Looking for some advice on what to do about a family member.
I am white and I am marrying into a Mexican family. I have an aunt who I love dearly, but is married to a truly racist, bigoted man. Most of my family does not like him, and many times he doesn’t come to Christmas/Thanksgiving and other events. My mom thinks he may not even come to the wedding. I think if he was invited, my aunt would make him attend. I truly don’t want him there, as I’ve heard him say derogatory things about all different groups, including Latino people in the past. There were times when visiting my aunt that he would try to get a reaction out of me by saying these bigoted things because he knows I’m on the complete opposite side of the political spectrum.
I am just not sure what to do, as I love my aunt but I truly do not want her husband there. If I don’t invite him, I think there will be issues with my aunt and my grandparents being upset with me for being rude. If he did come, I don’t think he would do anything outwardly offensive. It is more the principle of it, with me knowing his racist and bigoted views.
Unsure what to do.
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