Not separating day before wedding

We separated the night before, but purely for logistical reasons. I stayed at the hotel suite because I needed to wake up early since the hair and makeup artists were arriving at 8 am. My husband stayed at home because he wanted to sleep in longer

My future husband and I decided to separate the night before. after rehearsal dinner, he's gonna go back to our place and I am going to my parent's house to sleep and hangout there because the morning of is where everyone and I are getting ready so it's just easier if I'm already over there. we don't really follow old-school traditions but I found it'd just be easier if I sleep at my parents house and just transition into getting ready mode while I am already there. also it'll be a fun time to be away and build up the anticipation of seeing him at the altar. I'll probably Facetime him the night before just to say hi haha.

We have been planning everything out. It seems that our family and party are more bothered that we do not want to separate the night before simply because it is tradition. However, neither of us feels like it is needed. Like you, we live together. We will be traveling for our wedding so we are staying in a hotel the night before. We are separating to get ready and neither of us will be using our room to get ready in. Otherwise, I think I would be bummed out if I wasn't with him the night before. Typically we are not separated normally unless we have to travel for something separately.

We were thinking to separate but then I read this discussion, and yeah, seems absolutely not necessary!

The last time my husband and I saw each other in person before he saw me from the altar was after our rehearsal dinner. He dropped me off at the hotel down the street from our venue where most of our guests were staying and we had a honeymoon suite the following night, and then he went home. We Facetimed when he got home because the day before our wedding was his birthday, and I wanted to see him open his gifts before he went to bed. The next day, we called and texted to coordinate when my bridesmaids and I were going to the venue for pictures, and then he let me know when he was about to arrive with his own family and groomsmen. The venue had separate suite rooms for us to get ready in, so the girls and I hung out in our room for a couple hours before ceremony. It wasn't so much superstition as it was we knew we wouldn't get the moment back of him seeing me in my dress for the first time. I'd kept that dress under lock and key for two and a half years at that point. We also decided not to do a first look for that same reason. Thankfully it all worked out great! I wouldn't trade that look on his face when he finally saw me for anything in the world. My sister-in-law even took a reaction video, which she sent to me later.

My husband and I lived together for four years prior to getting married, so we didn't see any reason not to spend the night before/morning of our wedding together. We don't sleep as well when we are apart, so spending the night separately only to get a bad night's sleep and need to find/pay for a second bedroom just to follow some outdated tradition wasn't even something we considered. We stayed together the night before, had breakfast and lunch together the day of, and did some last minute venue prepping the morning of the wedding, then went our separate ways when it was time to get ready.

My fiancee and I were married for 26 years. We were living together, but I stayed with my sister the night before the wedding in 1980. We've been divorced for 14 years, and are remarrying this August. He just moved back in with me. We will not separate the night before the wedding, Seems a bit silly at this point. Superstitions aside; people shoud do what they want. Not what their families want. PERIOD.

Cathy Moray

My husband and I didn't separate before our wedding. Because of Covid, we did a smaller ceremony & reception locally at our church and in my parents' backyard. It made no sense (to us) to have one of us stay at a parents' house or hotel the night before. And honestly, it was fun having a "last night as fiances" night!

We've been living together for over twelve years, and we are having a destination wedding. No wedding parties to hang out with before the event, so we are getting ready together up to the point where I put my dress on. At that point, he is heading to the venue, and I'll be walking over about fifteen minutes later. The only people that know this plan are my future in-laws (because they are gifting us the hotel room). If anyone would care, it would be them, but they really don't seem to care. And if someone does eventually say something to us, I will revert to my new favorite phrase: "Well it's a good thing it's not your wedding!"