October 2021 Brides- how’s everyone holding up?

October 23 wedding in L.A, and we have verified that 100% of our guest are vaccinated. We're also going to ask our guests to wear a mask during the indoor church ceremony, which shouldn't be an issue given we only have 20 people attending and many are medical professionals who are just as paranoid as us. We are skipping a ceremony in lieu of an outdoor lunch at a nearby winery.
We are actually having 2 ceremonies as my fiancee is Catholic and I'm Hindu. I'm less worried about the Catholic ceremony on Oct 23 bec all our guests are local, but the Hindu ceremony will be in NJ where my family lives and almost all of us are flying in. It's a larger group, but again all family who are vaccinated and will be wearing masks. We decided to rent an Airbnb for all our guests to prevent unnecessary exposure to anyone outside our bubble, but the fact that ppl have to fly in is a little nerve-wracking.
The good thing is that we designed both weddings to be flexible; we haven't committed to a certain number of guests in terms of food or venue, so if less ppl show up we won't really lose any $$. At this point I just want everyone to be safe and comfortable.

Late October wedding and I’m definitely feeling anxious. However we have decided to offer guests that aren’t vaccinated or that don’t want to be in a large crowd a virtual option. Hopefully anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable will decline the in person and decide to join us virtually.

October 15th… here in Dallas, Tx and I’m a little nervous with this Covid stuff. Not requiring guest to be vaccinated because my fiance and I aren’t. But we will see how this goes

Oct 2 2021 here and also concerned. Even more than people RSVPing “no” I’m concerned people will RSVP “yes” and then by October be afraid and not show up. Our wedding is also mostly outside. So when other places restrict number of guests ours won’t. This makes me nervous because if we are allowed to have 150 people and people don’t come we will still have to pay for our minimum of 150 people. And I don’t wanna reschedule because who knows what will happen next year or if we will be able to get a weekend. This is so stressful. I wish I could just cancel and do a backyard wedding at this point!

Ugh... Delta is the worst!! We're moving forward as planned for our October 9 wedding with our invites going out in the next week. I'm looking into live streaming the ceremony as an option for guests who do not feel comfortable attending. Currently, our plan is to ask guests to wear masks indoors regardless of vaccination status but we may re-evaluate and take further precautions depending on how things are closer to the wedding. We don't intend to cancel; we'll get married at our venue on October 9 whether it's with our full guest list or just the two of us.

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Ugh so sorry to hear you've had to reschedule twice now! Glad to hear most of your guests are vaccinated. Similar situation here, although I do have a few non-vaccinated family members who are going to take a covid test instead.

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Ugh so sorry to hear you've had to reschedule twice now! Glad to hear most of your guests are vaccinated. Similar situation here, although I do have a few non-vaccinated family members who are going to take a covid test instead.

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Yup exactly!! And I think it's totally valid if guest do want to back out. But I hope they don't!

We postponed from April 21 to October 21 and have now decided to push it to Oct 22. If I’m spending 20k on a wedding I want people to feel comfortable and safe. I just talked to newly
weds who admitted everyone in their July wedding pretty much got Covid but I guess it was ok since no one died??? Half of my family has immunity disorders so it’s just not fair to proceed and say “tough luck” if they can’t be there. My fiancé and I are personally aren’t that scared of it as we just had Covid, but we do care about putting others at risk in an obligatory event. It’s a really tough decision to make and there is no right answer. We agonized for weeks over it.

We are continuing with our October 16th 2021 wedding. We have a smaller guest count to begin with and our festivities are outdoors. Like you most if not all of our wedding guests are already vaccinated. The way I see it, we may never know when the world will return to "normal" so why not get married. We are taking precautions in the sense that we will have social distancing and masks are optional. I feel as though the people who wouldn't come because of Covid still wouldn't come whether we got the second wave or not. It's your day. Just be safe and have a wonderful wedding. Congratulations.

October 16, 2021 here. I am stressed as are most of you. This is a 2nd wedding for my fiance and I, a lot of our folks are older. We live in the NY Metro area and we believe that probably 99% of our guest list of 70 are vaccinated. We are having it at an indoor restaurant, I will ask the restaurant to make sure any staff is masked up and correctly. I will ask my couple of unvaccinated guests to get a covid test, either a PCR within 72 hours or possible 2 consecutive day rapid tests. We have 2 months for this to get better and I am praying for the best for all of us. Aruba awaits, I am looking forward to the wedding and the honeymoon. Trying to be optimistic.

With the numbers increasing in my area we are requiring our guests to be vaccinated or get tested 14 days prior to our wedding day

October 20th wedding here. Getting married in the Bahamas, but am freaking out at the increased cases. I want to have a plan b here. My fiance wants to postpone till next year.

Oct 10th our 3rd date, omg I feel the worry, We had a small ceremony in 2020 but wanted all our friends and family to come celebrate with us together

we've sent out our invites so excited everyday

waiting on the rsvps to come in. just maybe one or two a day, I'am thinking people are afraid of the covid the gathering of crowds. I'm going to call each one to make sure they feel comfortable enough to attend before my final count to the venue. Sooooo Stressful being a 2021 bride

My wedding is October 16th also. I'm starting to wonder if it's appropriate again to ask for vaccination status from my guests. I hate this! Hang in there fellow brides!

October 9 wedding. We eloped last year as everything shut down but hoped that by fall 2021 it would be safe to have a larger gathering with friends and family. Now I just feel paralyzed and can’t bring myself to even get our invitations printed (and yet, I need to get them out ASAP!).


We are cutting down the guest list and offering a livestream option. Weather permitting, the ceremony will be outside and the reception will be spread out indoors with options for everyone to venture outside as well. Just a short afternoon ceremony with a “cake and punch” style reception.

I’m concerned about Florida Covid delta cases and my few out of town guests coming 😭. It’s a beach wedding and reception but I’m terrified no one will show. I feel bad for setting the date this year.

10/23 here- Philly/NJ, estimating 100 guests. The city has started up with a mask mandate/proof of vax for indoor dining. Our reception is in NJ tho. Unfortunately there are a few key people who it looks like will refuse to get the vax. We booked a venue with a large covered patio and could switch the indoor part to another, larger covered patio with picnic tables if we had to- will be cold tho. As of now plan is keeping windows/doors open (there are a ton of windows, on 3 sides of the space, as well as 2 sets of double doors) and get that fresh air in. It was definitely a consideration in booking the venue. Also capacity is 200 so even if they restrict that hopefully we are ok. Really not looking forward to possibility of masks inside (of course, the non-vax people also refuse to wear masks).

Another concern I don't want to deal with but may have to is our setup- we are doing DIY food and plan was to do buffet/self serve drinks (wine/cider in boxes with taps, beer in cans, non-alky drinks in dispensers with taps, and small bottles of mead to toast on tables). What are people who planned on buffet without servers planning at this point?

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The vaccinated can bring it back to children and other vulnerable people. It's not just that the vaccinated won't get sick - it's sharing it with others who still can.

Ours is in ... Arkansas on Sept 28th. Am I stressed - yep. But I just pulled the trigger and we're doing a Zoom wedding a year after we delayed our wedding to avoid such things. It's going to be just the 2 of us and that's all we can do. And then, I'm going to back slowly away from all things wedding. But, the decision being made makes it all that much easier. Hang in there everyone!