NWR: BYOB Party? Really?

We don't drink, but have friends who do, so it only makes sense for them to bring what they would like, and I think it's very fair to not want to pay for other people to get drunk.

My mother (63 years old) goes to and has hosted bring your own booze parties, but she always provides a few bottles of house wine, and it's never on the invite, they just circulate it by word of mouth. Agree with @Kathy R. I bring what I like anyway, you never know what will be there.

I don't know, BYOB to me always meant we are having drinks, but if you are picky or like a certain drink then bring it with you. I have never gone to a BYOB where there was no drinks unless you brought them. And when I am asked to a party or host one, everyone always asked what can I bring and I do the same.

Usually we ask if the host wants us to bring anything, and the response is "if there's anything special you want to drink." I would never show up emptyhanded, and will definitely share my drink. But I also don't blink when someone says BYOB. I just acknowledge that many people = many tastes, and that the host would rather you bring what you'd like than try to guess.

Maybe it's my culture, but Australians will ALWAYS BYO to a party, even if you say there will be alcohol provided. Nobody even flinches when a party is BYO meat for a BBQ.

The BYOB parties I've been to are more we'll have things to get things started, but if you want something specific, bring it yourself. And usually you share. I often bring a bottle of wine or something with me to a party anyway, so I don't see it as a problem. Alcohol on top of everything else can be expensive, so I don't see a problem with someone asking you bring some along!

I am with bluedaisy on this one. I am in my late 30s and it has always been like this unless like she said is was some fancy, dancy dinner party which I can say we never do.

I haven't read through all of these- so I'm sorry if this is repetitive- but when I throw a party- or if anyone in my family throws a party- we say if there is anything specific you want to drink feel free to bring it. We always have some of the basics- a few different types of beer, wine, and maybe 1 or 2 liquors. It is always just kind of a known fact between our group that you should bring enough to share if anyone else wants some. And also- if someone is ok with what we have- then that's fine too- no hard feelings for not bringing something. I don't think I have ever or would ever say that someone has to bring something or pay a fee to come!!! that's outrageous. I know that FH and some of his friends sometimes get together and watch big boxing matches- the ones you get on PPV. Sometimes they say- ok the fight is $60 we will all pitch in and bring a 6 pack- other times who ever has it at their house says i'll pay for the fight- you guys bring the food and booze- it works fine

I have also been to parties where they were huge and multi family and the host sent invitations where every family brought food for their own family. it was more just a bunch of families getting together the enjoy each other's company and in most cases each family brought extra and traded with other families if there was something they wanted- or even just to share. That was never a big deal either.

For a lot of parties in our social circles, the hosts will provide food and sodas, but anyone who wants anything alcoholic is advised to bring their own. I think it's more a money thing than an age thing.

It may also be related to the fact that few people in our social circle drink alcohol. So if you're hosting a party, it makes more sense to put money into food (which benefits everyone) than alcohol (which benefits only a minority).

We had an open bar for our wedding. But we got it ridiculously cheaply because the venue owner (who is a friend, and knows the others in our social group) knew that even with an open bar, our friends would not drink very much.

I have a lot of parties and we usually just put on the invite please bring a dish or drink! or something like that- unless its a fancy event or something then we provide. but after a while it gets really expensive to buy food/drinks for large parties especially if most of your friends dont have parties bc of living arrangments or what not. We have food/drink and plenty of it but its nice if people contribute too

Do not host are party if you can't afford to host a party, nothing worse to me than a pot luck or a BYOB party.

Well, that party was odd. It was fun, and the decorations and such were really cute. But it was so...well, not a party spirit. "Hey, by the way, I brought the same kind of beer as you, just wanted you to know so you wouldn't think I was stealing your beers..." as if I would mind if he took one of our beers! Pretty much everyone drank exactly what they brought, and took off for home as soon as it was gone. I felt like I could have just as easily stayed home to drink the beer I brought, it would have been the same thing.

Most of the parties I host, I make sure there are beer, wine, sodas, and a few kinds of liquor. People ask if they can bring stuff, I ask for beer or ice. I've yet to have it break the bank. Most people, unless they are complete boors, know to bring something to a party. Specifically telling them to do so is very peculiar to me.

I don't see a problem with it. Some ppl are not "smart" enough to realize if the the invite does not say BYOB then they assume alcohol is taken care of. Typically any parties I have been to that says BYOB they have maybe a keg or some bottles of wine but maybe enough for a couple drinks, so like I said, it doesn't bother me a bit.

It is all going to depend on your circle of friends and family. I really don't feel like I should be told that if I can't provide the alcohol and yes, typically, when we say BYOB around here we are referring to alcohol that I shouldn't be hosting anything. All our events are "potluck" deals from Thanksgiving dinner to even my wedding. It is how we do things in our social circle and family. It doesn't been we are bad people. If society thinks less of us so be it. It isn't society or the internet world we have to answer to.

I dont think its a bad thing....it may be aimed towards ppl that are always at the party and NEVER bring anything!!