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Nicole
Savvy November 2020

November 2020- cancel?

Nicole, on May 12, 2020 at 12:09 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 36
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My wedding date is 11/6/20, and we want to wait til the summer and see what the COVID situation looks like then. But I think my biggest concern is really what the wedding atmosphere will be if we do keep the date. I dont want an awkwardly spaced out, mask wearing reception. At all. If it's looking like thats what it will be, we will cancel. And if there is a second wave like they are thinking, we may have to cancel anyways...


We are not willing to postpone the actual wedding (we've been engaged 2 years and are ready for the next chapter). So we decided if we cant have our original day, we will still get married with just immediate family at a courthouse on/around that day. We dont see the point in paying the money to have a reception/celebration at the venue several months down the road either.
I'm already a little upset about the loss of 2 specific moments- the first dance and the father daughter dance. And we have considered having an "I Do BBQ" in 2021 and inviting everyone from the original guest list, but it still doesnt have that wedding feel and makes me a little sad. Does anyone have any ideas on how we could still make this special if we do have to cancel? I know its about our love for eachother, which is why I am happy with the courthouse, but I want to be able to enjoy this moment with our friends and family as well.
P.S. Feel free to tell me I'm worrying over nothing to ease my anxiety 😅

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Latest activity by Danielle, on July 6, 2020 at 9:48 AM
  • Nicole
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Gosh I so feel you about the masks. That’s not at all what I want either. We’re supposed to get married 9.19.2020 and I’m worried about the atmosphere as well. As for how to celebrate I’ve seen a lot of ladies in comments mentioning having a Zoom meeting to include guests and maybe get those dances in. Also I have seen talks of a vow renewal a year later to include guests in person. Crazy crazy times. I hope all the worry is for nothing and we have the beautiful celebrations we originally planned, but if not may your plan b be just as special. ❤️
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  • Renee
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    I'm sorry you are feeling sad and having to make this decision. The only way to start thinking about the future is to decide whether you are going to cancel or postpone. Those are two different scenarios. Personally, I don't think you should cancel even if you have to postpone three. Postpoing gives you more options. Cancelling is final and you'll never know how the day could have turned out. Honestly with everything going on, your family will be delighted to see that you are still moving forward with the wedding whether 20 people or 200 people.

    I think you already answered your question. Don't postpone your date, get married with your close friends and family. Celebrate your love, you both deserve it. Wear your dress, twice. Eat cake, twice. Say I DO, twice. Dance with your husband and father, TWICE! How many brides get to say, well we had to postpone our reception but we got to celebrate our marriage TWICE! Only us 2020 brides! Be well and all the best to you! #LoveIsNotCancelled


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  • Renee
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    Oh and you are worrying over nothing!

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  • Nicole
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    Thank you! I like the idea of the zoom meeting so we can still include everyone, but obviously I'd rather we still get our original day... we will just have to see! We have to stay positive ❤
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  • Nicole
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    I think the biggest obstacle with postponing is more so with where we will be at in our lives in 2021... aka planning for baby number 1 to be on the way! So planning a do-over wedding as well as planning for a baby would just be too much for us. But a BBQ at my family's property is much easier and laid back. So really it comes down to the amount of stress I can put myself through... and I cant plan a wedding again. Even if most of the details are worked out.
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  • Renee
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    Yup, I understand! Good luck to you!

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  • E
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Youre totally worrying over nothing. im september bride in NY and im not even worrying. yes things will look different but if it means i can still have my wedding id be ok with these silly looking precautions.
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    I Feel You On The Masks, I Wouldnt Want Everyone Spaced Apart And Required To Wear Masks The Whole Time Either. I Do Think That It Is Too Soon To Decide On Anything Yet Though, Things Can Change Completely By Then.

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  • Mindy
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    I get it. We are supposed to be getting married November 21st and when everyone starts freaking out about the fall it throws my anxiety into overdrive.
    Most of my family is immune system compromised as it is which makes this all the more nerve wracking.
    My FH and I are waiting until August to see what the predictions are and then we will see what we need to do. Fingers crossed we all still get our special days! 🤞🏼
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  • Nicole
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    Thank you. I'll try to calm my anxious mind 🙈
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  • Nicole
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    I really hope things do change! I mean, a lot happened in the past few months, so hopefully things can change for the better in the next 6
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  • Nicole
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    I wasn't freaking out until a bunch of people starting asking if we had a plan b! My FH is also immune compromised, so we do have to consider that. I think we will also wait and decide in August
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  • Mindy
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    Yeah. My FH have already discussed our backup plan if necessary but I’ve been fortunate to not have a bunch of folks asking me about that.
    But all the discussions on WW and the talk about the fall is my stomach all tied up in knots.
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  • Nicole
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    Exactly! I wasn't all that worried until people brought it up and then I looked on her to see what people were saying 😅
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  • Taran
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    Hey date twin! I feel the exact same way. Everyone keeps looking at me like I'm crazy when I get upset about the thought of changing our plans because I want the celebration part with family and friends. The ceremony is so special, but in reality any day of the week my FH and I could get married and our ceremony would mean just as much. We're in Northeast TN and are still going ahead with our plans. We are actually sending our invitations out tomorrow. Crossing my fingers everything works out for all of us!

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  • Nicole
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    My FH keeps telling me to stop thinking about it, knowing very well that that isn't possible for me 😅 I know it would be special to us no matter what the situation is, as long as we are together. But I also know our family and friends would want to be there. I just feel like I need to have a plan b all figured out and I have nothing! We are going ahead with the planning in the meantime, but we are making sure to discuss with the vendors about refunds in case of cancellation. I just hope it all works out in the long run!
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  • Taran
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    Mine is the same! He's very nonchalant about it all, he has a very mellow approach to everything. Half the time I feel like I'm worrying too much and the other half I'm feeling like I'm not worrying enough. I think out plan is to see if the state or venue make restrictions, other than that we have no plan b

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  • Nicole
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    From what I’ve been hearing from my FBIL in Nashville things have been opening up so that sounds like it’s in your favor!
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  • Nicole
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    At least I know I'm not alone on that! I just know for sure that plan b is NOT planning a whole new wedding day 😅
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  • Taran
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    Fingers are crossed for everyone!

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