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Just Said Yes July 2018

Number of invitees to a bachelorette party?

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Taylor , on March 22, 2018 at 10:40 AM

I’m just trying to get objective perspective from others about how many people to invite to a bachelorette party. Originally the bride to be you gave the bridesmaids a list of 55 people she wanted invited, right now of the updated list of 33 people. And I’m just wondering if this is the number that’s typical and we should figure out a way to work with it or if we should try to work with the bride to be about getting that number down? Or should we discuss with her what her expectations are then of the bachelorette party? I’m just hoping to get some input from someone who might not be as emotionally invested in the situation as I am, given it’s at my house and I am planning it. Any input would be much appreciated thanks!

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Master October 2017
fallinthegarden · on March 22, 2018 at 4:21 PM
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Those are literally the exact adjectives I thought of for those numbers. Bachelorettes should be nearest and dearest, no one has 55 (or 33) best friends and closest family. That is exactly beyond absurd.
Is this really for a bachelorette party, or for a shower? Even for a shower, 55 is pretty big, and could be really expensive for the hosts depending on what is served.
I would not want 33 people at my house, nor would I want to try to coordinate dates/times/activities for that many people. I think it's totally reasonable to tell the bride that you are not comfortable planning something with that many people, and give her a number you are comfortable with hosting. Same goes with if you mean bridal shower, if you don't want to host that many people, give her the number you're comfortable with and have her make it work.
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Master September 2019
Mrs. H · on March 22, 2018 at 4:33 PM
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At max, I am planning on having 12. 33 people is WAY too many... sure you aren't referring to your bridal shower?
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Devoted June 2018
NeLeibelToBe · on March 22, 2018 at 4:41 PM
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My MOH is 'hosting' aka booking the hotel room for our drinking fest. It will be her and the other 4 bms..I guess I migh invite my mom if she wants to kick off the night..but honestly..they are my true besties so it will just be us!
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Will & Tiara · on March 22, 2018 at 4:44 PM
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It should be your besties and your bridal party. it's not a shower or your wedding. keep this private and be with people you really are close to. they will look out for you in case you have too many drinks. I am having a party of 8. We're going for dinner, and then having a limo party and tour NYC at night with lots of champagne, music and novelty toys. We'll bring a decent camera for photos of us being just our crazy selves. I think in this case, less is more!
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Just Said Yes July 2018
Taylor · on March 24, 2018 at 10:37 PM
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No, this is a bachelorette party. She is having four separate bridal showers.
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