NWR: Baby Shower for 2nd child?

I've seen this before. I never knew that was a rule. Etiquette alludes me with some of these things. So if it's your second marriage should you not have a shower either?

I've heard of this being tacky, but so many people do it now that I dunno why it's still a thing.

The idea is that a shower is where you get the "big" things like bouncers, swings, cribs, etc....all of which you would be reusing with your second child. People are more than welcome to not attend if it offends them.

Hmm, i'd never considered that before. here's what i found on parents.com:

"Every pregnancy deserves to be toasted and cheered. But, since the true purpose of a baby shower is to help new parents acquire the gear and supplies they'll need, it's probably not necessary to give a traditional baby shower for parents who have a basement full of baby clothes and equipment. Instead, consider throwing a shower designed to make their lives easier when they've got a newborn and another child or two to juggle: a "stock the freezer" shower, for example, or a "Mom and Dad" shower, with gifts like their favorite movies on video or DVD or promises for baby-sitting services."

I've always heard it's only first child.

I've only heard of baby showers for the first child but what do I know?

I thought that for a second child it was called a baby "sprinkle" and did not include the big price items -- more of the expendables like diapers, clothes for a different gender, etc.

I've heard people judge based on this but have always thought it was ridiculous. if you don't want to buy a big gift, you're never obligated to, but go celebrate a new life and show support for your friend. seems easy.

Everyone I know has has a shower for each child. They maybe only registered for stuff like diapers or clothes if it was a different gender. But it was mostly for friends and family to come celebrate. Not so much the gifts. When we start having kids I'm going to register for gender neutral items (car seats, strollers..etc) so I can use them for the other kids as well. But if your friend just wants to celebrate her & her mom can do the shower.

Within my circle of friends they will have a second shower if baby #2 is a different gender from the first. My cousin just had a shower for her boy due on Thanksgiving. At the shower for her daughter two years ago she got the crib, changing table, swing, stroller, all the "big" high dollar items and like 100 articles of clothing. For the baby boy shower the "dads" went all out - they all got John Deere farm decor, mini tractors, and stuffed livestock, etc. you get the idea and some clothing items. It was not nearly as much of a "thing" as was the first shower. On the other hand another relative had her daughter's first birthday party a few weeks ago and it was like a whole Toys R' Us was transported to her living room. It was a bigger deal than her shower.

Well, see, what happened was....

I felt so bad that her friend told her this, got diarrhea of the mouth, and offered to host her one. O.o

It was Halloween and I had been drinking plenty of spiked Apple Cider.

Her husband was DH's best man. We're close, but I'm closer to her hubby, since BM and DH became friends through me, before her.

IMO, all children should be celebrated. Not just the first. I hosted 2 showers for a friend.

It's very common in NJ for there to be second baby showers, they may not be as big as the first shower, but we definitely celebrate the new baby, we call them 'sprinkles' or layette showers.

In my circle we do a diaper party for a 2nd child regardless of its sex. I think it's tacky to have a full on baby shower for a 2nd child.

I've been to a few second showers - some things need to be replaced, especially if it's a different gender!

One of my bms just went to a baby shower yesterday that is for the couples third daughter in like 3 years. she said no one showed up except the mom, her mil & sil and my bm. they also wouldn't allow men, which would have upped the attendees. we were discussing that they should have had a diaper party or something else like that. I'm not sure what they needed at a baby shower since they have 2 young daughters already, like the next youngest one is barely over a year.

Id celebrate a friend's 2nd child.

I've heard the term "sprinkle" lately and I'm not a huge fan of them but if one of my friends had one, I'd show up with diapers, wipes and other practical stuff like I usually do at a baby shower. I always go boring (aka practical) with baby showers.

I would and have celebrated a second child- just as special as the first IMO. However, if it were me and someone offered to throw a shower I would ask for something a little smaller-low key, especially if it were the same gender as my first. If it were a different gender- I would still prefer low key, but if whoever was throwing it for me wanted bigger who am I to deny a celebration! The only thing different I would do is not register for big ticket items. I would be very, very modest and selective when registering.

I have NEVER been to a shower for a second baby.

My "friend" had one for all 3 of her children because she is extremely greedy and only cares about material objects. I gave her second hand items for her 3rd child but it wasn't good enough for her, she had to have new. Pure greed!