October 2020 brides, where you at?!

We have changed our date from May to October 18th. I'm worried too, but hopeful it will be ok. Honestly I don't know that there is any safe time to have a wedding coming right now. We just can't know when it will be safe. We don't know if next spring will be safe, nor next Summer. There is no way to know what's coming and it's stressful, but we're hoping for October and if we have to postpone again, we will. I think we're just getting our minds around the fact that our wedding will probably look different from what we had planned and hoped for.

Just changed mine from July 17 to October 25 I pray it’s ok because I cannot go through this again I’m already mourning the loss of my summer wedding something I have always wanted but we still plan to legally get married that day anyways but I don’t want to have to push this again but it’s so hard to know the unknown is the worst!!!

We're getting married 10/10/20 and I'm trying to stay hopeful too. We've been together for about 10 years now (high school sweethearts) and I've always wanted a fall wedding so I don't want to wait much longer. But yeah we can't really know what the future brings, but things might get better by summer. I'm still planning like usual, although it's a bit harder with lots of places closed. I was wanting to get my dress altered this month, but that's going to have to wait. I still also need to get our wedding bands, cake, and hair & makeup booked. Glad I do have the support of other brides on here though! I check these forums almost every day to see how everyone else is doing.

We are 10/16/2020 and are still hopeful our date will work out. We were in the midst of booking a caterer when all this happened so I’m beyond stressed, we had planned to book it earlier but FHs grandmother had some health issues and it didn’t work out and trying to do that with everything being shut down is just yikes.
We do have a backup plan but I really don’t want to change our date.

Don't panic yet the fall is predicted to be ok but noone really knows unfortunately. The second wave I thought was more into winter when it gets colder.

We are 10/10/2020. I am the opposite of hopeful because I feel that this will not be over by then. Until there is a cure or vaccine, there is no way things will be "normal" and it can take years to find a cure/vaccine. We've been planning for two years and are ready to start a family. In July, we will decide how to move forward. We will either have to significantly decrease our guest list depending on what the state orders, or we will cancel the whole thing and have a backyard wedding with just our parents and siblings. I'm not letting this virus ruin my wedding, and I'm not waiting even longer to start a family! If nothing else, this virus has taught me that time is precious and not to wait too long for things I truly want. You never know what will happen. Hope for the best, but have a backup plan! Good luck!!

This is my wedding date too! I am trying to stay hopeful because I don’t really want to change anything about my fall wedding, it’s what I always wanted. And I don’t want to wait any longer than that to get married, either. But, I am thinking that if we do have to postpone or cancel, I am going to have a small ceremony in my yard or at my grandmother’s place with just our immediate family. Then I will have my original planned ceremony and reception later on when it is safe to do so. It’s not ideal, but it’s out of our control. I’m trying to look on the positive side, this will give me the best of both worlds because I always wanted a big wedding but I also wanted an intimate ceremony, so if I have to use my backup plan, I will at least get to experience both of these scenarios!

My fiancé and I are also worried about our 10/9/20 date. For us, it would help if we could move it out a couple of months just to make up for the planning time lost but unfortunately our venue is not being reasonable and won’t allow us to switch dates unless we submit an entirely new down payment and sign a new contract. While I get that the date is still pretty far out it’s the inability to plan that’s really stressing us out, the last thing we want is to scramble in 3 months to finalize our plans. We keep emailing and expressing our concern and frustration but the venue is being super unreasonable. Not to mention this is probably not the best time to be dropping thousands of dollars when there are some economic uncertainties. You are not alone and a small ceremony with a later reception. Party sounds like a great idea.
Best,
Eddie

Our date is 10/23. I really hope everything will be okay and that we will still be able to have our wedding. I really dont want to have to alter our plans or postone. Weve been planning this close to 2 years and would love to be married already.

Don't cry. I mean I feel the same way as you. We are getting married Oct 9th 2020. I pray it works out for us all. We will be 10 years together in October and we are so ready to marry each other. Its so tough.

View Quoted Comment You are lucky. Those are simple thing. I have not ordered my dress yet and I am getting married on October 9 2020. So I'm gonna have real trouble here. Ugh. I'm just hoping for the best.

