Not inviting older sisters to bachelorette

View Quoted Comment Lol it isn’t really that serious...if it’s not something that you would do then cool. She stated multiple times that she doesn’t care and WANTS to do it, why continue to try and make her feel bad??

If it were me, I would have invited them and let them make the decision. If you talked to them & explained you had no expectation for them to go but wanted to include them, I doubt they would feel obligated.

View Quoted Comment But why not give her that option? Y'all are taking their option away. Some women need a mom/girl time vacation too.

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I don't believe in being this outwardly rude to guests. I follow etiquette because it cause less issues. Which she clearly now has.

Because she asked a question on a forum and then said "she doesn't feel guilty, so it must be okay." That is just not how moraily works.

Same situation sis. I think you should just do something sisterly like go get your nails done or a facial or spa day, casino, or dinner. Something like that instead. Then you wont feel guilty.

View Quoted Comment Because I have a good sense of what’s right and wrong? And if I am doing something wrong I do feel guilty about it, hence why I’m having this dilemma in the first place. Since my mom kept telling me just not to ask even though I wanted to that’s why I haven’t told them about it yet and why I’m having a hard time finding a way to tell them without them being upset. I don’t feel guilty over planning a girls and guys trip and picking up half the bill so my friends only have to spend what they are comfortable spending. And you can keep trying to make me feel guilty over not following “etiquette” but it’s just not gonna happen. Sorry.

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Then you must not have read my first reply to your post. You should have invited them and let them make the choice.

I know you won't change your mind. It's easy to spot.

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I think part of it is just a know your friends/family kind of thing. I KNOW my sister would feel out of place spending a weekend with 25 year old guys and gals so I would rather just do something special that we could enjoy together. On the flip side, she actually might feel guilty turning down her only sister's bachelorette party even though she has absolutely no interest in going. If she wants to do a girl's night out, I would be more than accommodating to free up some time for her.

Like OP, I do not want my bachelorette party to be the "typical" event either...just a fun weekend with friends and some of them happen to be in our wedding party. For me, this is the friend group that has days at the lake, camping trips, vacations, etc. together so an "outsider" would feel out of place.

View Quoted Comment Already asked them after someone suggested having another event that they could go to as well.

View Quoted Comment I was talking about you giving her slack about the whole her planning her own bachelorette party.

View Quoted Comment I love how she’s putting words in my mouth lol! I said I didn’t feel guilty about planning a trip for my friends, but clearly stated that I felt guilty not inviting my sisters. Luckily for me I know myself well enough to not give comments like that two thoughts.