NWR: would you peck kiss your parents/family on the lips?

Yes my family is also very affectionate, but regardless it was pretty rude of your friend to say anything at all. I hate when ppl are so judgemental!

I kiss my PR family on the cheek and my DH's family on the cheek. I also learned really early in life that some cultures are very stand offish with affection with their family and others are not. On my mom's side the most affection you get is a quick hug. On my dad's side cheek kisses and long hugs. I also have friends that I absolutely don't hug or touch based on their culture or preference. On the other hand some of my closest friends (both male and female), I greet with cheek or lip kisses. It's just our culture.

I think it's super judgy that she commented. It's like really inappropriate to leave that comment.

I kiss my dad all over his face and I am 31 !!!

I kiss all of my family on the lip (including extended family). My cousins and siblings only get cheek kisses.

I grew up doing this and its always been normal. My fh mentioned that it was weird on multiple occasions, but its how I was raised so very much my "norm".

Nopenopenpoenopneopneopenopenope. As someone who was molested by a family member at a young age, I can't even think about this without feeling faintly sick. I got a 'lip peck' once from another family member and I was uncomfortable for hours.

It's definitely not the norm in my family. My grandmother will kiss me on the cheek but that's about it. However, we're not overly affectionate people in my family. We only hug at weddings, funerals, or when someone is going back home when they live far away.

Now FH's family? They're super affectionate. The first time his mom saw me she gave me a hug. Same with his grandparents on all sides, and my awkward ass self is over here going rigid. Ha! I even mentioned it to him about how different it was. I've gotten used to it by now (still awkward for me) so I just kind of go with it.

My SIL still pecks her mom and dad on the lips. So, I mean, it's a 'different strokes for different folks,' kind of thing. No reason to judge someone over it or make rude comments to them about it. I'd tell the girl to kick rocks. Or to kiss my ass. Whichever one works.

Not a norm for my family. Getting my dad to say "I love you " is like pulling teeth.

However her comment was very rude especially with your not so close relationship.

To answer your question, no but my grandmother does kiss on the cheek. If I saw someone else doing it or in a picture I wouldn't say anything because I know it's custom in some families.

I lip peck my dad, my uncle, and my dads childhood best friend (pretty much like a second father) as a hello before a hug. Also my grandpa before he passed. I also lip peck my son- he's 6. I don't see a problem with that. A few friends and I cheek kiss.

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@Orchids- I'm so sorry that happened to you. That is never excusable. I can completely understand your feelings towards this due to your experience.

Thankfully, I never faced such a horrid experience with a family member (or anyone for that matter). I never had to question any family members' intentions behind a peck kiss.

I can really see how divided of a topic this is with everyone and their families. I do find it really interesting. It makes me wonder how much it is passed generation to generation or even changes between generations. For example: my mother was only told 'I love you' by her father a time or two until she was an adult. As my papa aged he became much softer and emotional, and now tells her every time he sees or speaks to her. I have always wondered if that made my mom that much more affectionate towards us as kids because she wanted us to know we were loved and supported.

While I do think that persons comment was un-called for- it certainly isn't something I will lose sleep over. I was simply curious what was normal in each of your lives/families.

Ugh, H's grandpa always tries to go in for a lip kiss. So freaking awkward. These lips are for my husband only. (Also occasionally my daughter, but she is really young and I probably won't do that for much longer.)

However, just because I'm not comfortable with it, doesn't mean it's wrong. Obviously it's not sexual, and I'd never tell a friend that she's wrong for pecking her dad on the lips. To each their own.

I don't think its weiiiirdddddd.....

But I don't think I've even kissed my mom or dad on the cheek in god knows how long. So it would be weird for me if they came in for a smooch on the lips.

Up until I was an adult my dad and I did a very not incest like kiss on the lips, but honestly the only person I kiss on the lips is FH. My kid gets me sick and really everyone else is now a cheek kiss. I just want to not get sick because of other people. When the kid and FH leave in the morning, kid gives me a cheek kiss and FH gets a normal I love you mouth kiss.

I don't really think it's weird. It's just not me.

I've always thought it was a little awkward to see because I don't do that in my family. That being said, it's not that uncommon, and it was definitely rude of your friend to say anything.

It's the norm in my FH's family. Which I thought was weird at first.

FH's entire family does this, especially their grandma. She will kiss everyone on the lips, and my family is over here with the Christian side hug (and even that is too much for some people).

I wouldn't...

I kiss my niece on the lips sometimes because she's 1, just learning the concept, and thinks it's hilarious. I don't share any lip kisses with my family, but my MIL will peck kiss her daughter. I didn't think it was super weird, but my reaction might have been different if it were her father. Regardless, I would never comment on it to someone.

We don't lip kiss, but we do cheek kiss every time, all family members.

It's norm for my family. I still give my grandma a lip peck. She raised me and I couldn't imagine not doing it. Extended family and siblings get hugs and maybe a cheek peck though. She was very rude. It's not her place to say anything like that because it's not her family and not all families are the same.