Not inviting a plus one

View Quoted Comment You texted him and instigated this. Whatever he’s saying might not be ok, but you’re purposely in his face about something that in no way should have been talked about with him. This should have been dealt with by your FH and his cousin, at a time that was much closer to your wedding.

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Why? You're only hurting yourself by engaging.

You might want to consider counseling before you get married. It's not healthy to be this hung up on a ex. Not healthy for you, and 100% not healthy for your current relationship.

That’s a big mistake you made. Do you still have feelings for him? Have you been in contact with him lately?

View Quoted Comment That is rude of you to ask.

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Actually it's a kinda a valid question. You seem fixated on him.

View Quoted Comment Not only is it valid. We’re all correct that are fixated on him. I bet you met him since “the breakup”. Tell us on here what he’s staying.

View Quoted Comment It was rude of you to text him. There’s a reason etiquette says not to go out of your way to say who’s not invited. You’re living the consequences.

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This!!! Please text your cousin and apologize for handling this the way you did.

View Quoted Comment It’s my FH cousin. Oy vey I need to fix this before it gets out.

He did say he wanted to meet and talk about it. I didn’t respond.

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DO NOT GO MEET HIM OR RESPOND EVER. This will only make the situation worse.

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I disagree with this. You can't ignore him now when you're the one who basically opened Pandora's box.

You made this mess now you need to clean it up. First, I'd tell him that you would like to reach out to cousin before you meet with him. Then, I'd reach out to FHs cousin, tell her what you did, and tell her you'd like to sit down and discuss the situation. You need to deal with the repercussions of being impulsive.

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I see what you're saying. I think she also needs to let her FH know what's gone on at this point because it's only going to hurt him knowing what's happening behind his back. Maybe all 4 need to sit down and discuss?

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I would definitely be talking to FH first. Before the ex tells the cousin and he has to hear it from her.

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Oh 100% FH should be filled in.

So about that...FH doesn’t know that I have his number. I blocked his number before. FH knows that. I didn’t tell him I unblocked it.

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Now's the time to come clean I think. Your FH most likely will feel betrayed and have serious trust issues with you moving forward. The longer you wait to tell him the worse this might get, especially if he hears about this from someone else.

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You need to tell the truth.

Don’t you think he’ll feel betrayed by my actions?

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Yes, and he'll feel even more betrayed if/when he finds them out from his cousin instead of you.