Not looking forward to my bachelorette party

Hi guys,
So I’m in a bit of a bind. When i first chose my maid of honor and we started talking about my bachelorette party, I told her I wanted to go to Portland, OR for a night (I live an hour and a half south, in Eugene) or two in the city. Nothing crazy, just my girls and I being in the city and going to a nice dinner with drinks, and being able to walk around and shop. I’ve never wanted anything overly extravagant or spendy, but still something special and fun!
My maid of honor basically told me no, and that we’d be renting a cottage on the coast for a weekend in a town of mostly retired people. I told her again what I wanted, but she refuses to listen to me, bullies my bridesmaids, and throws a fit any time I try and tell her that this isn’t what I want.
On top of this, I have bridesmaids who are really tight on money, and she is making each of my 6 bridesmaids cough up over $150 each for the cost of the trip, which doesn’t include their own travel expenses. This doesn’t make sense to me because the cost to rent a house on Airbnb in that area is only about $100/night, we’re only eating out once (which is super disappointing being that it’s my BACHELORETTE PARTY) which each girl will have to pay for out of their own pocket, and she already told me that I’ll have to help pay for groceries and alcohol. One of my bridesmaids told her she couldn’t afford this and said she just wouldn’t be able to go, and she bullied her into setting up a “payment plan”. She even went as far as to push her into keeping it from me saying that telling me would just cause unecessary drama. I only found out about this because she made a passing comment to her boyfriend when they were at my house for dinner about not being able to afford something else.
With only a few weeks until the trip I’m dreading it more and more with each day. I’m jealous of the bachelor party trip my fiancé has planned, and just wish that she would care what I want. I don’t know what to do.
Do I just grin and bear it, and try and grudgingly get through the weekend? Or do I say something? I know she’s already booked the house but Airbnb does refund within a certain time period.
I also know that once we get past the wedding this friendship is more than likely over