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Not separating day before wedding

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Taylor, on March 20, 2022 at 11:12 AM

Hello! For anyone already living with their partner before being married, did you decide to separate from your partner day before? Anyone give you qualms about not? My fiancé and I are having a wedding a few hours away and we weren’t planning to separate until we have to get ready. We’re staying in a hotel together the night before and will drive over together the morning of. My mother and my sister were both surprised that we’re going to stay together and said that we’re jinxing our marriage. My fiancé and I are not superstitious people and don’t think any of that matters. No matter what we’re going to stick to this as we want to be excited together the day before and the morning of but did anybody else make this choice and did anyone tell you that you should reconsider?

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Super February 2022
Grace · on March 21, 2022 at 3:54 PM
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We didn't separate until the morning of our wedding. We stared at an Airbnb with my siblings that night and my brother drove my husband over to the venue when my sister and I stared to get ready. My husband didn't want to see any of my wedding look until I was walking down the aisle. We got a good night's sleep the night before our wedding and it was well worth it!
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Super December 2021
Casey · on March 21, 2022 at 9:44 PM
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We sure didn't, just did business as usual the day before. Went to bed together, kissed good morning. Infact we practiced our first dance (for the first and only time, oops 😅😂) after I had hair and makeup done. Then we drove over together, maybe spent 45 minutes apart before the ceremony lol. No regrets, the moment felt just as special.
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Beginner October 2022
Portia · on March 21, 2022 at 10:35 PM
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Hello Taylor,
Of course its your decision to stay the night before the wedding with your honey, however I think that it makes it more exciting to stay a night apart. Then when you see each other again at the altar, it makes it kinda special.
My boyfriend and I live together, however I am staying in hotel room with my maid of honor.
Will he be there while you are prepping and getting ready for the wedding?
Good luck to you. Happy engagement.
Portia From DC (DMV) area
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Nicki · on March 21, 2022 at 11:05 PM
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I’m getting married in September and we plan on separating before midnight the night before. I’ll be having a sleepover in my hotel suite at the venue and he will be with his best man in the same hotel but on a different floor. Funny because my groom is freaking out about spending a night away from me and I’m looking forward to a sleepover with my girls and mom celebrating my last night as a single woman
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Dedicated May 2022
Tina · on March 22, 2022 at 1:16 AM
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We will be, we aren't superstitious, I just think for us it will add to the excitement, but everyone is different and you should do whatever makes you happy.
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Hilary · on March 22, 2022 at 6:44 AM
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We are in the same boat, been together 6 years and getting married at a resort and have the room for both nights and we are catching a lot of crap for wanting to stay together the night before. Once the morning comes I’ll send him on his way to the groomsmen’s suite. I also don’t see the big deal in it either, but I can see it both ways. I read an article that helped it said if your less anxious sleeping with your partner and it helps calm you down and get a better night sleep then disregard the superstitions.
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Super August 2022
Samantha · on March 22, 2022 at 10:44 AM
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The only reason FH and I are separating the night before is because we're having a destination wedding and all my bridesmaids will be sharing a suite Friday night. FH and his friends will go have his sort of bachelor party after our welcome dinner, and my BMs and I will do our own thing! Then I'll see him for our first look the day of 💛 I actually really love the new trend of couples getting ready together, and they make for some gorgeous and intimate photos - him buckling your shoes, you tying his tie, him zipping your dress. Honestly do whatever makes sense for you both!
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Beginner April 2022
Xy · on March 22, 2022 at 11:26 AM
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We are separating the evening before. Neither of us are superstitious (I actually had no idea that it was a “jinx” 🤷🏻‍♀️), we just want the build up of anticipation. We actually won’t be communicating at all between rehearsal dinner & aisle (no texts, but we will exchange letters). I wish we could be apart for longer but it isn’t practical.
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Savvy April 2022
Gomez · on March 22, 2022 at 11:30 AM
