October brides-postpone or holding on

Wr moved ours to October 24 2021. Wayyyy too much going on. I think we'll end up cutting the list down too as well.

View Quoted Comment Yess!!! Perfect ❤❤ I wish y'all the best of luck and soooo many years of love and happiness !

My wedding was set for October 30th 2020 and we were planning to go ahead as planned until last week. We had a 200 guest out of state wedding planned and the uncertainty of it all was just becoming too much especially with traveling. We're now having a micro wedding on our original date and postponing a reception for a later date for extended family and friends. I was planning to wait until August to make my decision too but honestly the stress and nerves was seriously starting to affect me. Plus I work in healthcare and I hear about COVID every single night which makes it hard to get a break.

I hope whatever you guys chose, everything works out for the best. I know since I've decided to postpone, but still have a small wedding to get married without a delay has made me feel 10x better.

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That's what we are planning is to continue and maybe do custom masks for part of their favors for the sake of photos and such also. We did invite 120 persons originally because that was the number we were allowed but I figure about 95-100 are planning to attend based off what I am learning from my guests. They are using our wedding as something they can look forward to during this crazy season. As for dancing, no they didn't say anything about no dancing, but then again if they did we would break that rule as our people love to dance haha.

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I was originally 10/31/20. Moved to 10/17/20 having an outdoor ceremony then a small gathering at my house after with some food/drinks for 10 or so people. I cancelled my reception all together, I am not having anything big next year. For me i don't know. I wanted the wedding and traditional reception. Now that doesn't look like it will even be possible until mid/late next year. I wanted it kept small anyway and 95% of my guests were over 50 lol. I am very happy with my decision, and I know I am not alone and that gives me some solace. ((virtual hugs)) to all of the 2020 brides.

View Quoted Comment We finally decided to postpone until next year. Same month, different day, but we’re still in love. So, yeah some changes and un-planning to plan again but knowing that our friends and family can all try and hopefully come next year versus some and less this year just makes us feel better. We reached out to our immediate family and our bridal party, and the overall consensus was a big sigh of relief. TONS of support and ‘you do whatever makes you happy, we’re here for you no matter what.’ But once we knew they were a little relieved that we were going to wait for the ‘big day’ until 2021 we felt like we made the right choice. Backyard nuptials still on for 10/10/20 with our best friend as the officiant and then next year big celebration!!


I wish nothing but all the best for anyone moving forward. I hope this all passes, truly. It’s been more added stress than needed, for sure.

View Quoted Comment We're 10/16 as well. I've been freaking out everyday for a while. We're in NY. We already know family and friends from out of state won't be able to come, but FH thinks it will just be better to have a small reception with local friends and then later we can go to Cali to have a celebration with my family. I jus feel like I need someone to tell me what to do.

Mine is in early September in very rural PA. These rising numbers have me concerned but we have literally everything planned already, we have like 130 guests maybe, and everything is going to be outside in a wide open area. We are still going ahead with plans as of right now, but I cant say it doesn't make me nervous. 😬 I've added a blurb to my website encouraging guests to get tested before coming and to bring a mask. Most guests are local, but there will be a few outliers and that's the only part that scares me a little.

View Quoted Comment Have you contacted your vendor at all to see if some of the September and October weddings are still trying to ride it out? I would wait and see, I feel like it may all work out and to not make a final decision until you are 100% about what YOU want girl.

View Quoted Comment My venue aaid they're still on. We alrwady were planning a small wedding, about 50 people. Mostly family and friends from out of state including their plus ones. My venue has three different rooms and we were going to use the smallest, but i asked yesterday if we could use the largest one because then we could use every other table and have less people at a table. Also the dance floor is much bigger. The venue said yes. I still haven't heard what the guidelines so far in NY, but I know things could change in a week.

10/9 bride (originally 5/16) in northern VA. Cases here are trending downward and with phase 3 in effect today, our venue can host up to 250 guests and allow dancing. Our venue is an outdoor/tent space and we were expecting less than 100 pre-Covid, so as of right now we are planning to go forward (another consideration is that we don’t have too many guests that aren’t within driving distance). We know our number will decrease even more, but It’s hard to imagine postponing again, and my venue has very few 2021 dates (haven’t even touched base with vendors on their availability). It’s also hard to predict where we will be with this next year. However, we will of course revisit if cases spike/shutdowns have to take place again.

View Quoted Comment Awesome! I really hope it works out for you!!

