Number of invitees to a bachelorette party?

Wait, 33 people for a bachelorette party? Do you mean bridal shower?

That is a huge amount of people! I gave my MOH a list of 12. That includes her and the three other bridesmaids then 8 close friends. I thought that my 12 actually seemed a bit high.

HOLY CRAP. Thats way too many lol.

Agree with @Magnolia5 - is this a bachelorette party or bridal shower?

I would say 10+ is a lot for a bachelorette party. The numbers you are giving are more of a bridal shower guest list.

33 is far too many. I'd get that down to under 20.

33 is even way too many for a bachelorette!

33 is crazy. 55 is BEYOND ABSURD.

When I was asked for a list for my bach, there were 13 names on it, and 10 of 13 attended. For me, it was the perfect size. I guess to each their own, but I've never heard of a bachelorette party with more than 20 or so people. I went on a Vegas bach trip and there were 23 girls, including the bride, and I thought that was a huge group, too big, in fact. That was the biggest bach party I've been to.

I'm guessing you're the bridesmaid in this scenario? Sometimes one of your "jobs" as a BM is to check the bride when her expectations are unrealistic. I was a BM in my BFF's wedding, which was a DW in DR, and when she said she wanted to go to Vegas for her bach, I told her she can't ask people to do that on top of a DW, that it was just not fair to everyone. She immediately said, you know what, you're absolutely right, let's stay local for the bach, and we did. Good friends should be able to be honest with each other, and she was not mad at me at all for telling her she was being extra.

33 is way too many. I have no idea how you’re going to keep that many girls drinking together. I had seven friends come one night and eleven friends come the next.

I think 5-10 would be a perfect number, depending on what you are planning to do.

Yikes!! i only had 10 at mine. i would keep it small. i've never been to one that was more than maybe 15-20 and those ones felt massive and unwieldy to me.

HOLY COW! No way! I am having my bridal party on like 9 girls, the moms for a few and like 3 or 4 more people. That is it!

I was at on bachelorette with 20ish people. The way the MOH handled it was making an itinerary, getting a hotel block and having everyone book their own rooms, and making a dinner reservation in a small private room at a restaurant and split the bill evenly between everyone and those of us that ordered drinks paid for the tip for everyone. Other than that, we went wine tasting and had designated sober drivers to make sure everyone got there safely. This is the only way it would work to get this many people aligned for one night, forget about a whole weekend.

I started with about 30 people I'd like to invite but then realized that was insane and I couldn't invite everyone just because I thought their feelings would be hurt. So FH's coworker's GFs are not invited even though I like them, and the rest of the group invited are all either friends already or have meshing personalities that will get along well. That's the key for me, anyone that's I know to be difficult in larger groups isn't invited and we'll just see them at the wedding.

That's way too many. I've never heard of more than 15 people at a bachelorette. Mine is a total of 9 people.

Bridal showers on the other hand have more people, typically 20-50.

Maybe you are confusing the two events? A bachelorette is where a group of girls go to a club, take a trip, do a wine and paint night, or something like that, it normally involves drinking unless the bride doesn't like drinking. Then the bridal shower is where the women invited to the wedding will gather at a venue like a restaurant with a private room, a country club or even someone's home and the bride will receive gifts off her registry. The shower is the type of event where Grandmas, and Aunts would be and the bachelorette is just for friends and family close in age to the bride like sisters or cousins

Wow, yeah, that is a LOT of people. I am just having my bridal party for my bachelorette, so there is 6 of us total. I think the more people that are involved, the more complicated it can be, especially with making plans.

My sister had around 30 if I remember correctly. We held it directly after her bridal shower so all of her friends from OOT were in. We got a party bus and had a reserved section in a night club. It was a lot of fun but we did it in a way that was easy to manage. I think it was only doable because it was the same day at the bridal shower and we all fit in one bus.

What is your plan if there were only 10 people, start there and go from there. You said its at your house. So is this just a night in with wine and fun? If so are you able to host these people for sips and bites and then they go home? Surely all 30 won't want to spend the night at your home. But yes, try to reel her in a bit and make it a VIP list only. Is it all family?

My Bachorlette party will partly be held at a Hunk a Mania show. There will be 10 of us. I didn't bother inviting my classier friends! We are having dinner first in West Hollywood in a male drag queen resturant. Yeah it's sordid but I wanted more of a fun night to remember. We are older also so bar hopping isn't our thing.

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I agree that something like this could work. I'm going to a bridal shower soon that has an open invitation to go out to the bar after the shower for anyone who is interested. I think this is a good way to include everyone, but it only works if you're okay with staying local and casual. I'm looking forward to it.

That is a LOT. We have 12 people on mine.

33 is A LOT for bachelorette party. Mine is 8 girls, including myself.