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Nicole
Savvy November 2020

November 2020- cancel?

Nicole, on May 12, 2020 at 12:09 AM

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My wedding date is 11/6/20, and we want to wait til the summer and see what the COVID situation looks like then. But I think my biggest concern is really what the wedding atmosphere will be if we do keep the date. I dont want an awkwardly spaced out, mask wearing reception. At all. If it's looking...
My wedding date is 11/6/20, and we want to wait til the summer and see what the COVID situation looks like then. But I think my biggest concern is really what the wedding atmosphere will be if we do keep the date. I dont want an awkwardly spaced out, mask wearing reception. At all. If it's looking like thats what it will be, we will cancel. And if there is a second wave like they are thinking, we may have to cancel anyways...


We are not willing to postpone the actual wedding (we've been engaged 2 years and are ready for the next chapter). So we decided if we cant have our original day, we will still get married with just immediate family at a courthouse on/around that day. We dont see the point in paying the money to have a reception/celebration at the venue several months down the road either.
I'm already a little upset about the loss of 2 specific moments- the first dance and the father daughter dance. And we have considered having an "I Do BBQ" in 2021 and inviting everyone from the original guest list, but it still doesnt have that wedding feel and makes me a little sad. Does anyone have any ideas on how we could still make this special if we do have to cancel? I know its about our love for eachother, which is why I am happy with the courthouse, but I want to be able to enjoy this moment with our friends and family as well.
P.S. Feel free to tell me I'm worrying over nothing to ease my anxiety 😅
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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
    Lindsay ·
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    We are doing the EXACT same thing!! We cancelled our July wedding and hoping to have an I DO bbq next year. We don’t want to keep up with saving for a venue but I agree I am so sad about the special moments were not having we are also eloping this July in my parents back yard like can my parents even walk me down the aisle the dances hugs all the special things and all the things I lost prior bachelorette bridal shower I’m just sad and I know how you feel.
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
    Nicole ·
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    It's good to know someone else is thinking the same thing! I feel almost guilty for not trying to do the whole big thing in 2021 if we cant have our original day, but it's just too much. I will miss all those moments, but it's not worth my sanity. Maybe 10 years down the road we can renew our vows 🤷‍♀️
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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    I wouldn't worry too much right now. I am 08.01.2020 and still moving forward. There is a ton of time between now and November! I would hold out. And if you're sad about not having a wedding or reception, don't give that up...

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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
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    We actually plan to renewal our vows on a cruise which will be our honey moon and we’ve invited our bridal party it was actually always our dream and they are mostly all on board with coming and pretty much making up for things on board as best as we can! So I rather take the money and put it towards that then this one day event. But it is still sad in the moment dealing with the current losses but hey I’ve realized you gotta do what makes you happy right and whoever supports you will support you!
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
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    I'm definitely not making any decisions yet! Probably will in August. But I'm not even sad about the wedding or reception really... I wanted a small courthouse wedding but my FH convinced me to have the big wedding because he knew I would want the dance with my dad. That and the dance with him are the main moments I want. Then I just feel guilty about not sharing the experience with others 🙈
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
    Nicole ·
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    That's really a fantastic idea! I LOVE it! Might even steal that idea 😉
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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
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    Yay!!!!Smiley smile a full week of happiness!
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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
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    Don't feel bad about that!! You should make sure you're having the day you want. Whether that is a small courthouse or a big one! It is your special day

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  • B
    Dedicated November 2020
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    I hear you on this. I don't see a point of postponing another year or two and putting our lives on hold as far as planning a family just because of a virus. But I will say I'm concerned for our Nov 15th wedding and the second wave and thinking maybe pushing it up to September in my parents beautiful backyard (that way masks won't be 100% mandated for pictures).. FH is not worried at all and is not rushing it just yet. That being said, I wouldn't be excited to get married on our date and plan a celebration.
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Exactly! I feel like late summer will be the only time to have a wedding in 2020. At least if what they are saying about a second wave actually happens. It's all so up in the air and I cant stand the uncertainty!!
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  • L
    Beginner November 2020
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    Getting married 11/13/20 and had talks with FH about canceling all together. We made 1 deposit payment and next one isn't until mid-June. 2021 isn't really an option for us as we wanted to start a family. We also don't feel it will be the same to have a reception months later as we are planning to get married this year with or without anyone. Social distancing seems it will stay strict here in CA & I can't imagine having it this year with limitations like no hugging, no dance floor, everyone wearing masks and not having everyone there. Yes it will be a loss on the deposit but trying to look on the other side as we can use the rest of the money we would've spent on a home, etc.. its all the unknown that is stressing us out! Thinking of all you brides! We need to lean on each other since no one else understands ❤
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
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    You're explaining EXACTLY what I'm feeling!! We dont have another deposit due until August so we plan to make the decision before then, but I certainly dont want a wedding without the usual close interaction. It just wouldnt be what I imagined for my wedding day and I dont want to spend all that money for it. I'm in upstate NY and things might be starting to open now, but on a very limited basis and social distancing/wearing masks is still required. So I'm sure it will be dragged out for a while, and then if there is a spike in the fall, I imagine they are going to shut everything down again.
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  • LukiLauren
    Savvy November 2020
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    I feel you on that. My date is November 14th and EVERYONE keeps asking me what we are going to do. I am going forward as planned and am being optimistic but that doesn't mean that I don't worry about it every day.

    We are also worried about where we will be within a year of our wedding date (possibly baby #1 on the way) and I don't want to postpone it either. We have decided to get married on our dat regardless and figure out the reception at a later time.

    We have made a facebook group for those who are asking about everything and questions moving forward. That way we can stream, post pics, etc. We have also posted a poll to see who would still come to the wedding if our date is still the original date. We also plan to have people come to the ceremony even if it is in their cars to celebrate and then do something afteward at the house with immediate family.

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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
    Nicole ·
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    YES! Postponing just wont work with what we have planned for next year, so we want to stay with the original day too. I'm really hoping that it all just works out fine, but it's impossible to know at this point. I like the car idea though! Everyone could just go to a park or something!
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  • LukiLauren
    Savvy November 2020
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    SO my FH also keeps telling me that "we will worry about it when we get there". But homegirl doesn't function that way, I am a planner.

    So my venue and chapel are open at half capacity which means that they will be functioning unless something happens. So I am more focused on the "adjustments" than rescheduling. I don't want to reschedule and don't plan on it any time soon. If anything I will get married and have one hell of a party later.

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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
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    I’m nov 14 too I live in Phoenix a current hot spot and not sure what will happen yet
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