October brides-postpone or holding on

Unfortunately or fortunately (depending on which point in particular you look at) we scratched a traditional wedding and are eloping. We decided once we realized far too many of our family members refused to wear masks. We plan to make up for it a few years from now with a big badass housewarming party when we buy our house!

I'm in Northern CA and still holding on. We're getting married on 10/10 and really don't want to postpone. I have thought about it though, and played out different scenarios in my head, but it's just not what we want to do. We've been together for ten years, since high school, and this fall will be our eleventh year together. We're ready to start a family, and move on in this new decade... We've always wanted an intimate wedding with just our close family and friends, so I'm also not going to let COVID stop us. If it comes to it, our plan B will be to elope in our backyard.

Personally, I was good and moving along with wedding planning up until this weekend. I had my bridal shower( that was originally planned for early April,) many guests RSVPD for the shower, unfortunately other circumstances (not all covid related) occurred and attendance was low. This event has caused an upheaval of plans between me and FH. OUR DATE: 10/11/2020
As of today we are reviewing plans for reception next year and small intimate ceramoney with a few close friends and immediate family. It is a good amount to wrap my head around, but this is what I wanted from before our engagement last year. In many ways this COVID was a blessing. I can tell people to stay home, be comfortable and safe and remind them it is truly the thought that counts most and their well wishes, in an ideal world, I'd love for everyone to attend our nuptials. But all that really matters to me is having close family to witness our nuptials and next phase of life with my husband. Oh and the honeymoon 🤷🏽‍♀️❤️

View Quoted Comment I’m here in Texas as well. Our date is October 16th. I’m trying to stay positive. With the pandemic spiking it just takes all the fun out of planning. Will make a decision by the end of August.

Well we aren’t necessarily doing either. We are revising and changing things as needed (such as cutting our guest count a smidge to meet occupancy restrictions), and planning additional “favors” such as masks & personalized hand sanitizers. We are also trying to plan on how to keep everyone social distanced. However we are still concerned for everyone’s safety and well-being and feel a little nervous that these measures may not be enough, so we’ve also devised a plan B to have an even smaller wedding with just our parents present and a larger celebration next year.

We have a plan C to postpone alltogether but that would be if we absolutely could not have our plan B (such as the courthouse is closed and we can’t obtain a marriage license).

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That's one of my thoughts as well. I'm wondering how many guest would attend, especially because my state is now considered a hot spot.

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I totally understand, the date we picked is centered around our 5 years of being together and I plan on going back to school soon for my masters.

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Yeah my bach was supposed to be the end of July and I highly doubt that will happen, which lowkey I wouldn't mind due to all these cases striking around me. I love your thought process behind everything. We are actually still thinking about getting married on our original date of 10/10 and having something big next year.

We were also trying to hold on. Cutting our list makes me want to cringe because it was hard cutting it to begin with before COVID hit.


We have decided that if anything we’ll just get married in our backyard and order pizza and wings with a intimate group. And then have the big party next year. My fiancée’ is worried that the people invited to the ceremony (only family and bridal party and souses) would maybe not want do this technically twice. It I wouldn’t ask our bridal party to get dolled up both times. Hope that makes sense.
Just a lot to think about. Also, my matrons have no clue where we can have a bridal shower and we’re scared if we book one thing it might get cancelled anyways. I wanna hold on but I’m scared too. Don’t k ow what to do yet.

View Quoted Comment Traveling is tricky too. Apparently certain states are requiring the 2 week Quarentine before and maybe after you travel? So wine was telling me about it so I’m not 100% sure.

10/4/20 SoCal bride here and my venue is closed. We’re waiting until August 1st to decide. What’s crazy is the venue has been calling for payment and can not guarantee that we will even be able to have our wedding there. They said well the money is good for a year. There’s other venues that are open that we could possibly switch to. Our guest count is 100 and all family on both sides with no one traveling in,

We will still be having the wedding since receptions in Ohio are permitted as long as we social distance. We wouldn’t be able to postpone without a hefty fee anyway.


The venue is taking care of all the social distance guidelines and I think we will be reducing the guest count to allow more distancing and keep it mainly family and closest friends. Venue holds 250, able to hold 135 for distancing, and I’m thinking of having about 80-100 guests. There will be sanitizers and masks.

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I hate that too. Our Venue just recently opened up and I've been making payments with uncertanity due to cases rising in my area and as of last week, we are not considered a hot spot. I sent them an email last night to see what our options are. Hoping to hear back from them today.

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I just feel like I'm sitting in limbo and that's a major stressor. Just waiting to hear back from the venue

View Quoted Comment That’s honestly a really good way of seeing it.

View Quoted Comment The uncertainty is wasn’t driving me crazy. Like I can’t even get excited at this point.

View Quoted Comment Question: so do you believe and are you confident that your guests will be receptive to attending a reception a year or so after? I have often had the mindset that once the couple is married, yes I am happy for them and all the well wishes in the world, but why spend the money to arrive when already married. Does that make sense?

View Quoted Comment I just had to giggle at you saying "2 week quarantine" our honeymoon is to take place in colorado, hopefully out in nowhere. Lol we have no problem staying in honeymooning. Lol. And we are such homebodies in the first place. We decided on state travel vs international last year, because we didn't want to be so tired from traveling (Light humor)


2020 brides are in such a unique situation. The biggest thing I believe we can all do is be as flexible as possible. I'm thinking we have all been given a valid excuse to trim the guest list and really personalize our nuptials and ceremony

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Exactly!!!!

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Yeah I get you, but with the ages of some of our family members I think they will feel better traveling when our case load is not as high and most are pretty local. Plus its a thing of not having my grandparents that are in their seventies, an asthmatic younger brother and my father in law who is diabetic not being able to attend. I would feel better when things look a little better.