October brides-postpone or holding on

Hello, we are nervous, but we have taken all the necessary precautions to ensure our date stays our date. We picked 10/17 and our Venue has given us the guidelines for everything and our weddings is relativily small anyway (2/3rds are family and about 100 guests) We know that some people wont be coming, but the good news is, everything is still going to plan so far. if things change (which we are hoping it doesnt) we will have to reevaluate everything and go from there, but for no, everything is still on schedule!

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I feel the same way you do. My wedding is supposed to be 10/16/20 and I just feel extremely anxious about it all, which also didn't start until this week. I am just concerned, when do I make the final call to postpone or move forward

View Quoted Comment I am not an October Bride, but my wedding is scheduled for 9/25/2020. I am in Pa and although things seem to be fine for us right now, who knows how it will be in a few months.


At this point out wedding venue has been open since end of June and has had 2 weddings so far and they have a social distance plan in place. My fiancé and I have had conversations at length at what to do. We have decided as long as we are open and able we will have our wedding. Those that are willing to and want to be there will be. It’s a hard decision to make, but we are at the mercy of our venue because we have put the majority of payments down prior to the pandemic and if we change to a later date we will be charged more. I wish all you brides the best. I hope they can go off as you have planned.

We have had to postpone ours twice we are shooting for October but events in the city that were scheduled in November have been cancelled so I'm sure we will have to postpone again. We are considered a hotspot in our county alone. Best of wishes to you all.

We just decided to postpone to next October, luckily our same weekend was open and all our vendors were available. I'm in CT (venue in NY) and we've been really good in terms of hospitalizations and deaths going down, but I didn't know what school openings would bring, if we'd get another spike, if people would even come and if those traveling from hot spots would have to quarantine for 14 days prior (fiances grandfather is in FL, a groomsman is in LA and a bridesmaid is in NC). Also, our venue wasn't sure if we'd even be allowed to have a dance floor or be able to have a bar. Everything would be served which means no mingling, more waitstaff and more money. Didn't sound like a fun time to me! We also would have to get a tent large enough to hold everyone (~200 ppl, mostly family so it's hard to cut down guest list) and Oct is so unpredictable here it could be sunny and 80 or we could have snow. We are still having our church ceremony this year (Oct 17) and getting legally married with just immediate family and our MOH and best man. I'm not wearing my dress until next year that way everyone can see it, we'll just do a short ceremony at the venue before the reception. I feel so much more relieved and less stressed now that we've decided to postpone. It's a bummer, but everyone is going through it so I'm just trying to stay positive! It'll be a REALLY good 1st Anniversary party

Postponed - we went from October 25, 2020 to November 14, 2021. I couldn't take the anxiety leading up to it anymore, especially with us having our wedding in Florida.

Our date is 10/3/20. We've gone back and forth on postponing, and are currently planning to move forward with this October. Of those of you waiting until August to make a final decision on postponing, have you already sent out invitations? We have been waiting to send invitations because we haven't felt confident either way on the date. I'm curious if others are in the same situation or if you've sent out invites with the plan to send out postponement cards if that decision is made.

My date is October 10. It really all depends where your wedding is, but my fiancé and I, plus majority of our guests live in Pittsburgh which is one of the hot spots in Pennsylvania. But our venue is almost 2 hours north of here in a much smaller town closer to my side of the family where there hasn’t been too many cases. Our venue isn’t limiting anything and so far most of our guests have no concerns and are exciting about the wedding! Honestly the pandemic will likely continue into next year as well so I feel like even postponing would stress me out because it’s all unknown. It’s a virus, it’s not going to go away even with a vaccine. And who knows when we will even have a vaccine. All I know is if we have to we will downsize the wedding but we will get married on our date regardless of what it ends up looking like. Honestly at this point with the stress of COVID I’m just ready to be married and not have to worry about this one day! Of course I want it to be everything I’ve planned for 2 years but as long as I get to marry my bestfriend, that’s really all that matters.

