still haven't received a thank you card. Not even a thank you on FB. And that was from August. It was a HoneyFund thing online so I know they have a record of who sent the money and when they received it. But, oh well. I was being nice.

That is strange that there is no card. But maybe they forgot your card at home? Maybe they didn't want to give an empty card because that's awkward?

A friend of mine just did this at 2 weddings we went to. She didn't bring anything, not even a card. I get she doesn't have a lot of extra cash, but she could still bring a card! Oh and she RSVP ed for 2 people and didn't bring a guest to either. So she actually cost the bride and groom extra $$!

That's odd - I'm sorry!! I would never go anywhere without at least taking a card. I love cards. Even if there wasn't anything in it I think I would be bummed if we didn't get cards with personal messages in them.

We had about 30 of 135 guests not even bring a card. We've received cards from 6 of them since the wedding. I found it extremely bizarre and a little insulting that they came to our wedding without so much as a "well wishes" card or anything. And the majority of the 30 people were family!

I'm putting together my BAM right now...but nearly NONE of my family even left a card. We also covered their lodging for 2 days, and 4 meals. Seriously...I don't understand

We had a LOT of that. I assumed it was because we told people not to bring gifts though. We got like 10 cards total with 65 guests.

Meh. I didn't get worked up over this. I give a card if I'm giving cash/gift card (which I usually do). If I wasn't giving a gift for some reason, I doubt I'd give just a card instead. I don't think anyone gave us just a card either but I didn't keep track.

I'm honestly not expecting much either, especially from family. Not that I'm expecting people to be rude, but they are just sort of clueless to the whole wedding thing, even if they are middle aged adults. It happens

Wth. That's so rude. I always give cards for everything.

First - go through all your wedding gifts & cards again. Seriously. We opened our gifts the day after our wedding and we were so excited we didn't record some of them correctly. This happened to three different gifts. Also, we received gifts up to a month after our wedding. Like KM said though, some people are just clueless so that's a possibility.

We had a few people not bring anything as well. I actually really like cards, especially wtih some words written. I also find it rather odd.

In my culture (Italian) it is extremely disrespectful to show up to any special occasion without some sort of gift. Now I know not everyone is the same in that way, but it seem very inconsiderate to show up without even a card to say, congratulations, Thank you for having us, well wishes etc. and it AMAZES me how common such inconsideration seems to be :p

I think it is rude. True a gift is a gift and nothing should be expected, but looking at it from the other side, wedding guest etiquette would suggest to ALWAYS bring a gift no matter the monetary value. Everyone knows weddings aren't cheap and it is customary to bring a gift. To me it is like not tipping in a restaurant. It's not required, and particular amount shouldn't be expected by the server, but it is customary in north america to leave something.

Sadly, I expect this will be the norm with most of FH's family. They are......interesting.

FH's family didn't bring gifts or cards, other than his grandmother...but they all travelled, so I'm giving them a pass. Though another portion of his family, who all travelled, did bring cards with 'flat' gifts inside.

The one that perplexes me the most is the one who showed up with more for a 1 year old than for our wedding (I've been friends with this couple for 10 years, and FH since he met them when we started dating). sigh...

That's hilarious about the one year old party. I'm sorry but that is so something that would bother me too. WTH.

Sorry that this happened to so many of you! I got at least a card from everyone.

I think it's odd/rude; however, we didn't receive a card or gift from several of our guests either.