November 2020 Weddings, Covid-19 What are we doing?

I Personally Would Continue To Plan As Normal. November Is A Long Ways Away And Theres Really No Telling What Will Happen By Then. Just Have A Plan B Just In Case. Good Luck

I wouldn’t cancel a November wedding, although I understand fully where you are coming from because it’s a scary time. However, this is all based off of speculation that it MAY come back during that time. There’s no knowing whether it will or won’t and if you cancel now for fear of the future, you lost money for nothing. It’s a really tough situation you’re in, and it seems like you have so much going on on top of it all with possibly moving to a new state. If you canceled, would you consider having your wedding in CT vs. NYC/NJ? I live in CT and we had a lot of options for really reasonable prices, so that may be something to consider as well! Best of luck, I feel for you, it’s such a difficult time and situation right now ☹️.

We postponed from June to Mid-December so I'm sure you'll be fine with November!! The shower in August is what I would keep an eye on honestly. Maybe speak with your MOH about a plan b shower for October? I would FOR SURE though order all your dresses ASAP as Covid is causing massive delays in dress ordering and you'll want to still have time for alterations.

I think you will be fine for your wedding and shower. I think that waiting this out is the hardest part right now. We don't know what is going to happen in the next 2 weeks. Keep planning like you are.

We're in a similar situation - November 7th wedding in north NJ. I'm swinging between "things are going to be fine, they HAVE to be better by the Fall" and "should we be looking at other dates?" My fiancé has started receiving pressure from his family (who are all local) to change it to Summer 2021. We booked this venue over a year in advance and are finally nearing the 200 days out mark ……. I struggle thinking about moving it to say June 2021 when it is only April 2020. I know it is much much worse for the Spring and Summer brides, but it is still stressful knowing what to do!

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That seems logical. I've got the ability to wait two weeks. Having the family and the bridesmaid drop back to back didn't help. My MOH seems to be the only one who's positive about it.

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I totally get it. I'm sure there are a lot of folks who are very nervous about the situation right now. I would lean on your MOH and FH right now; try to stay positive about this situation.

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We're wedding twins! I'm having mine the same day!

What are your thoughts about switching to the summer? I already have my dress and it's very much a winter/fall wedding dress. And even my bridesmaid dresses are winter/fall colors.

For me, it would be just canceling. Maybe years later when things are better to have an anniversary party, but the stress of this makes not want to replan it. I already had a headache when I found out my brother wasn't attending because his wife's sister was getting married the same day.

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The shower I'm less worried about. Because it's a garden party, we can always move and switch it. We're not responsible for 13K+ like we are with the wedding venue. My one cousin is getting married this year too and they canceled her bachelorette weekend, but still plan on getting married in August.

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We looked at venues in CT, and they were higher than we wanted to spend, but that might be his area.

Honestly, if I cancel, I cancel and he and I elope. I find this COVID-19 just is adding so much extra stress that it's not worth it. I still get to marry him.

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FH is leaning to canceling. He was stressed about money beforehand. My MOH is pretty logical, but she's also still working at this time. I'll try and stay calm and wait till closer to the end of the month.

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Yay Date Twins!

When we first got engaged we wanted a Summer 2020 wedding but by the time we started looking it felt like everything in NJ / NYC was booked up and we felt really lucky just get the Nov date. We didn't want a long engagement (got engaged Aug 2019) and having a November date felt like a struggle to begin with!

My dress leans Winter but I guess could be okay for the Summer...….but all the décor I have planned out in my head are fall themed. BM dresses are Navy which I guess can be okay for any season.

That is even more stressful you're figuring out whether to completely cancel or not. I sort of feel the same about not wanting to replan another wedding....I had no idea it was going to be this stressful and that was before the virus! And yes, at least you have a little more time to decide! That is crazy your SIL's sister has the same date!!!

View Quoted Comment Yes, the ones closer to NY tend to be more than central CT, so I’m sure the areas have a lot to do with it!


It stinks that there’s so much stress going on with this. I feel for everyone in this situation. But you’re right, the important part is being married!

We’re planning on getting married November 14, 2020 but I’m not completely sure if we’ll go through with it as planned. I’d like to think everything will be ok but you really don’t know. We have our second venue payment due on May 14. I was going to email our contact person and ask her what she thinks about doing a soft hold on a 2021 date. We wouldn’t cancel, just postpone, so that would be different as far as money is concerned. Ultimately we’d make a final decision by July. Take some time to think about it and really weigh your options you’ll know the right thing to do!

We were supposed to get married March 29 but pushed it to November 1. I feel like everyone in November and December will be fine....granted, you obviously never know until it happens, but that's still quite a few months away. We aren't worried about it.

Keep that backup plan and if you are really really nervous, nothing says you can't reschedule.

Getting married 11/13/20 and had talks with FH about canceling all together. We made 1 deposit payment and next one isn't until mid-May. 2021 isn't really an option for us as we wanted to start a family. We also don't feel it will be the same to have a reception months later as we are planning to get married this year with or without anyone. Social distancing seems it will stay strict here in CA & I can't imagine having it this year with limitations like no hugging, no dance floor, everyone wearing masks and not having everyone there. Yes it will be a loss on the deposit but trying to look on the other side as we can use the rest of the money we would've spent on a home, etc.. its all the unknown that is stressing us out! Thinking of all you brides! We need to lean on each other since no one else understands ❤