NWR: if your husband had another woman tattooed on him...

You said that it's not really that visible since his skin is really dark? Would you make him get it lasered off or would you get him to cover it up with something? At first, I thought you meant he had her face on him (lol sorry) but if you don't really care that much, I wouldn't make it a huge deal. Bring it up to him and see what he has to say about it.

IF FH had one, I would ask that he cover it. He would be more than happy to do it, too, so I don't think I'd have to "press".

Yeah, I would make him get that covered, but that's just me. If it's not a big deal to you don't worry about it.

Sooooo....I am going to hear comments but I dont care. Lol .. it is the opposite on my end. I have my ex (my daughters father) on my thigh. How it got there is a long story. Anyway, of course hubby knows about it, but never presses the issue. He has actually only brought it up once. My plan is to absolutely get it covered, just havent made it yet. I dont wear shorts a lot anyway, so most people dont even know I have it. When we are at the beach no one knows what it says. So... I would say if it doesnt bother you, then it shouldnt matter what anyone else says. Y'all do what works for you. Obviously he isnt pining over her since he married you. Just my two cents

@Melissa lol if it was her face he would definitely have to get that covered. I would probably just make him get her name shaded. We talked about it before and he doesn't mind doing it. I'm just not in a rush to have him do it. When my cousin made it seem like a big deal it just made me wonder how many other women feel the same way

Eh. That was his past. It wouldn't bother me (I don't think). I would also hope that he would want it to get it covered, but if he had a really good reason (i.e. she died), then I wouldn't pressure him.

If it doesn't bother you, I wouldn't worry about it. Like you said, you barely notice it, and you know you're the love of his life.

@Chantel oooollllll lol j/k. I want a thigh tattoo so bad though! But that's how I feel, nobody really knows it's there unless they already knew about it but no one is gonna walk up on him like "what does that say" lol. He is covered in tattoos so it's surrounded by a lot of other things, it's not like it stands out. And just like you said, he is not checking for girlfriend, he knows what he has :-) SN: she was wack anyway LMBO!

@Shaquaya (beautiful name btw) it seriously is your relationship and if neither one of you feel as if it is a pressing issue and you're clearly secure in your relationship, do not let someone else bump in and make you question a decision that you felt was non-issue. Everyone has an opinion but YOURS is the only one that counts. I personally wouldn't want my FH to have another girl's name on him and I'd ask to have him get it removed/covered (with my face lol kidding) but that is something that would happen within my relationship. Outside views are just that, outside.

My husband has my name(shoulder) and i have his(wrist). If he had someone else name on him and we is married yea i would ask him to cover it up. My husband is dark skinned as well. Im sure my husband would ask me the same if i had another name on me.

No way...it would give me grounds to make fun of him forever! He already has the "Mom in a heart" tattoo. I think it's funny.

@Melissa thank you, I don't like my name but that's a whole different story lol. You're so right, my opinion is key here & I'm very secure. I know she wouldn't stand a chance of coming back into his life. LOL @ covering it with your face...hmmm now that's an idea ;-)

@KristenMichelle LOL I do often make little jokes about it and we both laugh. It's just not that serious to me, probably because it's not very noticeable.

I don't know why anyone would have their ex's name tattooed on them and not want it covered up or removed, unless they still had feelings for their ex. So yeah, if FI had a tattoo of an ex's name, I would want that shit covered up or removed via laser hair removal.

When my sis was dating her now hubs, he had his ex's name tattooed. He swore he would never cover it because it was "part of his history." Well once she had his kid and they got married, she made him cover that bitch right up! Lol. Yes, I would want it covered too.

@Doeydo I disagree that he still has to have feelings for her. It's not that he doesn't want it covered, neither of us are in a rush to have it done and if I really wanted him to do it that badly he would. But it just doesn't matter to me. I know he doesn't have feelings for the girl and he's not worried about her. That tattoo means nothing, I have his heart :-) She can have that ugly ink that's hardly legible

I'm not really a jealous person and if my FH had a tattoo of another women's name I think I would just let it be. Its like a scar...you love them for it anyway.

FYI on laser tattoo removal. I have had 4 treatments to remove a tattoo on my ankle and it is expensive and very painful and I am not getting much results. I don't think laser is worth it.

@Shaquaya I know right! But whatever, it is what it is. My plan is to have itcovered before the year is out, but I need to.find someone that will do a good job. I dont need to be looking like I went to the jail amd got it done. My husband doesnt have any tat's at all. He mentioned us getting matching ones since we have the same initials now, but I will believe that when I see it!

@tnovak/2b2Shay I'm not really a jealous person either...and if it's painful to him AND expensive I wouldn't even consider having him do it.

@Chantel lol exactly, covered tattoos can look messy. It's so small & surrounded by things that have no relevance so I feel like the only thing he can do is to just get the heart completely shaded in. I like the matching tat idea. We agreed on the lock and key tats but we're trying to find room on his body LOL his whole chest, stomach, back, both arms are covered!

If it doesn't bother you, then get it covered when you get around to it. Every one of us has a past. It shaped us into the people we are today. Maybe his experience with her not being the right one makes him appreciate you even more since you are the right one.