NWR: 2nd Cousin's GF's Baby Shower Invite

"Besides my gift"...why is it in the baby's perspective? That's weird. I get the raffle thing and most of the time that's on the invitation (that I've seen anyway). But that invitation is just terrible. Grammar and all. Yikes.

That's awful!

That was so hard to read..... you win a bottle of what?..... that'd be a hard pass for me.

That seems pretty tacky to me...

@ Faith - Yes! I know it was difficult. I don't think English is the mother's first language but I would have hoped my second cousin would proof read or his mom or sister would.

@Kristin - I was wondering the same thing! I wouldn't even be able to afford to make all the necessary arrangements two weeks out so it's also a hard pass for me.

@Samantha - I'm glad it's not just me that is thinking that. I'm just like... what?

Ehhhh.....

Wow

Technically it's not tacky to put registry information on a shower invite, showers are for gifts. Normally for the diaper thing, the host spreads it word of mouth, for my baby shower, the person hosting had to tell people not to get us diapers or clothes.

Are you close to your second cousin? Could it be that they are just working off a family list provided? I had a huge family and often get invites to first cousin once and twice removed events and even some second cousin events because of how big and close our family is.

The grammar is painful. If you haven't even seen your cousin in over a decade I would just ignore it. However depending on your family dynamics, maybe you choose to suck it up and buy them something at Target so that they pick it up in AZ. My cousin had a baby shower recently and also invited many family members that lived far away. I actually lived close enough to attend but my aunts and uncles were so excited for their baby niece, they got her a bunch of stuff from the registry. However, she did not send that mess of an invitation nor did she have a raffle, yikes!

@Jessie - Thank you, I'm not well versed in baby shower etiquette. I don't think the registry part was tacky, that was the part I expected. Just the wording of "besides my gift" feels a little off-putting I guess. I wouldn't say I'm close with him at all, our birthdays are close together and we were close when we were kids because of that. However, they moved away when I was 10 and I haven't seen them since, just the occasional happy birthday or congratulations on _____ life event on social media in the last 5 or so years.

Nope

Nope

Ewh..the grammar

Oh wow. I'm not going to fault her on the grammar if English isn't her first language but geez, your cousin should have proofread. I just got a Facebook invite to a baby shower from my FSIL's friend who I've only met once. Over 200 people were invited and it was in her living room. It happened yesterday. I didn't go or even respond to the invitation because 1) idk her and 2) her wedding was dry and only had a waffle bar for dinner, which my FMIL still complains about.

Just don't go!

@Jesslin - 200 people for a baby shower!? WTF?! First a dry wedding and then for the baby shower only a waffle bar???? Sweet baby Jesus.

This is rude because they are hosting their own shower. I am assuming they put it from the baby's perspective because they knew enough to realize it sounded bad to ask for gifts for themselves.

Having a raffle is icing on the cake of poor taste here.

Eek

Are they throwing their own shower?

You don't even talk to him right? How did they get your address? I'd say no to the gift and just ignore it. They obviously knew how far away you are to be able to send the invite. Gift grabby....hard no.