November Brides - Anyone Postponing?

We were in the same boat as you. Scheduled for November, 2020. We went back-and-forth about it, but ultimately decided it was safer to just postpone until next year. We didn’t want to live with the uncertainty for the next 4 to 6 months, didn’t want to leave our guests hanging wondering what was going on, didn’t want to put anybody in a position where they felt uncomfortable or unsafe attending (including ourselves!), and didn’t want to risk our vendors being booked up next fall. It’s disappointing to add another whole year onto our wait.. but I think it will be worth it!

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Thanks and I totally hear you! Did you reschedule for November 2021 or did you change your month?

View Quoted Comment We rescheduled to November 2021. The absolute only season I want to get married in is autumn. Plus, we wanted to get married on the anniversary of our first date (saves that whole discussion on “do we celebrate both anniversaries”? Lol)

Ours is October 17th, We Have No Plans On Canceling Or Rescheduling Unless We ABSOLUTELY Have To...I Think We'll Be Fine By Then.

Hi Rachael,

I'm so sorry you are going through this! While this is definitely an uncertain time, it seems like plenty of November couples are waiting to make postponement decisions. Of course, everyone's situation is different, so it never hurts to be proactive about plan B!

First things first, I recommend that you call or email your venue and see how they're handling November events. Things are changing daily, so keeping the lines of communication open is important. That way, you can make decisions in a timely fashion.

Plus, there are many resources on our website to help you navigate the serious decision to postpone your wedding: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide.

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Omg this comment all of this! I am definitely living in the uncertainty until July or August and it’s killing me to make the decision. Your comment really help put this in perspective for me. With postponing bare you still planning as normal or taking a break for now ?

View Quoted Comment I basically had everything planned already. All of our vendors have been booked, my dress has been ordered, all the decor has been purchased, etc. It was just a matter of contacting vendors and having them sent over a new contracts with our new date, and having our invites reprinted. We didn’t do save the dates the first time around, so we have decided to do fun pandemic themed save the dates so our guests know our new plan. Now I am just focusing on hopefully losing the weight I didn’t lose during our initial planning process LOL And now I have the opportunity to grow my hair out too! Pretty sure we are going to stick with everything we had already planned, but this extra year does give us the ability to reevaluate everything and see if there is anything we want to change, add, etc. And it also gives us another year to save even more money – which we will likely use to add all the fun extras we couldn’t afford before!

I have not postponed at this ver moment. Staying Hopeful that things will work out.

We decided to go ahead and postpone. Too much was uncertain and we have too many people who would be attending. We officially moved our date to November of 2021. Best of luck to everyone.

I'm really struggling with what to do. Our venue will not let us reschedule yet, and if we cancel, we would lose our deposit (over $4,000). I can't imagine we would be able to have a normal, 200 person wedding by November, and I'm worried our vendors won't have 2021 openings the longer we wait. My fiance is much more hopeful than I am and he just wants to wait and see what happens. I'm looking into "Plan B" options like a small backyard wedding, or an elopement style wedding with 20 guests. The "wait and see" approach is killing me!!

Fall bride here, (end of October) and we have a soft hold on a date in May 2021. I have a huge chunk of my guest list that has to fly from the NY/NJ/PA area, and there has already been whispers in my family about being hesitant to fly in the Fall, especially for the older aunts/uncles.

I would consider looking into a Plan B date, and then consider deciding to go forward with your Plan B date or not BEFORE you send out your invites for your original date.

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Hi Tiffani,

Sometimes the waiting and seeing adds more stress and anxiety. Remember, this is suppose to be a fun time. Make the alternate what you imagine your day to be. If the dream has changed to a small intimate affair then plan away, but if you still dream of that big event - postpone and wait. This way you will have no regrets. Start contacting your vendors and see what availability they may have in 2021. I can honestly say, all my vendors were fantastic and agreed with our choice to postpone. The sooner you reach out, the higher probability you will have in securing the same team for the alternate date.

With regards to your venue, shame on them. They are in the business of customer service and no one could have predicted a pandemic. I would comb through that contract and search for a clause that addresses that - you might have recourse.

I have found in this process, that we under estimate peace of mind, if you are having such anxiety then to me, you have made your choice.

Best of Luck and stay well!