Not Invited...

I didn't invite my uncle. I told my mom I would invite him if she wanted me to. Nothing personal really, he's just not really part of my life and we were trying to keep it small.

I didn't invite a group of friends we used to be very close to. We went to all of their weddings and events but gradually we grew apart. I hadn't spoken to them in at least 5 yrs and I tortured myself over the decision, but ultimately it would have been awkward for all of us. I also didn't invite my dad's side of the family. I had planned on it, but our relationship was strained and when I found out he wasn't coming it didn't make sense to have them there. I've never been close to his side of the family so it was an easy decision. We made the decision early on not to invite people who we hadn't spoken to for 2yrs or more, and we didn't include children outside of the bridal party.

On my side: potentially my grandma and my uncle(my dads brother) and his wife. I am not extremely close but they're the only family I have where I live--however my dad hasn't talked to either party in about 15 years. My dads feelings come before theirs, and it being an *extremely* small event... I am leaning towards not inviting.

My biological mom and her husband. She very recently was invited back to my life-after a decade of being out of it. Husband is an alcoholic and abusive POS who I wouldn't want attending but I know she'd bring him. 0 amicability towards my dad and she has always had a grudge on my step-mom for marrying my dad. She missed my first wedding and as her only child, idk I'm torn on having her miss out on my 2nd but the drama her husband would likely bring

My FH doesn't want to invite his sister due to some old drama from their early 20s. Without inviting her, idk if FILs will make the travel to come (the UK to stateside). I would prefer she's invited for appearances sakes, since it's unlikely she'd attend unless FILs cover the cost. However, it is his guest list and his repercussions on what inviting/not inviting will do.

I'm not inviting my "best friend of 20 years" I put that in quotes cause "best friend" is now a loose term, since kindergarten we were inseparable. However, two years ago she told me she was planning to move to a different state, and I told her to let me know when she was planning on leaving and we could go get breakfast/dinner before she left, she upped and moved without telling me she was leaving, I found out from her Snapchat story. She also returns home frequently (based on Social Media, I'm 99% positive she moved back) but she hasn't contacted me besides congratulating me on my engagement on FaceBook. My mom held a Surprise Birthday Party for me last year on my 25th, she invited this friend and this friend didn't even have the courtesy to respond to my mom, on whether she would come or not, and my mom did ALOT for her growing up. My FH think's I'll regret not inviting her, but at this point she's made it clear I'm not important to her we haven't seen eachother in two years, and also haven't spoken, so I've made peace with my decision.

My FH wants to invite a kid out of obligation, he's the kid of two family friends of his parents who we are inviting. I don't like this kid, he will 100% do coke at our wedding and he is not someone my friend hangs out with regularly.

My parents have offered to pay for our wedding, so I'm trying to keep the guestlist at max 150 but with my FH's family alone we're way over it, I'm trying to convince him we don't need every obscure cousin that I've never met considering I have cousins that aren't even invited. We both come from big italian families, however my side is very "Don't invite obligations" while his is "Don't hurt feelings by not inviting obligations" if his parents offer to pay we'll reconsider, but we already have 4 sets of "family friends" of his parents that we "have to invite" that I'm giving in to.