Not feeling like a wedding😔

View Quoted Comment He's not really interested in the ceremony right now and wants it to be short and simple and then wants to do the cookout so I'm having a hard time over all of understanding why he wants to have a wedding in the first place. When technically the only thing in a common law marriage we don't meet is acknowledging to the public that we are married we live together we have joint accounts and everything else. I have talked to him about this and asked him if he would be okay if we just did the dinner thing he wants and just make an announcement to the family there that we are now going to be known as husband and wife at that point that would be the last step for us to make it legal..... He is now kinda pouting because I had the idea.

View Quoted Comment Sending hugs and hope it all works out. Sounds like you have your hands full

View Quoted Comment Thank you. We love each other and this is our first real point of disagreement in our relationship after years and I feel horrible because I don't feel like a bride and it makes him feel bad that is is bothering me that we can't come to an agreement yet when everything else in our lives work so well together. I really feel like I'm being a bit unreasonable but if I just go with it I will regret it in the end.

From your post and previous comments, it seems like you're the one who really wants an "Actual" wedding and he may have not really understood what all that entails. Although the priorities of a wedding are different for everyone. Probably should talk with him and get on the same page before moving forward. If you want to feel like a special bride and you aren't feeling like that right now, then something needs to be changed! Backyard weddings can be totally awesome, but with no music and grilling burgers - that doesn't sound very special. It does just sound like a family dinner. - which there's totally nothing wrong with if that's what you want, but it doesn't sound like it.

You and I are in the same boat. We too are clueless at this point. My grandmother says don't spend much money and make the day about me and my fiancé.

View Quoted Comment My whole thing right now is if we are just having a family dinner then call it that.

View Quoted Comment So far I’ve been calling it a back-yard party/dinner. Once we clear out mind and it gets more organized then we’ll have a specific name for it. Do as I am. So far a dinner. Parties require more food and decor and money.

View Quoted Comment Good Idea thanks

What would you feel more like a bride?