NWR. Update on friends being distant since I got engaged.

I did notice that as soon as I got engaged my BFF reaction was definitely not what I expected...at first when I had even mentioned to her that FH might be proposing because of all the hints - a real BFF would've been jumping for joy and like OMG OMG OMG!!! but instead she was like why would he do that? it's supposed to be a surprise I would be really upset if my boyfriend did that to me...and then she just quickly changed the subject...and ever since I've been engaged she's just really changed...we hardly hang out and she never asks me to hang out and I'm so tired of being the one to say "mind if i stop by" like I always put the effort into hanging out but yet I can't get the same in return....and this was a friend I've known for 15 years which is just crazy!!!! but yeah you really do know who you can count on when you get engage and unfortunately at this time it's really no one but my FH - I saw her last week and not once did she asks how the wedding planning is going...(cont)

But yet her boyfriend asked me but yeah I don't know we always said to each other we would be each others MOH when the time comes but if she gonna act like this now I just don't know any more.....feeling real lonely these days =(

Wow, Gina I cant believe your former friend said "Why would he do that?" smh. That's shady.

I know!!!! It's really sad!!! Like I get it she is probably upset because she has been dating her boyfriend for almost 6 years and I was with FH for a year before we got engaged but that's not my fault...you shouldn't take that out on me you should take that out on your boyfriend but oh well....i was looking around for quotes about friendships and I found one that was just right....

The only people you need in your life are the ones who prove that they need you in theirs

Some friends I was in HS I have lost cause of life. I had a baby so once that happened everyone parted their way. The ones am really close to no. I never gotten into arguements with none of my friends. Am not the type to argue like that. If I see negative toard a person I go the other way. I only have 2 real best friends but since then they also got a life and kids so do I. I dont really get mad just part of life. One of my other close friends too but she lives in Philly for college so shes coming down for Christmas so when she does I'll see her. Sometimes life gets in the way. hen I moved some friends I have a little contact and dont see much but try to talk every other day.

When people like that to you its for the best you dont pay mind.

Chelsea B. Were in the same boat! till this day we're still hearing about our wedding and what we did wrong and what we didn't do and what we needed to do and the whole 9..it's just insane. And i 100 % agree with you..

Great quote Gina!!! FB status! lool

Yolanda, wow, they really need to just get over it already!!!

Since I got engaged, one of my friends who i thought i was close with has totally been extremely distant. When she got engaged, my friends and i were so excited for her to come home from their trip to tell us all the details and were begging to meet up ASAP. Since i got engaged, she hasnt asked to hang out AT all, hasnt shown a single interest in the engagement, nothing. She recently got married last summer and i was in her wedding party and now i really dont know what ill do. i dont feel like she deserves to be in mine since it jsut seems like she doesnt care at all that im engaged. She hasnt shown an ounce of happiness for me and shes been so distant! i see her every week too because we play on a sports team together and shes so distant there so its a constant reminder in the face how awkward it is with her. She was being weird alittle since before i got engaged but now that im engaged, her true colors are showing more. its like she hates that the spotlight isnt on her anymore (cont)

(cont) but you would think she would put her own feelings aside for a moment to be completely happy for one of her friends? She randomly texts me the other day asking what im doing for the weekend (we barely speak anymore) so i told her my plans and thew out "lets hang out soon" and she completely avoided it. it just hurts that during such a great time in my life, its getting ruined by a "friend" who isnt being a friend at all

Aww Steph! Don't feel too bad it's happened to a lot of us here.....definitely don't put her in your wedding just because you was in hers...it don't work that way! luckily these days my friend who I was talking about on here just recently turned around - she's now asking me to hang out again and she even came to a bridal show with me and is more talkative about my wedding so maybe things will turn around for you - who knows =) good luck with your planning!