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NWR: Thanksgiving ... oh the joys of a merging family. What do you do?

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Kylene, on November 5, 2014 at 3:48 PM

We live right in the middle of both our families. DH's family lives about 1.5 hours north of us. My family (sis, her fam, and my mom) all live in a town about 2 hours in the opposite direction. It obviously makes sense for us to host if we want to see both families. That's what we did last year and...

However, this year my sister really wants to host. Rightfully so. With our wedding, her pregnancy (had her baby last week), etc, she was traveling back and forth from our area to her area every few days so at this point she just wants to stay put.

That's totally fine, but now requires DH and I to pick where we want to go to spend the holiday. Oh the joys of a merging family! His family will be totally fine if we don't go spend the day with them ... my sister on the other hand is holiday happy and will be SUPER disappointed if we aren't there -- so I think that'll be making our decision for us.

How do you deal with Thanksgiving and two families?

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Master May 2014
CeCe · on November 5, 2014 at 5:38 PM
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We use to do thanksgiving with one family and Christmas with the other and trade off every year. That way they only skip a year of thanksgiving and a year of christmas at any time.

Recently though my family has decided to have "Christmas" in early december and that helps. We now let his family choose thanksgiving or Christmas and spend the other holiday at home together.
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Emily · on November 5, 2014 at 5:48 PM
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I am lucky in that my FH's family doesn't celebrate any holidays (no idea why they just don't) so I never really have to worry about what his family is doing. However we are planning to start a family as soon as were married so I am thinking once that happens we will most likely be spending Thanksgiving Sunday with my parents and then Thanksgiving Monday at our house and we will invite his parents over.
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Rebekah · on November 5, 2014 at 5:59 PM
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Oh how I have a love hate relationship with the holidays. Normally, we do thanksgiving around noon with his family and leave around 3-4 to drive to my parents and eat around 6. For Christmas, we start Christmas Eve at my grandparents which is a hour away until about 5 and then drive an hour and a half to his Dad's side and then later that night we drive home about a hour away.. Christmas morning we go to his parents to eat until around 3-4 and then leave to drive about a hour and a half to my family to eat.

This year I want to have Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with mine and swap next year. The above scenario is to much running around and I can't even enjoy it because about the time I get comfortable it's time to leave. I am exhausted typing this.
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