October 2021 Brides- how’s everyone holding up?

Hi, same concerns here. We are hoping that everyone comes through on our October 3rd date.

October 1st and I'm also nervous about the people who have RSVP'd already and will choose to back out at the last minute. We're requiring vaccine proof and negative test results to attend, but it's still very worrisome because I would hate to be the cause of someone bringing it back to their vulnerable family members. 37 days to goooo....

Postponed from October 2020 to October 2021. Was feeling good up until recently with the delta variant. We are asking for those that can get vaccinated to be to try and have the safest wedding possible. We reinstated a mask mandate here so now I’m expecting that at my wedding. Still getting married no matter what our wedding has to look like.

Unless our state puts restrictions to where we can't have our wedding we will still have it. We are leaving it up to the guests on whether they want to come or not. Our ceremony is outside and we can easily move the table for the reception outside. We are having both at the same location. If it comes down to us having to postpone we are still going to get married and just do a renewal when we reschedule it.

Hi there! I’m so sorry to here that you had to postpone your wedding a whole year! I hope you don’t have to go through that again 😔
I’ve had to extend my engagement also and it’s really not fun :/
I am also getting married October 16, 2021…TWIN! 😄
We sent out our invitations this month and have had a few people RSVP. But we said the deadline is today so I’m hoping more people RSVP. I have family from out state who have yet to respond. My fear is that more people will get sick because of cold and flu season coming around and our honeymoon will get postponed. Let’s pray that businesses don’t close up again! Ya girl wants to go to Disneyland 😅

I feel all of you!!! We were supposed to have our wedding on October 23, 2020 and had to postpone our wedding for this year for October 22, 2021. I know that the Delta Varient is still going around and I'm scared and stressed at the same time. But I am also not going to postpone our wedding celebration again nope!!! Will not do that we will get married one way of the other!!! I just cannot!!! I will have my precautions and post a sign saying stay 6 feet apart when possible and wear a mask when possible and plus it's outdoors venue where the guests can move around

View Quoted Comment October 15 here too. 😊

So nice to know I'm not alone in all the anxiety! Thank you to everyone who responded. We recently decided to require all of our guests be vaccinated to attend our wedding celebration next month and sent out an email to all of our guests informing them. Unfortunately, a few of my extended family members have backed out since they are unwilling to be vaccinated but most of our close friends and family were very supportive. Now we feel a lot better knowing that at least if someone gets sick from attending our wedding, their symptoms will likely be mild and the risk of transmission is less likely in the first place. It still sucks that we even have to make these decisions. I envy all the couples who got married before 2020 !

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Great to hear you requested everyone be vaccinated. And regarding masks, at this point I think most people are used to wearing them. An extra piece of cloth will not ruin the magic of the day!

Hey! Few weeks since last post, anxiety is rreal high.

We wish we had the emotional capacity right now to ask everyone to be vaxxed and enforce it- we have people on both camps. But we REALLY want to not be police and hope everyone will make smart choices, because, I guess we are naive idealists. Ugh.

We had one person freak out on us about the vax how we are all brainwashed/X politician is the answer to everything, blah blah crazy shiz, , they were uninvited (fiance's only friend). One of fiance's siblings + partner refuse to get vaxxed. Now we found out another sibling is most likely lying that they got it, which is super upsetting since it sounds like that person's partner is in the dark about it. On the other side so many of my friends are saying they don't want to do anything inside let alone have any unvaxxed people- unfortunately this is the band I play in and now maybe we don't have live music anymore? UGH. We have tried REALLY hard to make things ok (venue with 20-30 windows that open, sanitizer everywhere, disposable stuff, gloves and extra tongs/etc for serving, outdoor option under a patio and picnic tables but some feel that's not enough.

Besides the normal wedding nonsense (not TOO much, but still hard to get our moms to understand fully that this is a CASUAL AND CHILL event. In theory, anyway). also trying to make sure they understand the reality of covid, like we might have to do a vax requirement or testing/masks for unvaxxed. They keep inviting unvaxxed people to prewedding events before asking us and then it puts us in a hard position because we have to uninvite them in some cases since the things were inside, or people already asked if the thing would be only vaxxed people.

It's like every couple hours we are almost on the verge of cancelling everything, but then that would suck hard too, and we honestly have no way to know if anything will change (including the unvaxxed people- if they'd get vaxxed) by next year or not. I do know it would be more likely some of my friends who don't want to/can't travel right now could make it next year for instance, but again not definite.

It is definitely at the point where they whole thing is a headache and not fun

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I am so sorry to hear you are so stressed. I can totally relate to the feeling of not wanting to police your wedding guests. I think that asking your unvaccinated guests to get tested before is very reasonable. They will still be of course putting themselves at risk, but as long as they are aware of and comfortable with those risks they won't be putting others in harms way by showing up with an active infection.

Sending you lots of love. It will turn out to be a very special day, no matter what you decide. Remember that this is YOUR wedding. And if your family and friends are not understanding of the decisions you make for your day, then maybe they aren't that great of friends in the first place.