So I know I put earlier that we were still holding out but debating. Well, today we made the decision to cancel our current venue and do an intimate/small wedding in our city (Las Vegas) with our immediate families and bridal party, and then host a big celebration next year at some date to be announced. We just feel like it will be better for everyone and we are really at peace with this decision and believe that others will be very supportive of it given the current situation around us all. We plan to do a Zoom style wedding or Facebook Live so others can be a part of it even tho they cannot physically be there. On the plus side we can now get married sooner if we want

View Quoted Comment In the same boat here! We are sending invitation (mainly cause we got them so early and they are already sealed) but we made a note on our website to check back along with noting invites are being sent to 145 people. We’re in central Ohio. We will be calling guests when we (assuming this absolutely happens) will need to make a cut of about 50 (guest list is 145 now). We figured by getting invites out this week, it may allow some people to ‘remove themselves’ from the changing environment taking some of the harder decisions on who to remove out of our hands.

I completely know how you feel! My original date was August 21st, but I postponed to April 23rd of next year. I would wait until August before you really start worrying.
I must say though, as someone who talked to their venue already, if you do postponed I would do it ASAP. When I called my wedding coordinator, she said wedding postponements were booking up quick for next year. It might be different in your area, but just be aware

View Quoted Comment Ours was August 21 as well! Now trying to postpone for June of 2021

View Quoted Comment Oh really? So, yeah you're in the same boat as me 😕 Dang, I feel so bad for everyone who planned on getting married next year. All the 2020 brides are pushing their dates back. I hope you were able to lock June in!

View Quoted Comment Same! Part of postponing I think was like, I don't want to exhaust our guests to continue changing plans. Everyone has been so supportive that this year is probably a no go, I was surprised and really thankful!

View Quoted Comment Same here. I’m glad someone is in my boar

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Hi Audrea, I'm also a 10/3/2020 bride! My grandma's dementia is worsening and I really want her to be a part of this moment with me. We decided to opt for a more intimate ceremony and cutting the guest list by more than half. But we've made a list A and B (list A being very close friends and family and list B the other guests we initially invited). I let everyone know about the change for a more intimate ceremony.

I sent out invites to list A and gave them till August 10th to RSVP. Based upon that number, I may add some people from list B if some people cancel. Once we get a true sense of the guest count, I will send a message to the remaining list B guests that we are limiting the # of guests.

I am also doing masks and hand sanitizers as wedding favors and will require people to wear masks especially if there is any dancing involved. Lots of stress, but trying to take as much precautions as possible!

We finally decided to postpone. We are in Los Angeles and things keep getting worse here, so it started to feel like there was no way we could make sure everyone is safe, or even feel confident we will be allowed to have our event by October. I also couldn't get over the no-dancing/no-mingling that is currently in place. We are very sad, but I think it will be for the best in the long-run. Hopefully rescheduling everything goes smoothly. Love and support to all you Fall brides!

Add us to the postponing pile. We're in NYC and while things are getting better here, there are so many restrictions with people coming to NYC from the rest of the country. Also, we still haven't got to the point where there's any indoor dining, so our indoor wedding for a sizable group probably wouldn't happen by 10/2. As we've told people they have sounded relieved, and it's nice to not have to stress over it anymore. Hugs to you all!

I'm so sorry we are all going through this right now. I can feel some comfort that we are all unfortunately dealing with the same feelings and lamentations and can empathize together.


I agree the fun of planning has really just been completely deflated since this whole thing and i just keep thinking out of all the years it had to happen the one year we decide to marry. Cant ever have anything go right 😭
still trying to stay level headed and positive through it though... as the date draws nearer though its getting harder and harder to do it.
Our plan has been to keep planning along until they say we can't. And when they say we cant, we will still marry anyway privately and push the big day to when we can. We talked to our venue and vendors and theyre ok to keep moving forward currently. So are our families and our close friends, we havent asked the rest of the guest list yet. And up here in NY, our counts have finally stabilized and we are in phase 4 of reopening...
Now we are getting ready to order invites. But despite the encouragement, im nervous to do so especially when i hear more and more ppl postponing theirs and companies pushing reopening further down. We also are nervous about low turnout, It would be pretty devastating to see more no's than yeses. But at the same time the uncertainty of when this will ever end...
Plus we keep thinking what if ppl come and get sick? We'd never forgive ourselves and thats no way to start a marriage knowing u hurt everyone u love just for a party...
But we concluded that this is a lot of money and time and effort for us and we want it done right, so our conclusion is to reach out to our guests and find out if theyre willing to come or not and make our decision from there.
For us, whats final though is that we are marrying that day no matter what.

Those of you who are not postponing: have you been able to get insurance? I haven’t even tried but we are/were required by our venue when we signed the contract. I feel like it’ll be impossible