Okay so long winded explanation here, but the question is whether I can cut a groomsman's girlfriend out of the wedding...
SO the groomsman was dating one of my former bridesmaids...they had been together for about 3 years. He cheated on her with his new girlfriend. My bridesmaid backed out of the wedding to not be around him and this girl - totally get it, she's a reader now. This woman is an instigator. The one time I met her, she wanted to take pictures of us together to send to my former bridesmaid - HER WORDS. I told her no. She has a meltdown. Throws a drink. I ignore and go home. The next time I see her is at a bar with friends. She is telling everyone I hate her and that she wants to fight me. As an attorney, I know better than to get involved so I decide to ignore, and move away from the situation. At this point she is pushing shots on everyone. About an hour later, I notice my future sister in law is missing and I go to look for her. She is passed out on the bathroom floor. Turns out new girlfriend went to the bathroom with future sister because future sister wasn't feeling well. Long story short, they had an exchange, and she thought it was funny that future sister passed out while throwing up and LEFT HER THERE. In the meantime, she tells someone, again, she wants to fight me and former bridesmaid.
I don't need to go into more detail here...do I?
I gave all the bridal party plus ones, however, I do NOT want her there for fear of her causing a scene. How would you all handle this? I fully expect the groomsman to back out if we inform him she is not welcome.