NWR: Anyone else on the fence about having kids?

I am totally in the fence. I can't imagine myself having a kid and quite frankly, I don't even wanna try to imagine it. BUT FH has hardcore baby fever and swears he's gonna get me pregnant in the next 6 months

It also bothers me how people assume if you were to get pregnant that your mind set would change completely, or like you aren't taking appropriate precautions to avoid pregnancy or plan your pregnancy. I think it was my parents generation that got pregnant immediately after getting married, but that's not the case anymore.

Oh look...just what every woman who doesn't want kids wants...someone to jump in and tell us how wonderful and non regretful it is. We get it, still doesn't mean we want it.

I really liked this article when we were ttc, having no luck, and deciding if we would pursue fertility treatment or not. Did we want kids that bad? We have a son now. He's great. But our life changed and sometimes we miss the old one too. http://therumpus.net/2011/04/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-71-the-ghost-ship-that-didnt-carry-us/

When we get married I'm going to be 26 and FH is going to be 27. Currently we have no desire to have children. We've decided that if by the time I'm 32 I change my mind, we'll have one or two. If 32 rolls around and we haven't changed our minds, we're going to be child-free.

I am so selfish, I don't want to share my cereal (I don't even share with FH), I don't want to spend money on anyone else but me and my FH. I don't wan to give up TV time or eating out or going to the movies... sometimes I am convinced I don't even like kids. But apparently, when you have them it's suppose to be magical.

On the same page as you and most of the other ladies! I always thought I wanted kids and same as FH we always said 3 and we wanted to start by 26/27 so we could have lots of energy. Now we both are on the fence and if we do we both agreed on only 1 if any and I turn 26 this year and I don't see this being a thing minimum 5 years if we want too!

@JerseyJen- I'm an only child and have better communication skills than my FI who is the oldest of 2 kids. So...yeah no. It's bs that only children will grow up to be unsocialized horrors, parenting has a lot of influence on that. I hate it when people assume I'm selfish and conceited just because I'm an only child. If you only want one to start with then do that!

I have two children with my late husband. FH and I will not be having kids together. We were on the fence for a while, but then we considered what starting all over would mean. We both love to travel a great deal and having a newborn would hinder that. Not to mention, we currently put our two children in private school, almost $10,000 a year. We can afford two children on our current lifestyle, we couldn't with a third and we didn't ever want either child feeling like the third child had something special about him or her because he or she was biologically ours. We were on the fence, but when we considered the lifestyle change it became an easy decision.

My situation is different bevause I DO have kids, as does FH. We talked about him having his vasectomy reversed and have a child together but I'm definitely still on the fence with that one. Between us we have 7 children, oldest being 16. I just had a stomach bug go through my house.... and come back again.... no word of a lie, I have had a vomiting kid at least every 3rd night for the last 3 weeks. It made the pendulum swing wayyy over to the "no more kids" side

My dads side of the family is all baby crazy. I have a niece in law that is pregnant with her second child and since FH and I got engaged I've been receiving major pressure to pop one out after the wedding. It honestly pisses me off to no avail. I don't even know that I want children and I definitely don't want them until FH and I are completely financially stable. Ten more dogs? Sure no problem. A human life that FH and I are solely responsible for? I'm not so sure. I will keep my fur babies as my only babies for as long as I can. I don't think it would bother me if we got pregnant by accident. Obviously we would rise to the occasion. But I just feel really weird about planning out getting pregnant like you plan for a vacation. That might sound weird but oh well.

I'm the same way, I want kids but it also terrifies me at the same time. I like my life how it is right now and my freedom; I guess I'm a bit selfish in that aspect.

I've always been a strict no deep down. I have my moments where it would be nice to have that bond and experience. FH is the same way. We both just turned 30 and there is so much more we want to do just the 2 of us. We have talked about instead of us having a child, maybe adopting down the road.

My sister and her husband married in their 20's and it was 7 years before they had their first child. Growing up, she never imagined wanting a family. They just had their 3rd last fall, lol, and their wonderful!. :-) I'm marrying much older - early 40's. If was still in my 30's, I'd still consider having kids. Now, not so much. I'd like to continue traveling, if we can.

Right now I must firmly on the NO KIDS side of the fence. Possibly because my kids are 16 and 13, my fiance's son is 23, and I have no desire whatsoever to start over now! The light is at the end of the tunnel, people! (and said kids are driving me batty so there's that...)

I'm on the fence as well, well we both are...most days I really REALLY want kids...I really do love kids, even when theyre puking and sick or throwing a tantrum. I've always wanted to be a mom.

But then we'll decide to just do something on the spur of the moment, be it just going out for dinner somewhere fancy at the last moment, to deciding to go away for a weekend on the motorcycle Friday after work, to sleeping in till the cats wake up before us (so like 2.30) on a sunday after a wild saturday...and itll hit me...if we had a kid we couldn't do this...

flippy floppy flippy floppy....I said ask me when I'm 25, now I'm 25 and I'm "ask me when I'm 28" :-)