NWR: would you peck kiss your parents/family on the lips?

My family is big on hugs and cheeks kisses, every time I end a phone call with my mom, dad, or any family member I tell them I love them. In the 5.5 years FH and I have been together, I think I've heard his mom tell him that she loves him like 5 times, tops. To me, that's weird..

To each their own, I suppose!

It's normal in my family . We kiss on the cheek and give hugs as a greeting and as a goodbye.

Every family is different. My family isn't affectionate at all and FH's family are big huggers. I was stunned when I first met them and got hugged.

Just because it's not normal to one person doesn't mean it's wrong.

We kiss both cheeks, one side then the other, when greeting and saying goodbye, but no lip to lip kisses even as kids. I would think the lip kiss weird if I saw it in a picture, but probably wouldn't say that.

Dad gives me lip pecks whenever we see each other. We lived long distance my entire childhood and now in my adult life. It's not weird for us.

We mostly stick to cheek kisses, but every once in awhile if there is a particularly emotional moment we give lip kisses (to say goodbye or hello).

We don't but we are big huggers

My family used to kiss on the lips when I was little. It still happens occasionally, but for the most part it's faded out. FH's family, on the other hand, is big hugs and cheek or lip kisses all the way and from the moment I met them. I think it's sweet that they're so affectionate. There's definitely a clear difference between how we all peck each other versus kissing our SO.

We do this in my family....but we've always done it, so it's normal to us. But it's only between kids and parents: my siblings and I don't greet each other this way.

In the United States you tend to see a lot less of this. The broader culture tends to be more hands off with greetings.

But either way, super uncalled for and not OK to make comments about how one interacts with family members in this way.

I was taught that lip kisses were for significant others, so honestly yes, I think it's weird. But I wouldn't tell other people that if I saw it.

My family were never lip kissers and I personally wouldn't be comfortable kissing my parents or any other family member on the lips, but my family isn't terribly affectionate so maybe I'm just awkward. We do cheek kiss on special occasions or when we see relatives we don't see often though.

FH's family however are big lip kissers. FH even pecks his grandfather on the lips when he sees him, which is fairly often as they live close. While it's not my thing, I don't think it's weird for them if that's what they want to do.

The only issue I have is that FH's family is also big on kissing kids in the family on the lips, even if the kid doesn't want to. FH's family thinks it's rude if the kid doesn't "properly" greet/say goodbye to adult family members by giving kisses, whereas I would never force a kid to give any sign of affection they don't want to give so I usually just ask them if I can have a hug goodbye.

And I know lots of parents kiss their babies/young children on the lips but I really hate the idea of kissing infants on the mouth as I've read a number of horrifying stories recently about newborns getting seriously ill or dying from being kissed by an adult with a cold sore and getting infected with HSV1 but that's a whole other issue.

Anyway, your friend was rude to point it out to you like that.

I feel like every family is just different. FH's family is fine with a wave goodbye. You can't escape one of my families events without hugging everyone individually, and usually a kiss on the cheek. Granted I was raised this way, so I see nothing wrong with it- but seriously... What's wrong with giving your dad a kiss on the cheek! I think that would be a cute picture to have

My family doesn't but my uncle is the only one that usually does/tries. It's not something I'm comfortable with so I usually try to dodge him and give him a kiss on the cheek when I see him. No idea where he got that from since no one else in the family does it but he's always loved European culture so maybe that's where? If it's more prominent there?

And agreed, it is very rude to make a comment on that. I'm sorry you feel weird about something normal in your family.

Everyone's families are different. My family isn't like this, not since I was a small child at least....and even then I can't really recall doing it. My family does like cheek kisses though!

There's nothing wrong with your family showing love that way, but certainly someone who didn't grow up around that sort of affection might find it odd just because it's different from their own norm. She still made a very rude comment and shouldn't have said anything!

I kiss my mom and dad on the lips. H thought it was weird and mentioned that to me, but I don't think it's weird. We also have a very open and affectionate family. I kiss all of my brothers and sister on the cheek. He, not so much. My son is five and he kisses everyone in our family on the lips!

My family is very affectionate - we're all huggers. And sometimes we'll even kiss hello and goodbye. A quick peck on the lips or cheek, doesn't matter. And at the end of every phone call - an "I love you."

The husband's family, not so much. But as we've gotten older, and so have his folks, I make an effort to hug them goodbye. They are fine with this, they just don't initiate. We live a few hours from them, and you just never know.

Our friends' group - all hug and kiss greetings. We don't get to see each other nearly as often as we'd like, so we want each visit to really count.

[She thought it was weird enough to comment on and said "I haven't given/received a kiss from my dad since I was little.i didn't know people did that over elementary age."]

I'm going to go against all the other posters, and say that I don't think the OP's friend was rude in her comment. It appears this was an in-person chat, not an on-line posting. And after reading the words several times, all the friend did was state what happens in her OWN family. And express her surprise that is happens over a certain age. There's no malice. No meanness. Nothing critical towards the OP. I don't think it's rude at all. It was a conversation. Not an attack. But jmho.

Eh. It's a big no with my dad considering I largely refuse to even touch my dad. I'm getting to the point I'm sick of it with my mom. But that's because my family doesn't treat me well, really. To me, they're silly things and as long as no lines are being crossed it's fine. I mean, I kiss my Grandpa on the cheek occasionally when I hug him.

Also, one of FH's uncles did a European-style double cheek kiss to me when I met him. I skipped a beat but figured it out quickly and it was no big deal.

Meh, it's all about how you were brought up. Not weird really...

As for me, I'm barely a hugger, if there was a peck involved that wasn't my FH...I probably wasn't the one who initiated it.

I kiss my kids on the lips all the time when saying good bye, good morning, i love you etc. they are elementary age and under though... i can see going to the cheek when they get a little older. I know i kissed my daughter when greeting her in class for read for a better life and a class mate commented that it was weird but she didnt care lol.

My mom and I hug and kiss on the cheek every time we say goodbye to one another. We have never been lip kissers, but I know many people who are. To each their own. Not my place to judge.