NWR- that one girl who has to tag along to guys night. . have one?!

That is why I felt bad, This guy was looking at engagement rings, wanted children with her and she just left him. Then she showed up and I know it had to hurt. FH told me he actually had to say something to her last night because she wouldn't shut up. He told her "My fiancé is sitting at home, his girlfriend is home, and hes here for support, why did you even think it was okay to come?" I guess she said the one guy is her friend too and she hasn't seen him. That mad him even more angry because she blows that guy off all time. He told the guy he isn't coming for guys night anymore if he cant grow a set of balls and tell her she isn't coming.

I was that girl BUT none of the guys were my boyfriend, i wasnt tagging along, i wasnt sleeping with any of the guys and I was not friends with their GFs(or borrowing their stuff), I did not complain about not being invited etc, and literally there was no drama associated with it like in your story, and they dont invite you because you "be mad" otherwise, thats not a reason. so yes, shes being stupid, sounds like she needs her own friends?

We have a worse problem in our group. There is a girl who thinks she's my best man's best friend. Which is funny, cuz look, I know I am. So when everyone told her, no, Pezzy is, she started saying that she was the other best friend. She even wanted to go to the f-into bachelor party, and I had to explain to her hell freaking no, she doesn't understand her boundaries. It's not that she's into my best man, she isn't, and she loves my best man's wife. She just doesn't know when she shouldn't be around. Ugh, thank god she moved to New York.

Oh good gracious, this girl needs to back down. I honestly don't think a relationship can be healthy unless both people have outside friends and a bit of separate time. I love when fh gets to go out with his brother or friends because it's pretty rare for their schedules to all work out (fh is the last one to get married and they all have kids). So if he has a chance for a guys night to catch up with the boys and relax, I would never spoil that for him.

Besides, he's more than understanding when my bff comes to town and wants to hog me a bit.

She's going to suffocate him, she can't be his only best friend.

Omg I know one too!

She's really nice, I don't know her that well but our male halves have been friends for 11 years, and the other couple hVe been together about 8. My FH is godfather to their kids, everyone is close. But once a week is strictly guys night, I stay out of it and then I realize this chick has been there all along!! Apparently it's drives the other guys up a wall, but it's her only way out of the house also since they share a vehicle, so they don't want to make it a thing. Um hello, stay home and then make it a point to go out on your own another night. Bleh.

I could only wish my FH would go out!! He doesn't cause his work sched sucks ass. But when I plan a girls night, there's always the one who brings a guy

Am I the only one that thinks less blame should be put on this girl and maybe her bf is to blame? Seriously, your FI should have told him to stay home until he grows out of his diapers and can piss on his own.

(hah, I missed the comment where he already told his buddy that. Good for him!)

Just to throw out another perspective...i don't really "get" girls nights for the most part...but we are somewhat gender bending. FH and i have friends of all genders, so we don't often have "girls night" or "boys night", although we do have some small groupings of friends that sometimes hang out without partners. that doesn't mean that we don't do things independently, just that it tends to be one of us deciding not to attend versus one of us not being invited.

FH does have a group of "boys", and half of them have partners so we all hang out as a group. one of the single guys sometimes tries to organized "guy only" events but they never seem to work out unless it's for a special reason like a bachelor party (i don't think it's because of any of the partners prevent it, i think just the other guys see the group as having expanded to include the girls).

in your situation, it seems as though she is intruding though. particularly with the break up scenario.

I have been that girl in the past but I would make very sure that all the guys wanted me there. I am a total guys girl in all honestly and have amazing guy friends. I always made sure that it wasn't boys night, but very often I'd be the only girl there anyway bc in that group a lot of the other girls were doctors and had crazy hours. However, true boys nights were boys nights. If someone was getting over a breakup I would absolutely not have been there. And I would NEVER have assumed or even invited myself along. Blech. She is beig a guys girl wrong. Annoying.