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Candace, on April 9, 2020 at 10:18 AM

Are you still holding on to your date?? My fiancé and I have put off getting engaged/married for a while so that I could finish nursing school and get settled into my career. To get close to almost being done paying off our student loans, so that we’re in a good place when we get married. We were so excited for this year, because finally we feel like life can truly start for us. With that being said, I feel a lot of guilt bc neither of us want to postpone our wedding. We’ve waited so long for this, sacrifices a lot for this, been judged for being together for so long and not being married, and we don’t want to postpone our date. Friends mainly have been suggesting that we need to postpone so that we can get the wedding experience. Our plan B is to get married on that day— of course abiding by proper and safe guidelines. If that means only our parents can be there and the priest, we are fine with that. We’re going back and forth about having a wedding reception at a later date IF the 10 or less rule still exists at that time. What are your thoughts? What are you and your fiancés plans?

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Christina · on April 9, 2020 at 6:54 PM
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We are going forward as planned! Unfortunately we had to change the date of my bachelorette party due to covid-19 to end of June so I’m hoping/praying things are back to normal by then & really hoping I don’t have to postpone my bridal shower in July!
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Kelly · on April 9, 2020 at 8:25 PM
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Hi Candace,
My date is 10/10, which is my late father's birthday. It's my way of including him.
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Stephanie · on April 9, 2020 at 10:22 PM
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I am getting married on 10-10-20 and so far I am not planning on postponing. We are hoping this is all said and done with by then. Good luck to you guys
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Anna · on April 10, 2020 at 7:26 AM
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I’m currently making all my plans as though this will be done by October. I still feel like it will be done by summer. Even if it’s not over, my FH & I are certain we will go through with the wedding and have a vow renewal and reception at a later date.
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Candace · on April 10, 2020 at 9:42 AM
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I definitely feel like things will be back to normal, although I feel like there might be some who will still be uncomfortable with larger crowds etc. but just like you we plan on having an intimate gathering for our actual wedding (if the 10 people rule still applies) and forget about the reception. Our venue told us we would get all of our money back if we do not choose to reschedule IF at that time a stay home order isn’t in place
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Candace · on April 10, 2020 at 9:46 AM
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Good luck to you we will get through this!!!
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Anna · on April 10, 2020 at 9:47 AM
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October 24th.

And there may well be a second round. The flu goes around every year. The point of isolating now is to slow the spread not to stop it and not to stay isolated until the cases stop. Wuhan, China has been under strict isolation since January, they’re now coming out of lockdown. 3 months guys, not a whole year.
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Candace · on April 10, 2020 at 1:19 PM
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Sorry if I upset you! I do understand why these orders are set in place and how it affects the spread of the virus: Working at a hospital we’re told when this comes around again we could possible have another quarantine set it place. St. Louis did this along with many other larger cities I’m sure with the Spanish Flu epidemic in the early 1900. If that’s the case then fall/winter weddings or any other important events will be affected again.
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Candace · on April 10, 2020 at 1:22 PM
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Definitely a wonderful way to honor him ❤️
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Coral · on April 20, 2020 at 3:18 PM
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I've been seriously stressing the last few days because I can't imagine giving up my date. We have been planning a wedding for Halloween (my childhood dream) for over two years. Every vendor is locked down and deposited, bridesmaids are good to go, the guy's suits were going to be figured out online anyways because they are all in different states. The wedding was already small, 75 people, but most of us are out of state to the venue and would have to travel. I want to push forward, finish making decor and ordering what I can, but I am so worried it'll be a waste. My FH says it's too early to worry and we'll be back to normal-ish by then, but it still seems like such a looming weight.
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Candace · on April 20, 2020 at 9:24 PM
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That is exactly how I feel. Just like you, my fiancé and I have most of our stuff done. He just needs to figure out the suit situation, we need to get the cake ordered and then finding decorations and tying up lose ends with the transportation. But every time I go to purchase something for our wedding for decor. I stop. And decide against it bc I’m afraid I’m going to spend all this money and not end up having a reception and will end up selling it for a fraction of what I paid for it. So I get it. But I also feel like we will be okay. There may be limitations on the amount of people who come but I feel like our day can happen
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Coral · on April 20, 2020 at 9:29 PM
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We actually just talked today right after I posted and I talked through a Plan B (as long as we can gather in groups of 50 or more we will cut out guest list to 50) and Plan C (I am willing to give up the date and postpone, as long as we keep all out vendors and out beautiful venue). Our wedding is a gothic/vintage Halloween so I made a list of what decor is too Halloweeeny to be part of just a gothic vintage wedding that doesnt happen to on Halloween anymore. It's only like 3 little projects. I will save those for our "point of no return" at the beginning of August (when we need to send invites for original date). I can order and make everything else because we want the same vibe even if we postpone.
I know that was super long but maybe the logic will help you!
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Candace · on April 20, 2020 at 9:55 PM
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The logic definitely helped! Our plan B (if there are 50 people max) would be to just close friends and family and continue on with our plan. Plan C If were on quarantine again. Just our parents and the priest and photographer and getting a refund for our reception and put that towards our new home and call it a day! And we’re both okay with either of those scenarios 💕 I truly appreciate you talking through everything! Also I need to see your vintage gothic look! And do you have your dress?!? Bc I feel like I need to see it if you’re posting it on here! Halloween is my favorite holiday!
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Coral · on April 20, 2020 at 10:15 PM
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I put in what I've gotten done so far so you can see. Adding lace sleeves to the dress and black crinoline underneath, otherwise it's not so Halloween but I'm not a dress person and my whole family and I managed to fall in love with it. Bought it on accident over a year ago cause the store was closing and I wanted to just try different shapes on, saved 95%. The colors are black, burgundy, and gold, and the wedding is at the Edgar Alan Poe Museum. My father is even helping me build an insulated coffin for the booze, complete with a skeleton (he and I build haunted houses and props for them).
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Joanie · on April 23, 2020 at 4:40 PM
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We're starting to think about postponing. Scientists predicting a second wave in the fall, plus that's flu season anyway. I think we would do a ceremony for us on our original date, then hopefully do a larger reception next year.... Guess I'm just trying to picture it and make sure I'm not the only one!
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