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Catherine
Beginner May 2020

Nwr: Sharing a bathroom with so

Catherine, on July 1, 2019 at 10:19 PM

Posted in Married Life 57

So I’ll warn you in advance that this is waaaay TMI, but I really wanted to find out if other people have the same problem that I do: I hate pooping when FH is around! I know, I know, everybody poops. But some people (like FH) somehow manage to do their business while leaving the bathroom smelling...

So I’ll warn you in advance that this is waaaay TMI, but I really wanted to find out if other people have the same problem that I do: I hate pooping when FH is around! I know, I know, everybody poops. But some people (like FH) somehow manage to do their business while leaving the bathroom smelling as fresh as a warm spring day. I am not one of those people. Nope, I’m more of what you could call a “heavy hitter” in the stink department. Always have been. An open window or fan helps a little bit, but there’s really NO way to hide what happened in there after I’m done.

It was easy enough to avoid going in FH’s presence when we started dating, but after we got engaged and moved in together, I knew that gig was up. So the first time I saw him heading to the bathroom right after I blew it up, I warned him “um, you probably don’t want to go in there.” He just laughed and went right in anyways. And then immediately came running back out. He was like “wow, you weren’t kidding!” He wasn’t mean about it or anything (we were both kind of laughing), but I was still blushing like crazy. Since then I’ve mostly tried to go when he’s not around, but he’s had a few more unfortunate encounters with the aftermath.

Anyways, I was curious about how many other ladies are big stinkers like me and how y’all deal with it around your SO.

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
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    1. try poopourri?

    2. Less me, more him... but he will regularly come out of the bathroom saying "we need to move, we just can't live here anymore" or "We need to burn the house down and collect the insurance, this place is now uninhabitable" Sometimes it's so bad the smell will creep across the house EVEN WITH THE DOOR CLOSED! We usually just laugh about it, Sh** happens...literally... I will say that we were friends for 5 years before we started dating and I was always just "one of the guys" so farting and pooping were regular topics of conversation and we never really went through that whole best behavior part of a new relationship. It will get to a point where you don't even think twice about it Smiley smile

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  • latasha
    VIP September 2019
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    Hahaha. My FH and I are tooooo comfortable I guess because we both don’t care. We’ve been friends for a lonnnnng time before dating so that may be why 🤷🏾‍♀️ I don’t know lol. The poo puri definitely works. I carry that in my bag when in public and traveling.
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  • Holly
    Devoted August 2021
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    Also I think it’s important that if you’re uncomfortable with the thought of him going into the bathroom immediately after you come out, he should be respectful of that and give it like 5-10 minutes before going in himself. Shut the door all the way once you’re done so it’s less of an open invitation to come in. And if he doesn’t already know you’re embarrassed by that, then make sure to tell him. Next time it happens you can jokingly say “if the door is shut after I come out, that means no coming in for like 5 minutes” or something. That’s a rule of courtesy in our household at least haha
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
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    Girl you need Poo-Pourri!!

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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    I might have to give this a try. I've seen the commercials (sooo funny!) but I was skeptical that it would work because I've never found an air freshener that could really defeat my stink. But it sounds like it's pretty effective for most people. Any success stories from other big stinkers out there?

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  • Amanda
    Just Said Yes March 2020
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    Have you tried Poopourri? It has saved my life
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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    Haven't tried it yet! (see right above your post). I'm intrigued, though. Just a little skeptical that it is enough for more intense stinkers like myself.

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  • Rose
    Devoted February 2020
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    I'm not a big stinker but I'm chronically constipated and I just can't go around people so my fiancé will go to the other room or I just do it when he isn't home. LOL

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    This is too funny. My FH is like you, he would hold it until he blew up. Now, he is a little more comfortable about it since we live together but still closes the door, except for a hotel we went to that the bathroom door wouldn't close. That is another story for another time but anyway, I don't even care. Coming from a big family, that is when the best conversations happen lol.

    Get you some V-I-Poo! Poo-Purri and Unicorn Gold are also great. It works wonders. No fan or open window required. It is pricey but sounds like it would be worth it for you and it's sold pretty much everywhere and in many different scents!


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  • Martha
    Dedicated July 2019
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    So, I also on occasion can be a "heavy hitter" in the stink department. I use Poo-Pourri which is a before poop spray that does a decent job. If not I just make light of the situation and say that he has to love all of me, stink and all! Lol. Guys smell too so don't worry about it too much. I mean, it is poop....it's not going to smell like roses lol

    #righttherewithya!
    Don't be shy or feel awkward. It's a natural human bodily function 🙂
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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    I'm LOLing at your FH's quotes. I can totally relate to them, and also to the issue with the smell creeping under the door. My old roommate, who is my best friend, used to tease me about that ("Omg Cat I can smell that out here!") but I had no shame about it when it came to her. Maybe I'll get to that point with FH someday.

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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    Thanks for the solidarity! If you're in the same smelly boat and Poo Pourri helps, I guess I need to give it a try.

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  • Kristen
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    The first time FH came over to my place (before we were even dating) I had a really stinky poo and he went in the bathroom right after me. I was mortified but he thought it was hilarious. Now we go with the door open and everything. But poopuri works wonders!
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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    So I've semi-tried to make that a rule - the only problem is that leaving the door closed makes the smell linger for much longer. So lately I've been closing the door about 3/4ths shut and leaving the fan on and hoping that gets the message across.

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  • Holly
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    Hopefully that plus poo pourri work for you! Maybe my bathroom fan is just stronger or something. I used to think those built in fans were so tacky and made it so obvious that you were pooping but now I don’t think I could ever have a bathroom without one! Lol
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  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
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    Fortunately I tend to be a morning pooper and usually take care of business before FH gets up since he wakes up later than I do. Sometimes I get a little self conscious of smell if he is up, but it's just part of life so I try not to worry about it. We're about equal on the smell scale so that probably helps in terms of self-consciousness.

    We do have an air freshening spray in case of really bad offenses.

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  • Catherine
    Beginner May 2020
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    I've always hated them too, and the one in our current apartment seems to be especially useless (at least when it comes to me). Maybe when FH and I buy a place I'll look into industrial strength. 😂

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    My FH must have an olfactory sense of steel. He walks right in while I'm doing the deed, and it's not pretty! I don't even want to be in there. But he's always like, no big deal babe. I'm not especially embarrassed to go in front of him, but the smell!!! Yikes!! I totally get what you are saying because I'm in this same boat! But FH doesn't even care! So, as much as I try to go when nobody is around, there are times when that is unavoidable. So, if he doesn't mind, I guess I should try to not mind either. Smiley winking

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  • Madison
    Devoted May 2022
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    Hahaha my fiancé and I legit talk to each other when the other is going to the bathroom! He always jokes and says like mmmmm can I just poop and I’m like no I have a question or I want to bug you 😂 I was actually the one that made sure he felt comfortable as he moved into my place so I went in there one day and was like hey what’s up 😂 he never cared and now it’s just our norm. There’s legit nothing to be embarrassed by at all.
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  • M
    Devoted June 2019
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    Hopefully this feeling goes away for you! We have farting contests, won't warn the person entering their room of doom, dutch ovens, whatever. You are marrying this person. Eventually you won't be able to wait or hide it so why not just do what you gotta do? Risk making yourself ill and put a large amount of strain on your body by not going naturally.

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