Not losing weight before the wedding...

For me personally, I don’t like how I look or feel. I was working out and I felt happy with how my body was starting to look. Then I had surgery and had to stop for a few months. So now I’m happy to be back at it again. I know FH loves me this way, but I’m doing this for me.

My dress is being altered to fit me but I'm using the wedding as "extra encouragement" to help me lose the weight I want to lose anyways

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Yeah it's so weird to me how one of the basic questions people seemed to ask after I got engaged was like....whens the wedding, are you joining a gym....

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OMG....what is wrong with people haha. I can't believe your coworkers are making comments like that.

My FH cousin got engaged shortly after we did and one of the first things she did was immediately join weight watchers and announce to everyone on FB that she was "getting in shape for the wedding"...personally she looks great to me either way (she is not overweight and even if she was, who cares?). It's just weird to me that that seems to be something that just 'goes along with wedding planning' for women.

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Omg haha you seem to have a great sense of humor about it!

I think either way you're fine. I had planned losing 5-10 lbs just so I felt a little more comfortable in my dress. Honestly, it's hard. At the end of the day all that matters is you're happy with yourself and how look on your big day. And obviously that the dress fits lol
You do you. Don't worry about what everyone else is telling you. I ordered my dress in my size. Lost 6lbs and it still for fine, just a little more comfortable.

I don't plan to. I've yo yo dieted my entire life, and got off that cycle four years ago. Found a man who loves me absolutely the way I am, and it is helping me love myself! :-) I'm excited for my wedding day and know I'm going to look amazing regardless of random numbers on a scale that mean something to someone else!

I am a nurse, and PT. And my first PT workplace after relocating away from school to home state, was in a building shared between rehab, and an aerobics and whatever is in fashion movement activities. Complete with dietician s focused on weight loss. And at wedding time, I was happy with what is a good weight for my build, and the fact that I hike in mountains, and lift a lot working as a PT. In excellent, well muscled shape to carry a 30 pound pack going miles uphill, riding a bike up mountain pass roads. And I got a constant barrage of crap from the dieticians, and fitness people. Their model is starved model look. And when they heard I was getting married, they went into overdrive with the comments, super harrassing to be constantly told how awful you look, and will only improve if you lose 20-25 pounds. Being 5'7", 135 pounds of muscle and good health was fine with me. Sadly, a year later, After a serious illness, in a coma a while, minor stroke damage after high temp, I went back there after a 4 month leave. After 3 months I actually took them to court for a restraining order. Another person, post cancer at age 30, and I, we're back at 30 pounds less than desired weight. Slowly creeping up, first 10 pounds took me 6 months to gain. And constant garbage, again, over letting myself " get overweight.". Court told them to ceSe and desist, and pulled the licenses of 2 dieticians, and the fitness facility, for 30 days. I do not understand why other people think it is their business what you weight. Or how full busted you are, naturally, and that it is cruel to push reduction surgery or weight loss on healthy people. And always so innocent, like they are trying to be helpful. When someone like me says MYOB fifty times, and a few others too , like pregnant woman whose doctor is okay with her weight gain, but these people not? . . . Be obsessive about your own weight if you want. But leave other people alone. Bullying is psychologically damaging. If you are happy with yourself, why are they on a mission to make you unhappy?

I totally get your perspective and very much agree. I'm with you, I got my dress to my measurements and am not changing the majority of my habits. Thankfully, I haven't had people ask me how much weight I'm losing.

I am however using the wedding as a bit of motivation to get back some of the muscle mass/tone I lost and to generally be healthier overall. These habits will last me well into my life. To me diets don't ever do you any good and people just end up in a yo-yo which isn't good on your health. I'd rather make small lifestyle changes to allow me to feel good about myself without the pressure!

Yes yes yes!

I'm athletic and not a tiny person but not a big person by any means. I've consistently been the same weight, size, shape for a couple years and recently I unintentionally lost about 5 lbs before trying on my wedding dress. It fit perfect and I'm now really hoping I don't gain or lose much more weight because then my dress won't be right on my wedding day.

If I was trying to drop a specific amount of weight to fit into a certain size or trying to have a tailor predict my exact size months from now while losing weight, I would be so stressed out!

Plus my guy proposed to me because he loves me, finds me sexy, and can picture being with me for the rest of his life with me just as I am, not because he's infatuated with the idea of a smaller version of me.

I totally do not think people should have to lose weight for a wedding. After my FH and I got engaged- the first thing people brought up was that brides lose weight for their weddings. I would consider my self very curvy and have always struggled with weight issues. I would love to lose weight to feel healthier. My sole focus is to create a healthier lifestyle for myself that is sustainable so that when I have kids I can help them build healthy habits. But I don’t plan to do any specific diet plan just for the wedding

I wasn't going to lose any weight for the wedding. My dress fit just perfect and I don't have money for alterations. But my recent checkup at the doctor's office resulted in a stern lecture about losing weight between now and March. My wedding is in February. I'm currently on a plan to lose about 10 lbs, but she wants me down 20. I absolutely cannot lose 20 lbs and still fit into my dress and I do not have money to get it altered or to buy a new one. I'm devastated. My health is important, I know. FH said "I won't have a woman to marry if you don't follow dr's orders." I am planning on going vegetarian for the next few months, but won't start until this weekend. In the meantime I've just been crying about it every day so maybe I'll lose it in water weight. LOL.

I am completely with you.