Not opening gifts at couples shower - sign

So, I had never been to a bridal shower that people opened gifts at until my cousin, and then, best friend did it at theirs. It was super weird to me and my entire family. I don't plan on opening gifts at my shower. We will be dancing instead as that is the norm for us. I think opening gifts is a bit annoying and both brides mentioned also hated it. Also, if I'm going to be sending thank you's to all who sent a gift or attended than they're being acknowledged so why bother unboxing/boxing things for two hours. That's just a waste of time.

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I like this approach, a sign does seem rude. If you do have to have a sign just make it say something nice like "thank you for spending time with us today" and don't even mention the no gift opening thing

The cellophane thing is a bit odd but why are people so angry about not opening gifts? Truly watching someone open a bunch of gifts is super boring! Plain fun cutesy games! Especially since both bride and groom will be there it will probably be much more fun that way!

Thanks everyone for your input! Just in case anyone is curious, this is the sign I've put together. Whether FMIL uses it or not is up to her, I'm just doing what she asked me to.

shower sign

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Unpopular opinion here but I agree. If I was invited to a wedding shower (where we "shower" the bride with gifts) and I arrived to be met with a sign that says, "please put your gift over there, we are not opening them" I would ask myself, "Why am I here? To deliver a gift?"

It just sounds odd......

You will be the center of attention at both your shower and wedding - get used to it.

I read through these posts and thought about my earlier sentiments. I can see how some people are used to showers like this, and that's great. But think of it this way: If this many total strangers are offended and put-off by this idea, how do you think your guests will feel? Maybe you know your group and they won't be offended, and that's perfectly fine. But if this is not their custom, they will probably react like how we did, and that's definitely a mixed bag.

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You always have the best ideas for wording stuff! Genius, honestly lol

I haven't been on here for months, but for those who wanted to know how it went, everyone loved it. The shower was amazing and EVERYONE commented either during or in the weeks after that they were so happy they didn't have to sit through gift opening. Everyone especially loved the thank you notes with photos inside!

I didn't open gifts, my Bm's when they sent out the invite, asked for any gift brought to the shower be wrapped in clear. It worked out well and so many people when they were saying goodbye, THANKED me for not making them sit through that dreaded hour of opening.