I’m a November 3rd Bride, and I’m getting nervous as well. When I talk to my fiancé about it, he just keeps saying “it will all be done by then”. That’s all fine and dandy for him to have Hope, but We also never thought we would be where we are. It’s so tough because it’s just a waiting game. To ease my mind, I’m setting myself a time frame. I’m telling myself I will not worry or address any planning issues until May 20th. That’s one month. I feel like we should have more information by then.

My fiancé and I have been set on October. We love the fall. Our plan was October 2020. We got engaged end of 2019. We are both nurses who work on COVID units at our hospital and since the beginning of 2020 it’s been bumpy with personal life stuff and then corona virus came out. I then wasn’t able to get to stores to try on dresses. I wasn’t able to have my bridesmaids go try on anything either. Then I got sick with pneumonia for 3 weeks. Everyone in my family was also worried that by October we don’t know if everything will be entirely back to normal and a lot of the older folks in our family wouldn’t feel comfortable traveling on a Plane that soon and also being around a bunch of people. Which made us push it to the end of April 2021. We’re hoping the weather is ok and everything is kinda back to normal at that time. This has been a scary time for all. Best of luck.

Ours was October 17, 2020. We struggled thinking about what to do over the past 2 weeks and decided to postpone to June 2021. I’m disappointed and it is very far out (will be engaged for 2 years).


However, even if this is all over by end of summer, we will have lost out on months of planning time. We live in an area with a high number of covid-19 cases. We also weren’t sure what social restrictions may still be in place then, and we have 50% of our guests traveling in from out of state. It was too much stress and uncertainty, so we went with our gut and decided to postpone.
Some may think we may have jumped the gun since Oct is so far away, but ever since postponing, I feel like it is a big weight lifted off my shoulders.

It's understandable with what's going on right now. There are a lot of emotions going on right now and it's hard to plan for the unknown but it's going to be okay! Our wedding is on October 31st and we are concerned but we are also really hopeful. There will be people who don't come because of what's going on and that's understandable. We have been planning this for a year and will be a year and a half by the time we get married, so we don't really want to postpone. So even if it has to be a small wedding then that's how it's going to be for us. I love Halloween and have always dreamed about getting married on that date to someone as wonderful as my FH so even if we have to postpone, he and I will get married on that date either way.

View Quoted Comment We just did the same thing. We are from Rhode Island. Our wedding was suppose to be on 10/24/20. Now we are looking at 4/30/21. I am kind of bummed because I always pictured a crisp fall wedding with the fall colors etc. but working as a nurse on a covid unit I am seeing scary things first hand and although I won’t be able to have my wedding in the fall I hope that we all stay healthy and it will give us all Alittle extra time to prepare but also to relax before our big day. Planning is already a stressful enough and now the corona made it worse. Before all this started I tried on 3 dresses and then the next couple days the nonessential stores were closed and a few of my brides maids have babies at home and didn’t want to go out and look because they were scared of getting sick. It’s all been really odd to say the least but our time will come ❤️

I'm getting married 10-25-20 . I am waiting until July to make any assessments. I have little things to do yet, the bigger things I have left is the cake, flowers and invitations. Keep praying this will all be done with like Asap . It's gotta end at some point right????

Our date is 10-18-20 and I'm also starting to worry. Even if things get better, I'm worried abut a second wave and many of our guests are from other states. We will give it another month or two before we decide. Right now it's just hard to keep planning because I don't know what will happen. We still need to get a florist, wedding bands, my fiance needs a tux. My dress is ordered but I'm concerned I won't be able to have it altered due to everything being closed. Our venue is beautiful and we definitely want a fall wedding, we will try to postpone until October 2021 if we have to cancel for this year. We've already been engaged a year so I hope we won't have to wait another year.

View Quoted Comment Hey Amy,
We have the same date! We’re a bit stressed as well since our venue is not being flexible in letting us postpone at this time should we not feel completely comfortable. Waiting until May 20th is a good idea. Are you at a complete stand still at the moment? Or are you still able to plan? -Eddie

View Quoted Comment Hey Eddie!


I’m still doing a little bit of planning, mostly just decor and brainstorming. I already have 3 big hitters: venue, dress, photographer. I’m waiting to do anything else until more opens up. I thought we were going to be able to plan the honeymoon but that’s at a stand still as well. Honestly the planning has paused only because things aren’t open (bridal shops, catering, bakery, etc)!