NWR: my neighbors are so rude

That's annoying. Have you tried actually talking to the neighbors directly?

Davistobe-

1.) every state may have different laws regarding evictions. While you can evict someone for multiple filed complaints, it is really hard to win in court if they wanted to take it that far. It can become a he said-she said type of thing unless there is proof it is outside reasonable noise levels and/or outside of city quiet hour restrictions. Again, every states laws will differ and every company may have different policies on evictions. If we are evicting for anything other than non payment, we need 2 witnesses willing to testify to the complaint (has to be 2 people from 2 different apartments).

2.) please refrain from banging on the ceiling or confronting your neighbors. It doesn't happen often, but, speaking from experience, this can turn into a harassment issue.

NowASeptMrs- most times it is not that management doesn't do anything (we actually do. Trust me. It's just as annoying for us because chances are, you're not the only one calling about it). Unfortunately, it is a very long and complicated legal process to evict someone for not paying rent, much less a noise complaint. An eviction for not paying rent can take up to 3 months where I work. An eviction for noise or other complaint (unless related to violence towards another resident) is even harder/worse.

Unfortunately, as management, we get stuck as a bad guy and people assume "management doesn't do anything".

@Vanessa

That's why I was asking if it was really enforceable and I hate to be the one saying management is worthless because I know their hands are tied a lot of the times but I'm cranky at 2 in the morning who isn't.....lol

I will attempt to refrain from banging on the ceiling but something has got to give.

@NowASeptMrs

Right! I get up to pee all the time no problems and heck if they woke me up with an accidental bump (I dropped something) I would be fine but it's the constant noise that makes me want to scream.

@MrsCoakley

I have spoken to them directly in a polite manner and just told them they were keeping me up at night, they said they would fix it and they haven't.

@KrClark

The sad thing is they're not drug dealers, they're not a domestic problem. They're just rude.

Davistobe- trust. I have had those neighbors. Actually it may be the same ones (vacuuming at 1:30 in the morning). I am sorry you're going through it! I wish I had more suggestions to help!

FH snores so loudly, I can't believe such sounds could emanate from a human. I pushed him to see a pulmonologist and wouldn't ya know, he has sleep apnea. Now with the CPAP it's silent nights, with some white noise to boot.

My upstairs neighbor recently decided to take up the bagpipes. One of the songs in her repertoire--to be fair, there aren't many songs written for bagpipe--is "Amazing Grace." Fitting, because if she keeps it up, her funeral is coming soon. (j/k)

Seven years ago, I lived in what could only be called The Worst Apartment of My Life. The building was owned by this landlord who's been named in investigations over shady nursing home dealings with the mayor. The wiring of the building, constructed in 1905, was likely done by Edison himself, as it couldn't sustain a hair dryer, much less an air-conditioner. The summer of 2010 was the hottest on record: the temperature did not drop below 87 for three weeks, even at night. Any time anyone within a one-mile radius flushed the toilet, the water went from tepid to nuclear. It was hot enough to make French press coffee. And there were the neighbors whose backyard faced ours.

The brownstone building was some hipster urban farming commune called Peebottle Farms. I would have been willing to look the other way from the rooster crowing at 4 am, 3 am Central and the general stench of their chicken coop if the house band, a noise best described as a mashup of Joy Division and Sir Mix-a-Lot, wouldn't have rehearsed every night until 2 am.

311 and I became close confidants that summer. Oh, and my building was eventually condemned. There's still a gaping hole on that street in what's become a hot real estate neighborhood.

Oh man I used to have the worst upstairs neighbors! I feel your pain. I dealt with it for 4 years until I bought my own place and moved. Have you tried ear plugs? I used ear plugs, fan, and a pillow over my head and it sometimes muffled it enough to sleep.

@Danielle

Thank God my fiancé doesn't snore he just gets handsy at night. Haha and I'm a touch me not when I'm trying to sleep. In all honest he puts off so much heat at night I have to push him away.

You take care of my neighbors, I'll take care of yours. Haha. I would die if they took up bag pipes seriously those would be a goner (the bag pipes I mean not the neighbor).

And oh my goodness your story sounds horrible, I'm glad you for out of there. And couldn't imagine having to endure that, at least mines just noisy. If I had no AC I'm out!! Do you write for a living because that most well written tale I've seen in a while.

@Davistobe Thank you! I just might indeed write for a living

My MoH lives around the corner from that godforsaken dump. Suffice it to say, her pad is a "luxury loft."

Sucks to have noisy n annoying neighbors..

My last apartment has a clause that if you're disruptive, they can evict you. I complained about my upstairs neighbor waking me up twice at 3 in the morning banging shit around and they issued him a noise vio. It's absolutely an enforceable rule.

ETA: When I say dude was banging shit around, I'm talking it sounded like he was picking up 20 pound dumbbells and just dropping them on the floor. I shit you not. He came dangerously close to catching the cuss out of a lifetime but I decided to give the office a chance to handle it first. I wish I'd done it so he remembered it for the next time he was someone's upstairs neighbor.

In my last apartment I decided to pay extra to be on the top floor just to avoid those issues. Unfortunately the neighbors to the side of me were just as loud. Banging cabinets, fighting, etc. Neighbors below got a new puppy that would cry all day when they were gone. But, I can understand that and it didn't last long. Then another neighbor below me would smoke weed all day and I got blamed for it! Ha. You can't win.

@Cindy I'm on the top floor now and I can feel the person BELOW me stomping around! It shakes the whole floor.

Wow @La Grosera heavy walkers are my pet peeve.

I work a night shift schedule and I do things on my schedule. I came to this reality because no one working first shift really cares to cater to the alternative schedule, even my family and friends forget my weird sleeping schedule and bother me during my sleeping schedule. It sucks but neighbors come with apartment living and they aren't obligated to change their life for you.

My neighbors have screaming children that sound like buffalo running around. Our manager/landlord isn't doing crap either. Sorry to hear it, hopefully they'll move out soon!

Those annoying neighbors! I used to have neighbors who taught classical instruments. One Saturday every month they would have a group lesson at 7 am. It's one thing to have beautiful classical music. It's another to listen to screeching from the students not knowing how to play violin or cello

Knock on their door and let them know , when i lived in a condo we had loud ass neighbors next door , i went to their house and explained they are loud as fuck in the middle of the night, they were understanding about it

Bbrown1025 what a lovely attitude.

Noise canceling headphone! Been there done that. Noisy neighbors suck!!!!

@Danielle

I'm not a writer but I'm an avid reader so I recognize greatness when I see it