NWR: step-parenting. My son has a step mom & I need advice please!

Thank you ladies for all your advice! I really appreciate it. It's such a delicate situation and I'm not trying to ruin things or cause conflict but I do want them to know how my child is feeling & that I'm upset behind him being upset. I'll have a talk with his dad this weekend & see how far that gets me (if u believe in the power of prayer say a prayer for me please lol)

Praying for you, girl!!

So sorry this is going on and I think as an adult the stepmom was a little out of line in her response. Of course your son is going to tell you what goes on when he is away from you, he is suppose to. Does she have children? I just hate when adults bring children into adult mess and when children are made to feel uncomfortable. My first response would be, I am not sending my child back over there, but I know it is not that easy. I really hope it all works out.

Sending prayers your way. This really is a tough situation, and I hope for the best for you and your family.

@FutureMrsHicks that was my 1st thought but I'm like no that's his dad & I've never kept him from his father regardless of how I feel about him. I totally agree kids should never be brought into adult mess. My son's father was never happy about me getting married even though he's been with this girl for years but he always wanted to have that access to me. Anytime I cut him off from me we would have issues with my son. Just ridiculous & I'm tired of it. Now his wife is starting her mess & enough is enough.

Thanks Danielle and Ariel!!!!

I have no advice for you that wasn't already given but I just wanted you to know I have a 4-year-old daughter from a previous marriage and the word "jerk" doesn't even begin to describe her dad. We have shared parenting, because that's what we BOTH felt was best for her but now I am seriously considering filing for full custody. He is a HORRIBLE co-parent. In fact, he doesn't even co-parent with me, his fiance/baby momma, is the ONLY one who communicates with me. She picks my daughter up when it's time for her to go to their house, she takes her to the dr, she signs her up for dance/gymnastic classes (without consulting me), etc. And my ex won't even respond to my text or phone calls. And when I ask him when is a good time we could sit down and talk about our co-parenting relationship and some boundaries that need to be set, he says "I'm too busy, you can talk to Suzy." (not her real name, btw).
I just wanted to let you know I can understand your frustration and I will keep you in my prayers. Sometimes you just have to let go and let God

When my son's dad married ( we were never married) and fh and I decided to move in together the 4 of us sat down and discussed everything. The 4 of us are all raising him together (visits his dad/step mum several times a year) and we all wanted to be on the same page. By no means do we have a great relationship but we respect each other.

Good luck, Shaquaya! I'll be praying! I totally understand. It's hard when you don't want to make waves with "their side" but still want to get your point across. May the Lord lead your heart and your words to say exactly what needs to be said.

I agree with the ladies about calmly bringing it up with his dad etc. I also think you should just tell your son that everyone will have opinions, but it's your hair and you can do what you want with it.

In situations like these, children NEVER misunderstand. Your son knew exactly what is going on and his fear/apprehension is valid. You and his father need to have a polite and cordial talk about the situation.

OMG @FMDelpra that sounds a lot like my son's father! So many times he will ignore me & I have to contact his wife to get arrangements for my son to come home, ridiculous!!! He ignores me a lot smh too bad they don't grow up & mature when we do! His wife has signed my son up for football before as well. Glad to know I'm not the only one going through this!

I appreciate everyone's support! You ladies all made me feel better