10/10 here! We’re holding strong. Our venue just sent us guidelines and even if we end up not getting married with a huge wedding we will most likely elope and then have a party when it’s a safer time. So far all our guests have said that they’ve booked tickets and are excited. So if anything we’re the ones who are more concerned

10/10/2020 bride here. But today we started contacting our vendors to reschedule our wedding to October 10 of next year. At first we wanted to wait until August to make the final decision but since half of our guests are coming from different parts of the world it would be difficult for them to wait till later to book for flights and acquire visa (for those who don't have it yet). Also I'm stuck in the Philippines because of the travel ban that my country has implemented. We also have our nieces and nephews as part of the entourage so we don't want to risk their health and everybody else.

We still plan to get married on our original wedding date but maybe with just our closest family members present, if I'm allowed to fly out by then. We've always wanted an intimate wedding 100 pax max so we really thought hard on who to invite so we really don't want to cut our guest list to 10-25 just so we can push through. It's also nice to think that our big celebration next year would be a reunion, anniversary and renewal of vows of some sort.

It was a little disappointing as we have already finished all the preparations as early as last year but I feel relieved that our guest wouldn't feel stressed about coming to our wedding. We don't want them wearing masks on the pictures and guessing who's who. We want it to be a joyous occasion with people dancing and socializing.

Here comes my dilemma, all my vendors have agreed to reschedule without any additional fee except for my photographer. She said that prices for weddings next year has increased, that I have to pay for the difference. Also she wanted me to pay for changing fee since its not within the same calendar year (moving the wedding to October 10, 2021). It says on the contract that “Reschedule must be within the same calendar year of 12 months. A new retainer will be made if date change is made for 1 year after the agreed upon wedding date.” So I guess unless I change the date to October 09, 2021 I will have to pay for these extra fees that she mentioned. Should I wait for the “additional fees” or move on to another photographer and just let her have the retainer. I know that times are hard, it is for everyone. I was just hoping that she would be considerate like the other vendors. I appreciate any insight. Thank you! Stay safe!

Ps. Sorry for the very long post!

We're scheduled for 10/25/20 and we're still holding out hope. We're in NY and right now we can only have groups of 50 TOTAL and that won't work for us. We've discussed postponing if we have to - and, while we aren't happy about it, it's honestly just something we'll have to come to terms with. We're waiting until last week of August/first week of September to make the final call.

However, I've already spoken to our officiant and he'll be marrying us on our original date with a few family members in attendance (parents mostly). And then he was open to completing the entire ceremony at our postponed date.

Ain't no dang COVID getting in the way of me going from Miss to Mrs on schedule!

Hi Ti’Anna!
Holding up as well. We’ve postponed our wedding to May 2021. We’re a HOT STATE! In Florida and I am not sure where we stand. I don’t even think our courts are open to order marriage licenses. I have all our things in the guest room and it hard to go in there. I literately don’t even care to go through the big wedding next year. Especially now that we will have COVID-19 till possible June/July 2021 and ours is in May 2021. If we did not already have invested all this money and won’t get it back if we cancel I would cancel. Oh my! Reading this sounds HORRIBLE! I am so sorry. I want to be upbeat and happy during this planning process. Ladies let’s try to turn our frowns upside down and make lemonade out of lemons!!!

View Quoted Comment My daughter's wedding is in August in NoCal and fortunately ceremony and reception is outdoors. For ceremony, guests will wear masks with empty seats between family/social groups. Guests will wear masks while in buffet line (catered will serve guests will masked

Tables will be 6 feet apart with seating based on family and social groups. It is treated as an outdoor dining facility.

We were Oct 24,2020 and postponed to Fall of 2021. Super happy with our choice, it’s taken a lot of stress off with all of the unknown of covid. Best of luck to you!

10/24/20 bride here, and we are so conflicted on what to do! My venue is ready to go full steam ahead. We’re in central CA, but the venue is up in the foothills where the cases are fewer. Part of me just wants to move forward as planned and let it be what it’ll be, but the other part of me wants to wait so we can have the day we envisioned. We recently have started tossing around the idea of just doing immediate family and our bridal party, but it definitely bums me out that this isn’t playing out how I had dreamed it would. I’m to the point where I just feel so incredibly stressed. Initially, we were going to wait until August to decide, but now I just want to make a decision so I can have peace of mind. I almost wish someone would just tell me what to do.