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APZ
VIP March 2017

NWR: would you peck kiss your parents/family on the lips?

APZ, on October 11, 2017 at 5:54 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 72

The other day I was flipping through wedding pics with a friend/acquaintance and she saw a photo from our ceremony of my dad giving me away. In the photo I am giving him a peck kiss--kinda between lip and cheek. She thought it was weird enough to comment on and said "I haven't given/received a kiss from my dad since I was little.i didn't know people did that over elementary age." First off I thought it was a little rude for her to comment since we aren't that close but the more I thought about it, I don't feel like there is anything strange or wrong with it, as it isn't sexual in any way/shape/form. my family has always been very open and affectionate, and I guess I never realized how many families are not. while we are primarily cheek kissers- it is not unheard of for a lip peck in certain situations(with my mom/dad...wouldn't lip kiss my brothers), like greeting or saying goodbye when it has been/will be a long time before seeing each other again. In your family what is the norm?

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Latest activity by Madelayna, on October 15, 2017 at 9:46 AM
  • Kourtney
    Beginner December 2017
    Kourtney ·
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    It's not the norm in my family, but it's nobody's place to judge, privately or publicly. It was pretty rude of her to post that. She needs to mind her own

    ETA: Changed words

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  • Boinkin
    Devoted April 2018
    Boinkin ·
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    Every culture is different, every human being is different. I'd write back "you can kiss my ass".

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  • S
    Master January 2017
    SnowQueen ·
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    We dont in my family but i know some that do. super rude she commented on that. i wouldnt think twice seeing it.

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  • Rea
    Devoted November 2017
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    OPboinkin, lol

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  • MrsB
    VIP June 2017
    MrsB ·
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    H's family does this! TBH I found it super weird at first but I'm sort of used to it now. My family are huggers and hardly ever kiss at all.

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  • fallinthegarden
    Master October 2017
    fallinthegarden ·
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    Not the norm in my family either, but that was rude of her to say.

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  • Future Mrs. G
    VIP February 2018
    Future Mrs. G ·
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    I have seen it done a number of times, but I personally don't do this with my dad. Nothing I would lose sleep over.

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  • JerseyGirl
    Master May 2017
    JerseyGirl ·
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    Norm in my family but not DH. Most of them don't even hug.

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  • Mrs PNW Nugget
    Beginner September 2018
    Mrs PNW Nugget ·
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    I'm Cuban and we kiss everybody on the cheek! It was super weird to me when I first escaped my Miami bubble that other people hugged so much but no one did the kiss on the cheek as a greeting. We're all different and there's nothing wrong with that.

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  • Dolores Umbridge
    VIP June 2017
    Dolores Umbridge ·
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    We're definitely cheek/ cheek to cheek kissers/huggers when saying hi or bye with my parents (only child) but i can't think of a time it was ever lips. but i probably wouldn't even notice if someone did in front of me or in a picture.

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  • EM
    Master April 2017
    EM ·
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    Nope. My family is not very affectionate, neither are my ILs.

    Sooooo glad about that on both fronts. It doesn't weird me out when I see other people being affectionate with their families, it's just not how mine is.

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
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    We don’t kiss on the lips but we kiss everyone on the cheek. It may be just your family’s comfort level.

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  • kel.p
    Savvy October 2019
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    I don't do that with my parents, but I don't see why it'd be a big deal for other families to.

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  • Lanae
    Dedicated February 2018
    Lanae ·
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    It's norm in my family, but I don't see my parents as much anymore as I moved in w FH and Now live 2 hrs away from them. I haven't ever thought of it as awkward until seeing everyone else's comments. Now I wonder how it will be when my dad gives me away...

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  • APZ
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    APZ ·
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    @Lanae--same- I'm about 3 hours from family, so its a big deal to see them. but that's my thought...I mean I personally thought absolutely nothing of it, and I know many of our guests were raised in families similar to ours, but I'm sure some were not. The thought ran through my mind "i wonder if anyone thought it was weird or was uncomfortable about it at the wedding?"

    I mean...I guess it doesn't matter, because I'm not going to suddenly start showing affection differently in my family, especially during my wedding....and DH is the same way with his family, (at least his mom and grandma)...

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  • Cassie
    Super April 2018
    Cassie ·
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    Me and my mom will kiss on the lips sometimes saying hello or bye, just depends. I don't with my dad but I'm also not close with my dad. That is super rude she commented, I don't think it's a big deal personally. It's just a way to show affection. Parents kiss their babies/toddlers on the lips and no one thinks that's weird but then you get to a certain age and it suddenly "becomes" weird. It totally depends on your family/comfort level. If that is your relationship and you both feel comfortable, that's all that matters :-)

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    My family never, ever kissed on the lips at any age. We used to do cheek kisses when I was little, but that faded out over time. To be honest, it does make me mildly uncomfortable since for me and basically everyone I grew up around lip kisses were for lovers. But I would never say anything to a friend whose family did things differently. How rude!

    Oh, and I would never consider my family to not be affectionate. We hug constantly. But lip kissing would be a bridge too far.

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  • Rachel
    Savvy June 2019
    Rachel ·
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    That's not something my family does, but I know plenty of families that still do. It's not super out of the norm. I would try to not let it get to you that much! It's just one opinion.

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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    We kiss on the cheek in my family, but everyone is different. As long as it's a peck, I think it is all good

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  • KatieJade
    Expert September 2018
    KatieJade ·
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    In my family we hug. My grandpa and mom/aunts lip peck sometimes and he tried to with me and I definitely wasn't comfortable. But I don't think it's that out of the norm.

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