Hey everyone! Just a little stressed out and having a hard time trying to please everyone! Wanting some advice on how to handle this situation...
My FBIL and his wife offered to throw us an engagement party. My mom offered to help them find a place to host it at since they were having trouble finding somewhere, and her friend lives in a gated community with a community center that's available to rent out. My FBIL and his wife were fine with her asking about it and getting information for them so they could make a decision on whether or not they wanted to rent that space for our party. Instead, my mom texted me and said she and her friend had booked it and it was $300. This whole time, I was under the impression that my mom was communicating all this with my FBIL and his wife.
This morning my FH tells me that his brother called saying that since my mom took this party over, that she can plan it and they would throw us a party later in the year. I'm kind of upset now because we don't even know if my mom can come to the party. (she lives in Chicago, and traveling is an iffy subject with work). Mom isn't expecting to plan anything for this party, and if she can't come...we'll have a venue with no food, drinks, or anything planned.
I get where my FBIL and his wife are coming from, and I agree with them. My mom shouldn't have booked the venue without speaking to them. But at the same time, no one has told my mom that they feel this way. So she's under the impression that everyone is fine with the venue and that she doesn't have to plan anything. Also, my feelings are hurt because my FH is insinuating that I KNEW my mom was doing this and that I was part of it.
I don't know...I'm just struggling to keep everyone happy and at this point, I don't want the party if it's a product of hurt feelings and miscommunication.