NWR: Calling someone the wrong name on purpose?

Is he possibly calling you a name oh a famous person or tv character that you remind him of? I used to do that a lot in high school.

Soon2Be Mrs. Wise: No, this is not the case, unfortunately.

Lisa, how about your FH grandmother calling you the wrong name after hearing the correct name repeatedly? She kept calling me Jennifer the other night, not even close to my real name and then the time before that she called me his ex GF's name.

I think people do this to be mean and spiteful. Maybe he needs threatened by you and this is the only way he can he empowered in some way. Stay strong you are being the better person by taking the high road. I would just correct him when you hear him call you "jennifer" be like it's Jane thanks. Good luck!

Oh :/ Well maybe you should pull him aside and kindly explain to him how it bothers you. or you can just start calling him Bob and see what he says lol

Soon2beMrs.K: He is definitely trying to be mean and trying to show he has power to bother me, which is why I try to keep calm. I don't want him to think he has that power. Although he keeps doing it, so I suppose he already knows,

Start calling him a new name.

Just make up a randomly weird name and start calling him that! That's what I do and it works every single time =)

Tiedaknot: I would do this, but I want to seem like I'm the bigger person, since it's a work environment.

Call him by a made-up name. Then say, "Sorry, you just remind me of a _____" and laugh!

Years ago, I had an older male co-worker who was a level above me. I had no problems with him until I got promoted to his level. Then, all of a sudden, I was "Dear, honey, sweetheart" etc. I knew then that he considered me a threat, so I was able to laugh about "not being able to teach an OLD dog new tricks."

When I managed an executive suite (where almost all of the tenants were older men), I just got used to the "honey, sweetheart" etc. But, we got a young guy in who thought he could get away with it, too. When he called in for messages one day, it was "Sweety, do I have any messages?" I replied, "No, honey, nothing right now." That put a stop to him!!

You could always download the song "I'm not Lisa" and play it when he is around =) Or just refuse to acknowledge his presence when he calls anything other than you given name. I do have someone that called me by the worng name and I refused to speak to her until she referred to me by my given name...now she only calls me by my name!

Do you have an HR department? Maybe speak to them. What he's doing is inappropriate and unprofessional at best.

Leanna: I am considering that, especially because it is not getting any better. I figured it would stop after a few months. I am worried this will make things super messy though. Thoughst?

How about just not reacting when he calls you the wrong name?

Honestly, what he's doing is borderline harassment and he shouldn't be able to get away with it. You should be able to feel comfortable in your own work environment. If he doesn't take it well, you can always talk to HR again. My advice is document, document, document everything he does so you have some record of his ongoing behavior.

If something like that happened in my workplace, I can tell you that it wouldn't be tolerated. We're an extremely laid-back company, no dress code, themed meeting rooms and things, but it's required (as it should be) that we treat our coworkers with respect.

I would agree with Leanna, talk to HR.

Although the idea of calling him something different makes me giggle, picturing calling him a different name every time you see him.

I completely agree that you should talk to your HR dept. This has gone on for months and clearly it's harassment. However, if you choose to take a different approach... I'd buy a small cheap pack of paper 'Hello, My name is' stickers and wear one. Obviously people may ask about it. Just say, 'Oh John can't seem to remember my name so I thought I'd help him out!' I'm willing to bet he'll look like a jerk and it'll only take a day or two

My grandma use to call my mom my dads x wifes name.

Be careful calling him any other name he may be the type to cry to HR about it. I would call him MR. O. everytime he calls you susie instead of jill just answer him yes mr O. whatever his correct name is. maybe he will grow up.

I would ignore him.

Is the name offensive to you other than the fact that its not your name?

We actually do this to my cousin. We call her Sarah (that is not even close to her name.) we do it to tease her bc we like her. Maybe he thinks you guys are buddies and he's just tryin to be funny? Clearly it bothers you though. I would just ask him politely and in private to stop bc of the way it makes you feel.

THEN if he doesn't maybe go the HR route.

I would call him out, in front of other co-workers next time he does it. I would tell him" Hey Dueschbag my names not blank it's Lisa." We'll maybe leave the Dueschbag out Maybe he will get the embarrassment and stop. Seems like he has some kahonas on him. I wouldn't tolerate it.