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Roni
Savvy November 2020

November 8th, 2020 Brides!!

Roni, on August 31, 2020 at 7:39 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8
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Hey everyone! A little bit about my situation. We had to make the heart wrenching decision to cancel our May 17th wedding which is in NY and we decided to move it to November 8th. That was the only date left in 2020 that me vendors could accommodate. Like many of you I was so broken over it but with hopes that in 6 months things HAD to be better and change..... we are now 68 days away and there are still some restrictions that are making me frustrated and to be honest, angry!
The 50 people restriction is absolutely terrible. We had a minimum of 150 before so to cut out 100 people is a pain! On top of that, now my venue says that are going to charge double per plate to make up for it. No dancing, I am finding away around this is no one will tell me to not dance with my father or my future husband.
And lastly, the 14 day travel quarantine. I think I am most angry with this. How are they able to tell people they HAVE to stay in a city that is not their home for 14 days?????? I’m sorry but not a lot of people have the money or the time off to stay in a different city, pay 14 days for hotels, and dining. How are they able to make up this rule and enforce it? One of my family is on the 14 day travel quarantine list and that would mean that they couldn’t come to my wedding. At this point rescheduling is NOT an option. I am not going through it for the 2nd time. I do not want a wedding now and then I party later. Once I am done with something I am done. We are waiting to decide on September 8th (to see if the travel quarantine lifted) to decide to either lose money on our venue (they won’t refund 100%) or to just go along with it and people who are on the restricted list to come to NY may have to live stream it. Just sick of the whole situation.

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Latest activity by Lindsay, on September 5, 2020 at 1:32 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Hi wedding twin. I am sorry because I know it is hard to have all the ideas of your dream day and then to have this situation going on. Do you think you could find a venue or maybe rent a club house somewhere to have the dancing part after?

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  • Roni
    Savvy November 2020
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    Hey! Yeah we may have to say bye to our deposit, which would hurt and then rent out something else that allows dancing and the 14 day travel quarantine is the biggest factor.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    The quarantine is out of your control as that is just a state requirement and there is not getting around that. I hope I am not being the downer on your parade but you do hear of people catching COVID at weddings so have all the dancing you want and have the day you want but I would still put in some safety protocols. I hate to do it but at my bridal brunch my MOH and I are requiring masks because I do not want to get sick and I do not want anyone else getting sick.

    I feel you on not wanting to postpone but the biggest the take away from the day is marrying your guy. I think if you keep that in mind that will bring the joy to your day. You will look beautiful and get to start your life with him as his wife. That is the part that makes me the most excited. Smiley smile

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    I'm sorry that everything is so catawampus.

    However, the quarantine is in place for a reason - my parents live in AZ, and my state only just took AZ off the quarantine list, but I probably won't see them until next year.

    This is tough on everyone, but the longer we flout the rules, the longer they will be in place.

    Please don't forget that a wedding in Maine didn't follow the rules, and half the guests got sick... and someone died. Don't let that be the legacy of your wedding.

    That said, rules may change by November. If they do not, consider postponing again, or having a mini ceremony and a big party next year.

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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    Girl I feel you, we moved my wedding for the same reason (I live in New England but the wedding is in the South). I wouldn't bank on Cuomo changing the restrictions on 9/8. (If you can't tell, I don't agree with any of them)

    It's true that some people have flouted the "rules" and people have gotten sick, which is something I thought about when I attended a wedding last weekend. The flipside of that is that plenty of people have weddings and other large events and are fine, and you don't hear about those because nothing comes of them.

    I'd postpone if I were you, just because of the stress.

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  • Lindsay
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    I’m so sorry this is happening and I totally understand your frustration and pain I had a backyard wedding and cut my 170 list to 30 people And then postponed my party to next year what I think upsets me the most is that I see NJ having normal weddings just outside in tents so it makes you wonder why NY can’t make certain accommodations as well. Of course the safety of others is priority But it does not make it any easier on a bride to make these decisions. I also feel you on not wanting to postpone I only did it because I didn’t have a chance to get my dress fitted but once again I have another year of worrying about what will happen and I truly just wish I could have worn my dress and been done and since my venue is inside and also in NY it’s a lot to worry about for another year. I know this may be so difficult but if you feel like picking another place or getting a tent somewhere to accommodate your needs would help put you at ease it may be worth looking into. No one wants to lose money especially for a service that was not given to us I totally know the feeling but it’s a very difficult situation and you have to do in heart what feels the best for you. Regardless you will be a beautiful bride and marrying who you love!
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  • Roni
    Savvy November 2020
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    We are making the decision to cancel our venue because of the 14 day travel quarantine travel. It sucks... but we are going to probably rent an Airbnb and have a backyard wedding. Like I said I will not postpone a second time lol. I just mentally and physically can’t, do this is the next best option to keep my date... and sanity.
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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
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    I don’t blame you at all!! I think that’s a great idea and it will be beautiful! All the best to you!
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