October 2020 Weddings - Where are your heads at?!

Ours Is 10/17 && We're Continuing To Plan As Normal. We Will Look At Postponing In August/September If Need Be. Depending On The State Everyone Lives In It Can Be Different For Everyone, Im Not Worried Right Now. Don't Let The Media Frighten You.

We are also 10/10 and, like others, cautiously optimistic. Like others have said, people/brides seem very negative online, but IRL people seem much more confident. Not sure if that's good or bad! We have a few things working in both ways for us:

Pros:

Most of the wedding is planned already, except for smaller details. We DIY'd a lot (Publix doing the cake, Trader Joe's doing the flowers, self-DJ) so fewer vendors to coordinate if we do have to move it. All guests are in the USA. And the wedding is in the South, which I am confident will open back up earlier/more fully than other places. There are also other weddings before us, so we can see what those people do.

Cons:

150 people, so a large-ish crowd. Almost everyone is traveling from out of state, with a big chunk (including us) from the Northeast, where there are travel restrictions right now (ie quarantining people from up here when they travel or not letting them travel at all). Plus the general uncertainty about airfare and whatnot.

I'm loving these discussions though, it feels good to have other October brides to compare notes with!!

View Quoted Comment Why was your August 15 date postponed already? Just curious because that is my date and I’m not sure what to do right now. Hoping things go as scheduled...

View Quoted Comment Hi Sarah,
It was postponed because my ceremony venue is on a college campus, and they are making decisions on a semester basis. So, they cancelled all on-campus classes and activities through Summer 1 and then through Summer 2. My personal thoughts are that, if government restrictions allow, you'll be fine in August if you have private vendors. My reception venue and all other vendors were good to go for August 15.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Best wishes for your new date

Our wedding was originally scheduled for October 10, 2020; we recently postpone to October 7, 2021. We made the decision because we felt it was the right thing to do; even if some people say it's too early. We want to make sure those who want to be there can be and with the restrictions, who knows what 2020 brings. Good luck!

We were originally planned for 4/4. Venue rescheduled us to 5/23 and then pushed us out further to 10/24. I am optimistic! I am REALLY looking forward to the new wedding day because my birthday is 10/26!

09/12/20 and my heads all over the place ! My venue said they have already postponed 3 months of weddings !!

I was originally July 17 just decided to postpone to October 25th praying it’s calmer at that point! 🙏🏻

My state (NH) is saying weeks, if not months before we have everything under control. It sounds like we don't have enough tests here.

October 4th, trying to stay optimistic but getting more concerned as the days go buy. I had to change bridesmaid dresses and I’m hoping the ones I found on amazon are as pretty in person and work out. We were unable to order the original ones d/t all this and the shop being closed during our deadline. We have not begun our honeymoon planning as it’s unclear if we’ll be able to go out of the country by then. We will probably do something close to home and then go on our Aruba honeymoon at a later time.

We are Oct 2. I wasn’t too worried until I remembered we will have over 300 people there- or wanted to. It’s constant anxiety on the date. I’m waiting until the end June to decide.

View Quoted Comment We’re 10/30 and so far we have been hopeful about it still being able to go on with everything

10-10-20 Connecticut Bride here... I'm getting so worried... I keep hearing of events as far out as August getting canceled. We're having a small wedding of about 23 people. We just lost my fiance's grandmother 3 weeks ago. My 84 yr old grandmother beat congestive heart failure and my 88 yr old grandfather is currently beating stage 3 lung cancer. They are our ring bearer and flower girl and they keep saying they need to get better to be at our wedding...I don't know if I can stomach rescheduling it but I'm afraid to because I'm afraid they won't be there if we wait any longer.

My dress is a combination of my mom's dress and my grandmother's dress and is being custom made. Her and my grandfather will be married 65 years this May. I was supposed to see it all done 2 days ago. I can't even go pick it up. My hair and makeup trials can't be scheduled and my fiance can't even pick out outfits for him and his boys. I'm not sure what to do. We're at a complete standstill and very quickly running out of time. I'm not even confident in ordering our invitations.

I'm keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers We'll get through all of this

October 10th here! Our venue is closing down permanently at the end of May (it was a golf course that was struggling financially and they couldn't keep up).

Not having a venue dramatically changed our plans. We started looking at other venues for 2021 but it's been a challenge. My FH, who is always realistic about everything, is being surprisingly optimistic and wants to get married in our backyard on our original date. So now we're planning a small, intimate backyard wedding and praying for the best. Our guest count went from 100 to less than 50.

My sister, who is also my MOH, is kind of whatever about my plans, which sucks. I think in her mind she sees it as "just a wedding" and I get it - there are a lot of more serious things going on but it was disheartening when I reached to her to tell her about our venue closing and her reaction was like "okay, move on." Even my FH was taken aback by her reaction :/ But we're all going through something right now and I'm not one for confrontation.

Best of luck to you all!!

Sending lots of positive vibes to October brides!

View Quoted Comment You bring up something I’ve been struggling with THE most, and I hate to admit it, but the fact that all of the attention is being taken away from our big days is super disheartening. I feel like I have nobody to share my excitement with because most people are not optimistic, and I’m just like hello can we pretend ~something~ is normal for a sec so I can still feel all the feelings brides had before this craziness. I’m sorry your sister reacted that way, that would upset me too. Nobody really knows the proper way to handle any of this. We’re here for you and I am excited for EVERYONE on this thread!

View Quoted Comment I was crying the other day and of course I get told that I need to get over it. We are October 30th and still going on with planning for now unless things change for worse but I have a bridesmaid who had to postpone her wedding and hasn’t picked a new date because of being 35 and wanting another baby and not wanting to wait to try to get pregnant and a bunch of other stuff as well as her MIL in the hospital with covid 19. She’s doing okay but it’s been impossible to really talk to her about my plans without feeling guilty and anything I try to get opinions on, it’s like people could care less and at times I cry because it’s like you can’t plan a wedding now without being judged and then everyone is so emotional that no one wants to listen to a bride to be talk about wedding stuff and then it’s impossible to make choices by yourself when you don’t know everything and it really has made enjoying any of this which makes it worse and it sucks! Like I told the fiancé that I ordered some stuff from jjs House that can be stored for now or that I’ll need for my hair trial and his response was well it’s international shipping so good luck seeing it at all or maybe in a year. It says by the end of April it should be ready to ship but we will see. Amazon is taking months for some stuff and charging me out the ass and with money being tight I’m trying to save where I can and it’s like I don’t need comments related to my wedding and it being effected by this virus in more then one way... let me see if it ships and I get it and like it and then I’m happy and if something happens then we can fix it at that point but like I can’t even get these men in the wedding party to start looking at different tux or suit styles so they all match or my FH to start looking at what style suit or tux he likes 🤦‍♀️

October 17, 2020 here and I am really hoping we don’t have to postpone. We have been engaged for 3 years and just this year decided that we were finally going to get married. We were going to have the wedding last year but decided to buy our house instead so now that we are finally doing the dang thing I really don’t want to have to postpone. I think everything will be fine by October but my bigger concern is that there won’t be as much time to plan.

Out date is 10/18/20. We are starting to think about a plan B and decided we will make our decision in another month or two. We really want a fall wedding and are willing to wait until October 2021 if we have to. Many of our guests are from out of town and we don't want anyone to not come due to covid-19. I'm mostly worried about having time to finish planning with everything being closed. Also, what happens if things get better, then a second wave hits right before the wedding? We were going to go to the Galapagos in January for our honeymoon but even that is uncertain. The pandemic is giving me a lot of anxiety about the wedding, I don't want to put anyone at risk by not postponing.