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We are not. We’ve been living together for several years. And the same with me, I can’t sleep if he’s not there. I believe that tradition would be more for people who haven’t lived together and also like they said purity. We’re just gonna get up early. I’m gonna shower and head down to the location where I’m getting ready yet. And same with him .
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Tonia · on March 22, 2022 at 11:55 AM
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Hello, Our wedding day has not come yet but we did make the choice to separate and have since changed our mind. My fiance and I have been together for 24 years, and have lived together 22 of those years. Originally we had decided to try to stay traditional and separate the night before the wedding. I was going to drive an hour away and go stay with my mom, since this would make her happy. Then as our wedding planning progressed and we booked our venue and got details we changed our minds. The venue we chose requires us to come in and decorate before the ceremony since we are not using their things. The venue is 30 min from my house and an hour and 30 min from my moms. By the time we finish setting up the venue I'll have just enough time to shower and eat lunch before having to return to the venue to get ready. So we have decided that the smart option is to stay home where I'm closer. We have caught a little grief about this mainly from his mother but we are standing our ground and continuing to use convenience and timing as our argument.
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Dedicated October 2023
Ebonie · on March 22, 2022 at 12:04 PM
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Hi how are you? I live with My Sweet Mario And we have decided to separate 3 days before our wedding day to make things a little dramatic. But I need that time to prepare for our wedding. I will be renting an air bnb in the mountains with my girls. There I will do hair and lashes and order take out all day. How relaxing is that?
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Just Said Yes February 2023
Sunsurraye · on March 22, 2022 at 12:52 PM
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I will because it just fun to do so.
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VIP October 2022
Taylor · on March 22, 2022 at 2:09 PM
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Yeah there’s a whole history behind it but in modern times most people do it for the suspense. Your letter exchange sounds cute. We’re literally attached at the hip and would hate to spend so much of our day we’ve been planning for and that’s about us….not even together or talking. We would be miserable not communicating until our first look. So I know this trend isn’t for us
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VIP October 2022
Taylor · on March 22, 2022 at 2:12 PM
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I love that! Sounds lovely
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VIP October 2022
Taylor · on March 22, 2022 at 2:15 PM
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I love the getting ready together idea. I’ve seen it done before. The only reason we’re not is because we want that moment of him seeing me done up for the first time when we do our first look but otherwise I would 100% be jumping on that bandwagon
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Super August 2022
Samantha · on March 22, 2022 at 2:16 PM
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Oh I absolutely understand!
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Dedicated March 2023
Mayene · on March 22, 2022 at 4:34 PM
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Been together with my partner for almost 8 years. We're sleeping in separate rooms but not because we think it would be a jinx, but just because we're going to have 2 hotel rooms booked and I'm bunking with my best friend who's flying in from out of state (esp. because their birthday is 2 days before the wedding) to spend more time with them!
If we weren't doing that, we wouldn't spend extra money to just have two separate rooms the night before. I don't think anyone's forcing us to, but it would probably also give my partner's parents peace of mind too. I think we have a harder time waking up on time if we're together though, so there's probably benefits of us sleeping separate, hahaha.
It's not weird if you stay together the night before, IMO.
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Dedicated January 2023
Nicole · on March 22, 2022 at 9:25 PM
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My wedding is in January. We already know what we’re doing. My parents house is 10 minutes from the church so I’ll be staying with them the night before and getting ready there with my bridesmaids. My fiancé will stay home for the night and then relocate to the hotel attached to the ballroom we’re having our reception at.
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Savvy April 2022
Ayla · on March 22, 2022 at 9:50 PM
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Do what you want to do! It's your day. Do what makes you and your partner happiest regardless of any (I'm assuming) unsolicited opinions.
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Just Said Yes October 2022
Loretta · on March 22, 2022 at 10:04 PM
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My first wedding we separated the night before. My second time around getting married we will separate in the morning.
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